Abby and Donna: Re: Update on Dad

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Dear Abby and Donna:

This is so much better! Donna, your analysis of the situation is so detailed

and helpful. I don't want to cause you more stress, Abby, but in my case, my

mom was there 6 to 8 hours during the day, as you mom is with your dad, and

she told me everything she didn't agree with and I would discuss it with the

staff to make sure my dad got the care we wanted. I was there most of the time

and my mom usually got in touch with me first. When it was not possible for

me to handle it, my sister and her family would tackle the problem. Your

sister should make a commitment to go at a specified time several days a week to

be

aware of what is going on, learn how to handle it, and relieve you.

I must explain that my dad was never in a nh, but spent the last 5 weeks of

his life in the hospital, with a much larger staff, doctors, nurses and aides

checking him constantly. I am sure it is different in a nh. Anyway, I read

your other post where you said you printed Donna's suggestions. Great idea, we

should put together a " bible " of LBD and include Donna's email to set

standards for nh's.

Hugs and good luck to both of you and your families,

Josie