Guest guest Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Abby: Your husband is an angel! God bless you all. I am worried about you driving to the hospital in an upset condition, with your childeren in the car? or are you dropping them off at school? I am praying for you all and for the best outcome. Love and hugs, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 I wish I could keep this as a permanent post because lately I've been writing almost the same thing on this board. My husband is on his way down to my parents' home right now so that he can lift my dad into the van and bring him to the downtown hospital that has all his recent medical records. My mom initially wanted to call an ambulance but the ambulance told her that they could only bring him to the hospital closest to her and that would mean we would have to wait for my father's records to be faxed down. Given my father's complex medical history (LBD and a reoccurring brain tumor), I don't think this is a good idea. As well, my mother told me that my father is not waking up despite being prodded nor could he (before he fell asleep) stand on his own. I've remained at home for the time being. I'm waiting for my kids to wake up and then I'll drive down to the hospital although I'll probably end up getting there much later due to traffic and the poor weather conditions. I'm scared but I'm resigned. I don't know what I wish would happen for my father. I can't bring myself to pray that God takes him nor can I realistically ask for a miracle recovery for him. I guess you could say I'm numb. So I sit here waiting for my 4 and 6 year old to awaken and turn to this board where I can blow off this steam I have coming out of my ears and find some sense in my words after typing them to all of us. I will keep you posted but for right now I'm off to read other posts until my kids wake up and I have to spring into " mom " zone. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Josie: Thanks for your concern re: my driving. I was such a wreck it's easy to see how you would think I'd drive with them It turns out my best friend picked up my 6 yr. old (Adam) for school and I drove only 5 minutes away to my in-laws to drop off my 4 yr. old (). Turns out it was a good thing I did go down. More in later posts. Thanks for caring Josie, Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2004 Report Share Posted January 15, 2004 Abby, I am in a similar situation only with my mother. It is very difficult when they can't afford care but need care. Or sometimes my parents refuse the care we can get them. At times they still deny that they need help. My mother was in the hospital over the weekend diagnosised with pnuemonia. M > >Reply-To: LBDcaregivers >To: LBDcaregivers >Subject: Re: Dad's back to emerg >Date: Tue, 13 Jan 2004 12:21:16 -0000 >MIME-Version: 1.0 >X-Originating-IP: 152.163.253.2 >X-Sender: BBagam@... >Received: from n29.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.85]) by >mc12-f13.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Tue, 13 Jan >2004 04:21:39 -0800 >Received: from [66.218.67.195] by n29.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 13 Jan >2004 12:21:19 -0000 >Received: (qmail 75550 invoked from network); 13 Jan 2004 12:21:17 -0000 >Received: from unknown (66.218.66.167) by m2.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >13 Jan 2004 12:21:17 -0000 >Received: from unknown (HELO n26.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.82) by >mta6.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 13 Jan 2004 12:21:17 -0000 >Received: from [66.218.67.153] by n26.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 13 Jan >2004 12:21:17 -0000 >X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHm/9tpMMGYSKJSjj3QNUVl >X-eGroups-Return: >sentto-2141318-23654-1073996478-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >Message-ID: <bu0nrs+ufnoeGroups> >In-Reply-To: <bu0j2v+q7c8eGroups> >User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 >X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster >X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.82 >X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 >Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >LBDcaregivers-owner >Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >Precedence: bulk >List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >Return-Path: >sentto-2141318-23654-1073996478-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-OriginalArrivalTime: 13 Jan 2004 12:21:39.0610 (UTC) >FILETIME=[CBBC9FA0:01C3D9CF] > >Okay - here's the latest. > >My dad's in Emergency and he awoke shortly before my husband got >there. He was, however, stuck on the toilet and couldn't raise >himself so my husband had to lift him. > >He then walked (remember, he hadn't been able to stand just hours >earlier) using his walker down the hall. My husband did have to >carry him to the van but overall things had turned and now he's no >worse than he was yesterday. > >What has become clear is that even with my dad's constant >fluctuations, things have reached a point where it's not possible for >him to be at home without constant supervision and my parents can't >afford that on their pensions. That leaves us little choice. If >he's put in emergency care, however, he could be put anywhere in the >city which wouldn't be a problem normally but my mom doesn't drive so >this could prevent even more roadblocks. > >I hate that this doesn't get easier no matter what we do and I hate >that my father is being humiliated by this disease. He is so proud >and to have to lose all of his self-respect must be more devastating >than the physical symptoms of his illness. > >Abby > _________________________________________________________________ Let the new MSN Premium Internet Software make the most of your high-speed experience. http://join.msn.com/?pgmarket=en-us & page=byoa/prem & ST=1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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