Guest guest Posted November 10, 2003 Report Share Posted November 10, 2003 I can soooo identify with the 'I've become more like a hermit since my dad died' comment. Me too. I think it's part of this grief thing. Since my dad's death last October I really have to dig deep to motivate myself! I just can't find much point in much of the mundane anymore. My house is much more untidy. I avoid social gatherings - don't want to be bothered to shop, cook or visit. I stopped work. I just want to cut myself off - just be me and my family. If I'm in the shopping mall or waiting at the station I watch the world go by and hear myself thinking 'What's the point?' - why the rush and stress? What is the purpose of all the hassle? Watching the slow, merciless progression of LBD in another human is traumatic. It scars. It has a colossal impact on us - we have 'post LBD stress disorder'! I'm simply don't know how we come to terms with it all. I use various strategies. 1. Be kind to myself and honest about how I feel. 2. Look to use my pain as a support for others - that's why I'm here still I guess. 3. Vacation at Lake Wobegon as often as I can make time to stick my head in that book! 4. Rejoice in my wonderful loving family and enjoy them. 5. Remember those here who have an even tougher time of it - those with multiple heartaches and difficulties. 6. Tell myself this stage is temporary and I will move on when I feel able. It doesn't matter how long that takes. We are all different and there's a natural pace in us all. 7. Pray. Some/all/none of these help - depending on how I feel! Above all else I know I am not alone because you guys are right there alongside me. Hugs to each Sally x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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