RE: Re: Who would you be without that thought? For Jan

[Guest guest]

Hi Jan,

> The other day I asked my girlfriend who would you be without the

thought

> that it should be any different than it is? > Anyway this gave

her more feeling access to being without that thought. I

> think I'll keep using that )

>

> -

So who would you be , without the thought that it shouldn't

different than it is?

[FB] I think you're missing a verb here. I'll assume that you meant

shouldn't be different than it is. Actually that is my stand, that

everything is as it should be. I don't think I'm willing to give that one

up. I'm going to stick with loving what is. And perhaps what you're saying

is that you wonder if I was implying that she shouldn't deny what is. If so,

I did not go there. Again, my stand is that reality already knows what it

should be and that when I, or anyone else, argues with that it leads to

suffering, even if who she's being is someone who denies what is.

From over here in my stereophonic lawn chair am I hearing...

It should be just what it is - a connection for now that works for

now that can be left when it no longer " works " . The nerve of her to

wish to move towards a more committed relationship. (just idle

speculation here - you understand...)

[FB] Actually we do have a committed relationship. My commitment is to give

this relationship every opportunity to be the most wonderful, last, love

affair I ever had.

So " using " the work that way " works " for you? Do you feel like you

are getting away with something?

[FB] Using the work the way I do does work for me. Powerful breakthroughs

show up all around me. I love what is present in the work that shows up in

my presence. Do I feel like I'm getting away with something? I'm looking for

where that could be true? I don't feel like I'm getting over on anyone. I

feel like I have been getting away with something though. I've been getting

away with pretending to be small. I've been getting away with pretending

that the work I do is about me rather than about the person who is doing the

work. I'm also doing great with letting that go.

I am reminded of Kirtana's song - I need mature love, unconditional

and pure love - is this what you are offering - or are you

offering the 's available as long as is safe kind of love.

[FB] I could imagine myself feeling defensive over this inquiry and wanting

to lie in order to make myself look good. That said, unconditional love is

what I am offering here... to the depth of my ability and willingness to be

with unconditional love. After all, I am still here; " no story, no world. "

I am a powerful stand for unconditional love and it blossoms in my presence.

There is evidence for that being true all around me.

If this looks like I'm pickin' on you - NOT - am looking at it all

though...

Your favorite bud, Jan

[FB] I don't feel picked on Jan, and your inquiries are welcome. It actually

serves me to reflect on the things you bring up. I know sometimes others see

me more clearly than I see myself.

Reasonably fond of you ;o)