Re: Rapid decline...Sharon.....Abby

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Hi Abby-

Your writing the conversation you had with your dad brought tears to

my eyes. (funny how things sem to do that to me so much more since

LBD entered into my life)

Bless his heart for feeling bad for you and your family. Sounds just

like my mom. Always worrying about us before herself.

It sounds like he knows he'll need help, he's just not ready to admit

to it yet. Must be so hard for him being the " man " of the house for

years and now needs care.

I'm jealous of your sister going to Vegas. I was divorced for 5 years

and meet a wonderful guy and we got engaged in Vegas (down on 1 knee

in front of Caesar's Palace by the fountain!) and married there the

next year. Had the big wedding the first time and didn't want the

stress the 2nd and hopefully last time. LOL

We were to go again this April but i can't leave mom.

Sorry your sister leaving will put stress in your life tho.

I hope everything works out. Your mom and dad are very blessed with

you as a daughter Abby. This disease can really take a toll on

families. Don't we know that all ready!

Hoping good days are ahead of you!

Hugs-

Sharon

In LBDcaregivers , " abbybb1 " <BBagam@a...> wrote:

> Sharon:

>

> God bless you for wanting to do more for me when it sounds like you

> have your own hands more than full. Believe me, fighting the good

> fight on behalf of your mom is enough. I'm happy to receive your

> prayers and feel blessed to have met such kind people who

truly " get "

> it on this board.

>

> My dad has been only not recognized my mom and sister so far and

that

> was in the middle of the night. He attributes it to being confused

> and half asleep. I'm not certain that's what it is but I don't

want

> to hurt him further by insisting on something that is really

> difficult for him. Last night, he and I were sitting on his couch

> and he turned to me and said, " If I could go through this and not

> effect you guys, I'd do it. I hate that you suffer in this almost

> more than I do. " I turned to him and said, " We will go through

this

> and more for you because we love you but mom could use help. Won't

> you let us call someone in to help her with you throughout the

> night? " He looked at me and said, " I know I'll get there but I'm

not

> ready for that yet... " It doesn't help when my sister and my

mother

> agree with him. I'm more worried because my sister (who sometimes

> goes to stay at my mom's overnight) will be in Vegas for 5 days and

> my mom will be on her own. She won't let me stay with her (my dad

is

> even more adamant about this) because she says my kids are young

and

> need me. I've tried insisting and it just ends up getting us all

> upset to the point of tears.... Yet, I worry - like we all worry.

>

> I know the decision you made to put your mom in a nh was far from

> easy. Even knowing it was your only option doesn't make it simple

> does it? Anytime we feel we're putting out LOs in situations we

know

> they'd rather not be in, we suffer right along with them. Being

with

> her on a nightly basis must help although I know it must be taking

> its toll on you even if you and your sister share the load.

>

> Thank you once again for such a heartfelt response. I've lost

count

> of how often I have cried reading these posts. My wish is that in

> 2004 all of us have occasion to cry a little less than we did in

> 2003.

>

> Abby