Re: ~Children~ *intersting*

[Guest guest]

Dear Kim, My daughter was diagnosed at 6...She was different from birth..Poor

sleeper very hyperactive..She is doing exceptionally well now..On appropriate

med and has a yr of therapy under her belt...

My mom , dad and ex husband are all bp sufferers....Hype Nea-bpd is sponsoring a

seminar on May 3rd. In Richmond, Va.It will address how bpd presents int he

primary care setting and a pediatric psychiatrist will discuss it as well as a

pediatrician who is well versed with bpd to tell what kinds of things she see in

peds which alarm her that we may be dealing with bpd...not your run of the mill

adhd ( if there is such a thing)..Keep an eye on

www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com for further info ..about the upcoming

conference..I think the tip of the iceberg is just being seen..It is silly to

think that bpd is all of a sudden present at 18 and not before..

this it could be these children are simply born like this. It is nice

to see that there is as much information collected as there is here,

and nice also to see that perhaps some early intervention during

childhood may make a bit of a difference.

However, it was told to me that this is very tricky to deal with in

young children. While my aunt watches these children go from PRE-K-

6th grade she now seems to know that a great deal of these children

outgrow behaviors, then again there are so many who do not. Most have

identical behaviors as many of our own parents/ or any BPD friends we

have had. The difference is that they are children.

QUESTION: HAS IT been proven that this runs in families or that a

human is just born this way? My aunt said my grandmother's father had

many problems, he cheated, lied, left his family, came back, abused

and on and on.

Just found this to be interesting and wanted to share~

Kim

[Guest guest]

<<<<I think the tip of the iceberg is just being seen..It is silly to

think that bpd is all of a sudden present at 18 and not before..

>>>>

,

I agree and really appreciate your information. I checked out another

site on here today, a site where Randi posts a lot of very important

information about BPD and I realized that yes, indeed, this is not

something that just creeps up on people. Also I do believe this to be

heriditory/ just because of how I see that my own nada NEVER even met

her grandfather and she is just like him.

What did you notice that was different about your daughter? We have

always had a very hard time with my 1st born, he has such anger and

really flips out a lot for an 11 year old. He hurts us with his

mouth, but I always try to remain calm and collected. I would hate to

think that he may also suffer~

Thanks much , I was so happy that my aunt is in tune with this

she is a wonderful person who works with children (she was the one

who told me that this condition is just a part of a child, not

something that is caused by anything, or that develops later in life).

Kim

[Guest guest]

I've seen a lot of BP stuff in my nada's side of the family, so i give a

big vote to genetic influence at least.

Ilene

mylifeplus4 wrote:

> I just wanted to share something of interest with all of you. If

> those of you got all the way through my posts you may remember me

> telling you that my aunt got custody of me when I was 15 ~

>

> Just a little over a week ago nada barged in on me the day after X-

> MAS and decided to read my mail, went through every drawer in my

> bedroom and then told me I was to thin, a horrible house keeper, a

> bad mom, and the list goes on, I called my aunt.

>

> My aunt knows my nada has BPD as she spent years at the same

> Therapist as I did. Even before I was with my aunt, she had known

> her sister to be so very messed up. It was clear when I was living

> with my aunt that my nada was a POISON to my soul.

>

> As I talked to her the other day, she spoke of the children in her

> life. She is a principal of an Elementary school (and a darned good

> one I may add). We started off talking about her sister/my mother,

> and what she was like as a child. My aunt said she was always the way

> she is now. Her own mother must have known the behavior from someone

> in her past and protected my nada. My mother was a child/ and

> continues to act like one. During this conversation, my aunt also

> told me that in her school she can pin-point a few of the students

> who seem to suffer from similar problems as my nada. She told me that

> they are so difficult to deal with. The families are so helpful

> however, they just have no idea what to do with their kiddos.

>

> My aunt usually directs them to some sort of therapy so they can get

> some help.

>

> To me this is very interesting, I suppose the more we learn about

> this it could be these children are simply born like this. It is nice

> to see that there is as much information collected as there is here,

> and nice also to see that perhaps some early intervention during

> childhood may make a bit of a difference.

>

> However, it was told to me that this is very tricky to deal with in

> young children. While my aunt watches these children go from PRE-K-

> 6th grade she now seems to know that a great deal of these children

> outgrow behaviors, then again there are so many who do not. Most have

> identical behaviors as many of our own parents/ or any BPD friends we

> have had. The difference is that they are children.

>

> QUESTION: HAS IT been proven that this runs in families or that a

> human is just born this way? My aunt said my grandmother's father had

> many problems, he cheated, lied, left his family, came back, abused

> and on and on.

>

> Just found this to be interesting and wanted to share~

>

> Kim

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> QUESTION: HAS IT been proven that this runs in families or that a

> human is just born this way? My aunt said my grandmother's father

had

> many problems, he cheated, lied, left his family, came back, abused

> and on and on.

Kim,

My Aunt has been very supportive also. She tells me that my nada has

been difficult since childhood. Also, my maternal

grandmother seemed to have BPD. She was an incredible troublemaker

just like my nada. My aunt was victimised by her mother and sister,

and it left life-long scars.

Still, these circumstances don't show whether or not BPD is

hereditary. Being raised by a BP could turn you into one. As I have

learn more about this illness I have recognised BPD traits in myself.

In particular I can rage and seem to dissassociate when I get really

angry. I sometimes can't remember what I said, or the sequence of

events. However, these rages manifest themselves only in the presence

of nada. Also, it may be normal to lose track of what and when

something was said in an emotional circumstance. You see, nada pushes

my buttons. My relationship with the rest of the family is very good,

however. I do not rage with them. Nor do I denigrate, humiliate, lie,

decieve, threaten, blackmail, ad infinitum, ad nauseum.

best wishes,

Doug