Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 **You need to be healed. 1. Is it true? Yes. You're in pain and you're suffering. You need healing! 2. Can you absolutely know that it's true? No. I can't know what's best for your path. I can't even know that you're in pain and you're suffering. Geeze...that's a big weight off my world. 3. How do you react when you think the thought? I want to fix you, big time. I claim to know the best ways to do it. (talking about your feelings with me, doing inquiry, letting yourself cry.) I want to guide you in your healing...be a part of it. I have an agenda when I'm with you. I take pity on you -- I smother you with kindness, if not outwardly, definitley in my head. It's like: I'm the one who's not suffering, so I'm in a perfect place to help you. Grab on! I'm frustrated when you don't accept my offers. I have this ultra soft gentle voice because I don't want to be invasive...and I use that voice when I'm being invasive!! I treat you like there's something wrong with you. I walk around our home like I'm on eggshells. I feel helpless for not being able to do something. I'm afraid of making you feel worse. I get so frustrated when I think you're avoiding your issues. I fear the stuff creeping up again if you don't heal with it now. I go into the future, in a major way. I'm not available to love you as you are right now. *sigh 4. Who would you be without the thought? *deep breath... I would be completely accepting of where you are right now. I would shower you with love because that's what's naturally there. I would speak softly to you if that's what I did...and not because I'm afraid. I would enjoy myself freely in our home. I would hear what you're saying. If you said something to me about the way you are, I wouldn't want to change it. I would honor your wishes about the way you're handling yourself. Right now I feel so much more open without the thought! I would look at you on the bed and smile! : ) I would be in my own business, and leaving you (fully capable One that you are) to take care of your business (or not!) (I'm having so much fun with this right now...I'm amazed!) I would be present right here...noticing the markers on my desk all full of colors, admiring the blue theme of Windows and AOL, really experiencing colors! I feel alive again. I feel so much love for you. TA> You do not need to be healed. (Sweetie, you are just fine the way you are. Mmmm.) TA> You need to be ________. This is not my business. TA> I can ask you if you need anything and see if I'm available. Feels really good! TA> I need to be healed. (Yeah, when I think you do, I've got a problem...and I've been feeling stress about this for sure! I'm so glad to be looking at my stressful thoughts.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2003 Report Share Posted July 31, 2003 Dear Mona, This was a wonderful piece of work. That is my story and I am sticking to it. My wife and I were discussing empathy tonight. We decided that by emphathisng with another, in other words, sharing their pain, we only made two people think they had a problem. Actually, when investigated, empathy and sympathy turns out to be an attack on them and ourselves. It is belittling for both. I loved where you said " I can ask you if you need anything and see if I'm available. " That is great! That is all that is necessary. Thanks, Steve D. > **You need to be healed. > > 1. Is it true? Yes. You're in pain and you're suffering. You need healing! > > 2. Can you absolutely know that it's true? No. I can't know what's best for > your path. I can't even know that you're in pain and you're suffering. > Geeze...that's a big weight off my world. > > 3. How do you react when you think the thought? > > I want to fix you, big time. > I claim to know the best ways to do it. (talking about your feelings with me, > doing inquiry, letting yourself cry.) > I want to guide you in your healing...be a part of it. > I have an agenda when I'm with you. > I take pity on you -- I smother you with kindness, if not outwardly, > definitley in my head. > It's like: I'm the one who's not suffering, so I'm in a perfect place to help > you. Grab on! > I'm frustrated when you don't accept my offers. > I have this ultra soft gentle voice because I don't want to be invasive...and > I use that voice when I'm being invasive!! > I treat you like there's something wrong with you. > I walk around our home like I'm on eggshells. > I feel helpless for not being able to do something. > I'm afraid of making you feel worse. > I get so frustrated when I think you're avoiding your issues. > I fear the stuff creeping up again if you don't heal with it now. > I go into the future, in a major way. > I'm not available to love you as you are right now. > *sigh > > 4. Who would you be without the thought? > > *deep breath... > I would be completely accepting of where you are right now. > I would shower you with love because that's what's naturally there. > I would speak softly to you if that's what I did...and not because I'm afraid. > I would enjoy myself freely in our home. > I would hear what you're saying. > If you said something to me about the way you are, I wouldn't want to change > it. > I would honor your wishes about the way you're handling yourself. > Right now I feel so much more open without the thought! > I would look at you on the bed and smile! : ) > I would be in my own business, and leaving you (fully capable One that you > are) to take care of your business (or not!) > (I'm having so much fun with this right now...I'm amazed!) > I would be present right here...noticing the markers on my desk all full of > colors, admiring the blue theme of Windows and AOL, really experiencing colors! > I feel alive again. > I feel so much love for you. > > TA> You do not need to be healed. (Sweetie, you are just fine the way you > are. Mmmm.) > TA> You need to be ________. This is not my business. > TA> I can ask you if you need anything and see if I'm available. Feels really > good! > TA> I need to be healed. (Yeah, when I think you do, I've got a problem...and > I've been feeling stress about this for sure! I'm so glad to be looking at my > stressful thoughts.) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2003 Report Share Posted August 1, 2003 " SteveDaily " wrote: > Dear Mona, > > This was a wonderful piece of work. That is my story and I am > sticking to it. My wife and I were discussing empathy tonight. We > decided that by emphathisng with another, in other words, sharing > their pain, we only made two people think they had a problem. > Actually, when investigated, empathy and sympathy turns out to be an > attack on them and ourselves. It is belittling for both. I loved > where you said " I can ask you if you need anything and see if I'm > available. " That is great! That is all that is necessary. > > Thanks, Steve D. Two feeling posts....I'm feeling my way around....emotions/feelings. I'm getting away from the honoring my head moment. There's a place in me that simply responds without the process. It feels natural, not head based - heart based - closer to my feeling world - no stories there - it simply knows.....new for me.....still exploring - Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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