Guest guest Posted January 16, 2004 Report Share Posted January 16, 2004 Okay, I went out to get the margerine (see last post) and while I am at the grocery store, my strap on my purse breaks. I go in to Mom's when I get back home and she is refusing to sleep at my house. I have no fight left in me, just tears. One good thing...Theresa called (she is my Monday to Friday caregiver). She couldn't stay the weekend as she looks after another lady, but she knew that wasn't coming and she phoned to see if we had gotten a caregiver and to recommend a friend. The friend called and she is coming tomorrow at 11 am. and she will stay until Theresa returns. I convinced mom to come to my house for some dinner and she stayed until midnight. I have just gotten back from getting her ready for bed and pills and eyedrops etc. I am exhausted but do not know if I will be able to sleep. I hope that she is okay alone tonight, as I am so afraid that she will be up hallucinating and becoming afraid. I guess I can only say that I have done my best today and that is all I can do. Tomorrow will be better. Goodnight everyone and thanks for listening today. Kath Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2004 Report Share Posted January 17, 2004 Kath, I am feeling so concerned for you. What a nightmare for you and your mom. I hope those around you see how much you do and give you some much needed time to yourself. I'm sending you waves to strength. Courage and there is more... >Okay, I went out to get the margerine (see last post) and while I am at the grocery store, my strap on my purse breaks. I go in to Mom's when I get back home and she is refusing to sleep at my house. I have no fight left in me, just tears. > >One good thing...Theresa called (she is my Monday to Friday caregiver). She couldn't stay the weekend as she looks after another lady, but she knew that wasn't coming and she phoned to see if we had gotten a caregiver and to recommend a friend. The friend called and she is coming tomorrow at 11 am. and she will stay until Theresa returns. > >I convinced mom to come to my house for some dinner and she stayed until midnight. I have just gotten back from getting her ready for bed and pills and eyedrops etc. I am exhausted but do not know if I will be able to sleep. I hope that she is okay alone tonight, as I am so afraid that she will be up hallucinating and becoming afraid. I guess I can only say that I have done my best today and that is all I can do. Tomorrow will be better. > >Goodnight everyone and thanks for listening today. > >Kath > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2004 Report Share Posted January 17, 2004 Hi Courage, Actually I worry about the reactions of those around me. I try not to talk about how frustrated or how bad it is with mom as I am terrified that it will bring on the response " how long are you going to do this to yourself, your mom needs to be in a nursing home etc. " I already have these thoughts, and the message to myself is that I have failed and let my mom down. I have gone that route and it was not pleasant and even though yesterday was disastrous, I prefer to " put myself through it, to spare her " even if she can't realize what I am doing and continually requests more of my time and complains I don't do enough. Steve was supportive last night, saying don't worry your mom can sleep in here (even though she wouldn't) and he said that we could cancel our plans with our friends or invite them down if we couldn't get a caregiver. I know he is just worried about me when he sees how stressed I am, and I know he is frustrated by the lack of help from other relatives when I do so much and they do nothing. It's hard to explain but it is more stressful to call and hear the reasons why they couldn't take mom (for the weekend etc), then it is to take care of her myself. Does that make sense? Anyway, I survived the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day yesterday...today is a breeze compared to that. Hope all is well with you and Olivia. I still want to meet face to face so if you can get out for a coffee or a drink of wine one night let me know and I will be there. Email me privately at skward2@... and I will give you my phone number. Kath and there is more... > > > >Okay, I went out to get the margerine (see last post) and while I am at the > grocery store, my strap on my purse breaks. I go in to Mom's when I get > back home and she is refusing to sleep at my house. I have no fight left in > me, just tears. > > > >One good thing...Theresa called (she is my Monday to Friday caregiver). > She couldn't stay the weekend as she looks after another lady, but she knew > that wasn't coming and she phoned to see if we had gotten a > caregiver and to recommend a friend. The friend called and she is coming > tomorrow at 11 am. and she will stay until Theresa returns. > > > >I convinced mom to come to my house for some dinner and she stayed until > midnight. I have just gotten back from getting her ready for bed and pills > and eyedrops etc. I am exhausted but do not know if I will be able to > sleep. I hope that she is okay alone tonight, as I am so afraid that she > will be up hallucinating and becoming afraid. I guess I can only say that I > have done my best today and that is all I can do. Tomorrow will be better. > > > >Goodnight everyone and thanks for listening today. > > > >Kath > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2004 Report Share Posted January 17, 2004 Hi Courage, Actually I worry about the reactions of those around me. I try not to talk about