~Children~ *intersting*

[Guest guest]

I just wanted to share something of interest with all of you. If

those of you got all the way through my posts you may remember me

telling you that my aunt got custody of me when I was 15 ~

Just a little over a week ago nada barged in on me the day after X-

MAS and decided to read my mail, went through every drawer in my

bedroom and then told me I was to thin, a horrible house keeper, a

bad mom, and the list goes on, I called my aunt.

My aunt knows my nada has BPD as she spent years at the same

Therapist as I did. Even before I was with my aunt, she had known

her sister to be so very messed up. It was clear when I was living

with my aunt that my nada was a POISON to my soul.

As I talked to her the other day, she spoke of the children in her

life. She is a principal of an Elementary school (and a darned good

one I may add). We started off talking about her sister/my mother,

and what she was like as a child. My aunt said she was always the way

she is now. Her own mother must have known the behavior from someone

in her past and protected my nada. My mother was a child/ and

continues to act like one. During this conversation, my aunt also

told me that in her school she can pin-point a few of the students

who seem to suffer from similar problems as my nada. She told me that

they are so difficult to deal with. The families are so helpful

however, they just have no idea what to do with their kiddos.

My aunt usually directs them to some sort of therapy so they can get

some help.

To me this is very interesting, I suppose the more we learn about

this it could be these children are simply born like this. It is nice

to see that there is as much information collected as there is here,

and nice also to see that perhaps some early intervention during

childhood may make a bit of a difference.

However, it was told to me that this is very tricky to deal with in

young children. While my aunt watches these children go from PRE-K-

6th grade she now seems to know that a great deal of these children

outgrow behaviors, then again there are so many who do not. Most have

identical behaviors as many of our own parents/ or any BPD friends we

have had. The difference is that they are children.

QUESTION: HAS IT been proven that this runs in families or that a

human is just born this way? My aunt said my grandmother's father had

many problems, he cheated, lied, left his family, came back, abused

and on and on.

Just found this to be interesting and wanted to share~

Kim