Re: I'm a bad moderator. - Tom

[Guest guest]

Tom-

Your work on the question Am I bad moderator had a charge for me. I'm

not sure about this - my - response back to you below. I think in

areas of my communication, I'm sharing my judgements of you without

doing the work on them or questioning them. I don't know how to not

do this and say what I feel like saying, but I'm increasingly

realizing that this is not a peaceful way of being.

So with that in mind....

Tom Barron wrote:

> " I'm not keeping the list on topic. I'm a bad moderator. "

I appreciate how you appear to be feeling - Carol's post on another

board was for me also a nice wake up look. Your wording - I'm a bad

moderator - is so harsh for me - I FEEL like I might be a bad

moderator - keeps it as a layer not the core of who you are - much

kinder language to me.

>

> f What do I think I would have? What I think I would like to have

> is...

> - less conflict

> - everybody happy (does that sound like a dictator or what?)

> - more people doing The Work (more dictating)

> - less theoretical discussion and more focus on meeting folks

> where they are (more dictating

Eckhardt Tolle, nne on, etc. says that the purpose of you

being here is to arrive at your own happiness and move the world

towards happiness. So for me, your word dictator is too harsh but the

word facilitator fits for me.

If I understand it rightly, the object of the four questions is to

take us deep inside of ourselves and confront everything that robs us

of our peace. As a facilitator is it not your job to simply notice

when someone abandons going inside themself and moves into external

dissertations to gently move them back to self inquiry?

>

> - The list is keeping itself on topic. (could be -- the list keeps

> itself on whatever topic it's on right now.)

> - I'm not keeping myself on topic. (not when I post off-topic

> messages)

> - I'm not a bad moderator. (what do I know?)

> - I'm just a moderator, neither good nor bad. (what do I know?)

> - I'm a good moderator. (I have pretty much cut out the spam

> - I'm not keeping my thinking on topic. (it wanders all over the

> place.

> - I am willing for the list to be off topic.

> - I look forward to the list being off topic. (if I judge the list

> off topic and it hurts, I'll inquire)

> - I am willing to be thought a bad moderator, by myself or others.

> - I look forward to being thought a bad moderator, by myself or

> others. (it'll put me back into The Work)

>

> love,

> Tom

This for me sounds like a list to completely annihilate any

responsibility to moderate - is it reasonable to expect that

sometimes, someone will get off task and if you notice it to gently

call them on it and ask them to return to SELF inquiry not continued

abandonment of self and judgement of others?

These are my thoughts about your work, Tom Terrific.

Blessings - Jan

[Guest guest]

" jan " wrote:

> Tom-

> Your work on the question Am I bad moderator had a charge for me. I'm

> not sure about this - my - response back to you below. I think in

> areas of my communication, I'm sharing my judgements of you without

> doing the work on them or questioning them. I don't know how to not

> do this and say what I feel like saying, but I'm increasingly

> realizing that this is not a peaceful way of being.

>

> So with that in mind....

and then I went on to judge, judge, judge and abandon myself - like

you need me to point out where you are " off the mark " ....

I laugh - I'm getting this - almost the moment I'm doing it, but not

quite - how's it for you over there?

Jan

[Guest guest]

" and then I went on to judge, judge, judge and abandon myself - like

you need me to point out where you are " off the mark " .... " Jan

I see your ability to perceive and judge as valuable, but a tyrant

when it takes over the whole show. As for fancying Clooney

lookalikes - I love our biology. It's the dna - we see a suitable

mate for our future children, and away with the hormones - part of

the thoughtmill is dna talking. My dna still checks out mammary

glands and child-bearing capacity sometimes ;-) Off to do

Christmas, love Tim