how frustrated or how bad it is with mom as I am terrified that it will bring on the response " how long are you going to do this to yourself, your mom needs to be in a nursing home etc. " I already have these thoughts, and the message to myself is that I have failed and let my mom down. I have gone that route and it was not pleasant and even though yesterday was disastrous, I prefer to " put myself through it, to spare her " even if she can't realize what I am doing and continually requests more of my time and complains I don't do enough. Steve was supportive last night, saying don't worry your mom can sleep in here (even though she wouldn't) and he said that we could cancel our plans with our friends or invite them down if we couldn't get a caregiver. I know he is just worried about me when he sees how stressed I am, and I know he is frustrated by the lack of help from other relatives when I do so much and they do nothing. It's hard to explain but it is more stressful to call and hear the reasons why they couldn't take mom (for the weekend etc), then it is to take care of her myself. Does that make sense? Anyway, I survived the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day yesterday...today is a breeze compared to that. Hope all is well with you and Olivia. I still want to meet face to face so if you can get out for a coffee or a drink of wine one night let me know and I will be there. Email me privately at skward2@... and I will give you my phone number. Kath and there is more... > > > >Okay, I went out to get the margerine (see last post) and while I am at the > grocery store, my strap on my purse breaks. I go in to Mom's when I get > back home and she is refusing to sleep at my house. I have no fight left in > me, just tears. > > > >One good thing...Theresa called (she is my Monday to Friday caregiver). > She couldn't stay the weekend as she looks after another lady, but she knew > that wasn't coming and she phoned to see if we had gotten a > caregiver and to recommend a friend. The friend called and she is coming > tomorrow at 11 am. and she will stay until Theresa returns. > > > >I convinced mom to come to my house for some dinner and she stayed until > midnight. I have just gotten back from getting her ready for bed and pills > and eyedrops etc. I am exhausted but do not know if I will be able to > sleep. I hope that she is okay alone tonight, as I am so afraid that she > will be up hallucinating and becoming afraid. I guess I can only say that I > have done my best today and that is all I can do. Tomorrow will be better. > > > >Goodnight everyone and thanks for listening today. > > > >Kath > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2004 Report Share Posted January 17, 2004 Hi Courage, Actually I worry about the reactions of those around me. I try not to talk about how frustrated or how bad it is with mom as I am terrified that it will bring on the response " how long are you going to do this to yourself, your mom needs to be in a nursing home etc. " I already have these thoughts, and the message to myself is that I have failed and let my mom down. I have gone that route and it was not pleasant and even though yesterday was disastrous, I prefer to " put myself through it, to spare her " even if she can't realize what I am doing and continually requests more of my time and complains I don't do enough. Steve was supportive last night, saying don't worry your mom can sleep in here (even though she wouldn't) and he said that we could cancel our plans with our friends or invite them down if we couldn't get a caregiver. I know he is just worried about me when he sees how stressed I am, and I know he is frustrated by the lack of help from other relatives when I do so much and they do nothing. It's hard to explain but it is more stressful to call and hear the reasons why they couldn't take mom (for the weekend etc), then it is to take care of her myself. Does that make sense? Anyway, I survived the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day yesterday...today is a breeze compared to that. Hope all is well with you and Olivia. I still want to meet face to face so if you can get out for a coffee or a drink of wine one night let me know and I will be there. Email me privately at skward2@... and I will give you my phone number. Kath and there is more... > > > >Okay, I went out to get the margerine (see last post) and while I am at the > grocery store, my strap on my purse breaks. I go in to Mom's when I get > back home and she is refusing to sleep at my house. I have no fight left in > me, just tears. > > > >One good thing...Theresa called (she is my Monday to Friday caregiver). > She couldn't stay the weekend as she looks after another lady, but she knew > that wasn't coming and she phoned to see if we had gotten a > caregiver and to recommend a friend. The friend called and she is coming > tomorrow at 11 am. and she will stay until Theresa returns. > > > >I convinced mom to come to my house for some dinner and she stayed until > midnight. I have just gotten back from getting her ready for bed and pills > and eyedrops etc. I am exhausted but do not know if I will be able to > sleep. I hope that she is okay alone tonight, as I am so afraid that she > will be up hallucinating and becoming afraid. I guess I can only say that I > have done my best today and that is all I can do. Tomorrow will be better. > > > >Goodnight everyone and thanks for listening today. > > > >Kath > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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