Re: Re: Coyote, Abby, Piper, and all, and general answers - f...

[Guest guest]

Hi Josie

I read your post and immediately thought that you should still give that

90th birthday party. It can be a celebration of your father's life, and who

knows, perhaps he will be looking down and smiling at all his family and

friends having fun due to him!

When my dad's mom (grandma) died, we had a fantastic family reunion at my

parent's big (farmhouse) cottage at the lake. It was amazing. We played

games during the day, had a huge bonfire and partied through (and I mean

until morning for some) the night. I was 16 and had known my husband for

only 6 months, but it was great memory.

Anyway whether you party or not, I hope the new year brings you peace, joy

and love.

Kath in Toronto

Re: Re: Coyote, Abby, Piper, and all, and general

answers - f...

In a message dated 1/4/2004 3:33:03 PM Eastern Standard Time, BBagam@...

writes:

> Thanks for posting Josie! My psychic vibes are telling me that 2004

> is going to be a banner year for you pal!

>

Dear Abby:

Thank you, Abby, I hope so, you guys only know the half of it!

I know how you felt when your dad said: " Look at that man now. He's a

finished man now - barely making it. Incredible isn't it? " My dad

expressed the

same sentiments and was amazed that his body had becomed such an useless

thing.

My dad fell a lot and always blamed himself, not the disease we did not

know

he had. Still, with all the embarasing moments, I felt that he had enough

of a high quality of life. He went everywhere and was coherent and charming

with company. My mom worked very hard, but she was glad to have him along.

He

said he should not continue like that, but he was ok and I would have never

thought of how his life would end. Actually, I wanted to give him a great

90th

birthday party.

He had a stroke, coincidentally right after having his teeth cleaned, on

July

12, 2003. That changed everything and he really deteriorated from there.

He

only lasted 4 more weeks. I feel he could have continued as he was at home

with my mom and some live-in help for a while yet, he was not on the last

stage

until after the stroke. I still feel that the stroke helped him because he

did not have to go through the very bad final stage. I also know he would

agree that passing at that time was merciful.

Thank you for all your appreciation. Of course I continue to post!, with

friends like you giving me encouragement. You are very kind, I am glad that

I

can help. You always understand where I am coming from.

I am very forceful about the IV liquids, unfortunatelly, I think I could be

hurting the feelings of some of the members. This was what I saw in our

case,

and want others to know my experience. As Piper's dad said " death with

compssion " . At the very end we were forced to make the desicion whether to

prolong

life at its worse, or mercifuly let him go and stop the suffering.

Happy New Year to you and your family. It will be difficult, but it will

bring a lot of depth to all your relationships, especially with your dad. I

feel

that 2004 will be very auspicious for many of us. I pray for you and your

family, love,

Josie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/4/2004 3:33:03 PM Eastern Standard Time, BBagam@...

writes:

> Thanks for posting Josie! My psychic vibes are telling me that 2004

> is going to be a banner year for you pal!

>

Dear Abby:

Thank you, Abby, I hope so, you guys only know the half of it!

I know how you felt when your dad said: " Look at that man now.  He's a

finished man now - barely making it.  Incredible isn't it? "   My dad expressed

the

same sentiments and was amazed that his body had becomed such an useless thing.

My dad fell a lot and always blamed himself, not the disease we did not know

he had. Still, with all the embarasing moments, I felt that he had enough

of a high quality of life. He went everywhere and was coherent and charming

with company. My mom worked very hard, but she was glad to have him along. He

said he should not continue like that, but he was ok and I would have never

thought of how his life would end. Actually, I wanted to give him a great 90th

birthday party.

He had a stroke, coincidentally right after having his teeth cleaned, on July

12, 2003. That changed everything and he really deteriorated from there. He

only lasted 4 more weeks. I feel he could have continued as he was at home

with my mom and some live-in help for a while yet, he was not on the last stage

until after the stroke. I still feel that the stroke helped him because he

did not have to go through the very bad final stage. I also know he would

agree that passing at that time was merciful.

Thank you for all your appreciation. Of course I continue to post!, with

friends like you giving me encouragement. You are very kind, I am glad that I

can help. You always understand where I am coming from.

I am very forceful about the IV liquids, unfortunatelly, I think I could be

hurting the feelings of some of the members. This was what I saw in our case,

and want others to know my experience. As Piper's dad said " death with

compssion " . At the very end we were forced to make the desicion whether to

prolong

life at its worse, or mercifuly let him go and stop the suffering.

Happy New Year to you and your family. It will be difficult, but it will

bring a lot of depth to all your relationships, especially with your dad. I

feel

that 2004 will be very auspicious for many of us. I pray for you and your

family, love,

Josie

[Guest guest]

Dear Kath:

Thank you, we continue to have family reunions, and, of course, the Christmas

celebrations. My dad's birthday was Oct. 22nd. It was too recent from his

death in Aug. 18th, to celebrate. We have more celebrations coming up, as his

fifth greatgrandchild, a boy was born on Dec. 29th, and there is another one

coming in the summer. We will have baptism celebrations. He will be there in

spirit for sure!

It must have been a wonderful time at your family reunion for your granma's

passing. It is good to feel our LO's presence when we are all together. You

are very kind, thank you again. Enjoy the time you have now with your LO, and

make great memories, as we tend to do in these circumstances. God bless you,

hugs,

Josie