Guest guest Posted November 30, 2003 Report Share Posted November 30, 2003 , When I saw that you had written, I rushed to see what you had to say. It was so good to hear from you. I have been thinking that we hadn't heard from you in some while and that made me think you were in need some how. I talked to Peg today and we both mentioned we hadn't seen many posts from you. Hope things are ok. We are here to support you. You do a good job of supporting others. Hope to hear how things are going. Are you getting any more help from some of your family? Cyber hugs! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2004 Report Share Posted January 10, 2004 Here, here Ruby! Courage ! >I agree, you need to vent and there's absolutely nothing wrong with >it here. We all view it as a Necessity. As for the sibling that >resents your taking control - that situations especially wears on me. >I always want to talk to (or yell at) a difficult sibling for the >frustrated caregiver. Especially when it's this type of circumstance. > >Don't brothers and sisters realize that their parent is dying and the >best thing they can do for their parent is to hang together and >support each other- drop their egos, forgive each other's >transgressions and get down to the business of providing their parent >with the best last months of their lives as is humanly possible. > >I know, when our family was growing up, the one thing that wore on my >parents was the bickering and fighting. But we were kids then! I >think adults need to think twice about such childish behavior. I know >some of the fights we have had have made my mom feel bad. What right >do we have to make a day suck for her that way when she has so few >good days left! > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2004 Report Share Posted January 12, 2004 It is so good to " hear " you are back here and home and sound refreshed. As I read your email and remember hearing you talk, I can just hear your gentle accent. You have it just as bad as the rest of us. All the situations are not good. And with Mom gone for me, I am not sure it is still better. Even if the fish were smarter than you, I hope you had some relaxing and refreshing time. The thing that strikes me now, after the fact is the the same thing that I was battling while Mom was here. She was doomed to death, but aren't we all, and I had such a hard time remembering my job was to help her find quality of life for what she had left. And I read it in so many email, and felt it when Mom was alive, we are more consumed with the death that is coming, soon, than the remainder of their life. I know the sickness and constant reminders we have that life is being taken a piece at a time, do not help us focus on life. But the fact is they are alive and want to be in spite of it all. Guess I am getting reflective tonight. Just glad to have you back and sounding more rested. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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