Guest guest Posted December 31, 2003 Report Share Posted December 31, 2003 I am sending a note to let the group know that on Dec. 22 at 10:05PM Mom passed into the other life. I was with her and I must say that I feel certain that she is now at peace. We were unable to have her funeral until yesterday the 30th. but felt greatful to be able to have it prior to the second holiday. I feel it very important to say that I found so much comfort in belonging to this group. I know that when we were going thorugh each change, to be able to compare notes and read of others and how they faced a situation was such a help. I know that the knowledge gained about medications, cautions, and discussions we were able to pick and choose what medications at any given time we were willing to try, and we also knew when it was time to face the big (guns) meds that could and did in deed cause some major changes in Mom's ability to remain walking, etc. By the time we lost her she was unable to verbilize at all, but thank God that was only about 10 days proir to death, at that time Mom also was able to name and converse with my Brother and his wife that Mom didn't get to see very often. Thank you thank you thank you each and all for the good that you are doing by being willing to share information and not be afraid to face facts as they come. I will continue to monitor this sight and will share what we went though as questions come up and when others need what I was able to gleen from this group. At times this sight was my salvations in being able to move forward and to do as I needed. As I told Mom at the end " I done my best. " It hurts to lose your LO but, it hurts a lot more to see them suffer ith their lose. Joanne in Oregon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2003 Report Share Posted December 31, 2003 Joanne, My heart and prayers go with you and your family as you do your grieving. It sounds like a peaceful passing. She is at rest. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2003 Report Share Posted December 31, 2003 Joanne, My heart is heavy with sadness for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Courage Loss of LO >I am sending a note to let the group know that on Dec. 22 at 10:05PM >Mom passed into the other life. I was with her and I must say that >I feel certain that she is now at peace. We were unable to have her >funeral until yesterday the 30th. but felt greatful to be able to have >it prior to the second holiday. I feel it very important to say that >I found so much comfort in belonging to this group. I know that when >we were going thorugh each change, to be able to compare notes and >read of others and how they faced a situation was such a help. I know >that the knowledge gained about medications, cautions, and >discussions we were able to pick and choose what medications at any >given time we were willing to try, and we also knew when it was time >to face the big (guns) meds that could and did in deed cause some >major changes in Mom's ability to remain walking, etc. By the time >we lost her she was unable to verbilize at all, but thank God that >was only about 10 days proir to death, at that time Mom also was able >to name and converse with my Brother and his wife that Mom didn't get >to see very often. Thank you thank you thank you each and all for >the good that you are doing by being willing to share information and >not be afraid to face facts as they come. I will continue to monitor >this sight and will share what we went though as questions come up >and when others need what I was able to gleen from this group. >At times this sight was my salvations in being able to move forward >and to do as I needed. As I told Mom at the end " I done my best. " >It hurts to lose your LO but, it hurts a lot more to see them suffer >ith their lose. Joanne in Oregon > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2004 Report Share Posted January 1, 2004 Joanne, I'm relatively new to this site. With tears in my eyes, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Pat in SC :-( -------------------------------------------------------------- Joanne, My heart is heavy with sadness for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Courage Loss of LO >I am sending a note to let the group know that on Dec. 22 at 10:05PM >Mom passed into the other life. I was with her and I must say that >I feel certain that she is now at peace. We were unable to have her >funeral until yesterday the 30th. but felt greatful to be able to have >it prior to the second holiday. I feel it very important to say that >I found so much comfort in belonging to this group. I know that when >we were going thorugh each change, to be able to compare notes and >read of others and how they faced a situation was such a help. I know >that the knowledge gained about medications, cautions, and >discussions we were able to pick and choose what medications at any >given time we were willing to try, and we also knew when it was time >to face the big (guns) meds that could and did in deed cause some >major changes in Mom's ability to remain walking, etc. By the time >we lost her she was unable to verbilize at all, but thank God that >was only about 10 days proir to death, at that time Mom also was able >to name and converse with my Brother and his wife that Mom didn't get >to see very often. Thank you thank you thank you each and all for >the good that you are doing by being willing to share information and >not be afraid to face facts as they come. I will continue to monitor >this sight and will share what we went though as questions come up >and when others need what I was able to gleen from this group. >At times this sight was my salvations in being able to move forward >and to do as I needed. As I told Mom at the end " I done my best. " >It hurts to lose your LO but, it hurts a lot more to see them suffer >ith their lose. Joanne in Oregon > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2004 Report Share Posted January 1, 2004 Joanne: I'm so saddened to hear about the loss of your mom but I completely comprehend how gratifying it must feel to have her removed from the suffering she was experiencing. I'm also glad you were able to be with her near the end. That must have made her and you feel better about what can only be viewed as an impossible time. Letting go is never easy but somehow LBD makes us realize that death is far from the worst thing anyone can go through. I hope you too find some peace. I think your mom knew you did your best and then some. This site has been my mainstay as well. I've learned most from people who continue to check in on the site even after their LOs have died and I know others have said the same thing. If you feel up to it, we'd love to have you join us here anytime. Please take some time to take care of you now. You deserve an opportunity to regroup and continue to put this entire experience into perspective. My prayers will be with you this evening before I go to sleep. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2004 Report Share Posted January 7, 2004 Joanne, My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. With some of us having difficulty with nursing homes for our LO's, I always appreciated your sharing of the positive aspects that your mother experienced in nursing care, and the approach you took to work together with the staff to provide the best of care. I am glad to see that you are staying with the group. Kind regards, Peggy > I am sending a note to let the group know that on Dec. 22 at 10:05PM > Mom passed into the other life. I was with her and I must say that > I feel certain that she is now at peace. We were unable to have her > funeral until yesterday the 30th. but felt greatful to be able to have > it prior to the second holiday. I feel it very important to say that > I found so much comfort in belonging to this group. I know that when > we were going thorugh each change, to be able to compare notes and > read of others and how they faced a situation was such a help. I know > that the knowledge gained about medications, cautions, and > discussions we were able to pick and choose what medications at any > given time we were willing to try, and we also knew when it was time > to face the big (guns) meds that could and did in deed cause some > major changes in Mom's ability to remain walking, etc. By the time > we lost her she was unable to verbilize at all, but thank God that > was only about 10 days proir to death, at that time Mom also was able > to name and converse with my Brother and his wife that Mom didn't get > to see very often. Thank you thank you thank you each and all for > the good that you are doing by being willing to share information and > not be afraid to face facts as they come. I will continue to monitor > this sight and will share what we went though as questions come up > and when others need what I was able to gleen from this group. > At times this sight was my salvations in being able to move forward > and to do as I needed. As I told Mom at the end " I done my best. " > It hurts to lose your LO but, it hurts a lot more to see them suffer > ith their lose. Joanne in Oregon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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