Hi Everyone.... Sorry long...

January 16, 2004

As i said before, i don't post as often as i would like to but try to

get on when i can.

Mom is doing good with her move to the NH. She says she likes it there

(has not mentioned anything about wanting to go home for a while now)

The move they made when they upped her Effexor has seemed to have

been a blessing for her and us. She hasn't tried to get up by herself

so we haven't had any falls for the last month in a half. She hardly

ever gets hot flashes anymore. She carries on good conversation with

us but still does get confused at times. She will even laugh at

herself when she realizes she said something wrong. Her not being

able to walk still bothers her. She still is not able to dress

herself. Buttons and snaps are hard for her. She does brush her own

teeth and does ok with combing her own hair.

Still has the tremor in her right hand which can make eating and

drinking a bit hard at times.

She has pain at times that she says is worse than a headache. She

says it feels more like way inside her brain. This has only happened

twice in the last 2 weeks????? ALso some pain in her right hip.( that

is the hip that was broken)

My sister wants us to do one night with her and one night not there

with her now that she is doing good. My stomache somewhat turns at

this but i sure could use some more time with my family and getting

things done. Her or i are there with her every night and i can't help

but think that could be some of the reason she is doing so good. SHe

told me we have are own lives that we need to tend too but she is a

BIG part of our lives. She has been one of my best friends all my

life. I didn't want to get married and move out because i knew i

would miss her so much even though i was only going to be a half hour

away.

Part of me wants to do this and another part does not want to at all.

She told me last night how much she likes that we are there for her

all the time and the next min. she says we have our lives to live too.

So i am really confused but i think my sister is going to do it

weather i do or not. So i guess either i'm going to have a little

more time or a lot less more time without my sister doing every other

night. My husband is worried of how this could effect me as now the

stress level is high just doing every other night and juggling full

time work and the kids.Time will tell i guess.

Sorry this has gotten so long. I should change my user name

to " ramblin again " since i'm so good at it!

My thoughts and prayer are with you all every day-

Sharon

January 17, 2004

Sharon

I went every day or every other day while mom was in the retirement home.

It exhausted me and I missed my family. I support you in doing at the

beginning but I believe that you do need to wean her off your visits because

you can't keep it up forever and it may keep her from joining in and

adjusting to the routines of the NH. You and you alone will be able to tell

when the time for that is. I suggest that you do not " up " your visits to

fill in for your sister but instead, keep to your own routine until it

becomes too much. Your family needs you too.

Kath

Hi Everyone.... Sorry long...

> As i said before, i don't post as often as i would like to but try to

> get on when i can.

> Mom is doing good with her move to the NH. She says she likes it there

> (has not mentioned anything about wanting to go home for a while now)

> The move they made when they upped her Effexor has seemed to have

> been a blessing for her and us. She hasn't tried to get up by herself

> so we haven't had any falls for the last month in a half. She hardly

> ever gets hot flashes anymore. She carries on good conversation with

> us but still does get confused at times. She will even laugh at

> herself when she realizes she said something wrong. Her not being

> able to walk still bothers her. She still is not able to dress

> herself. Buttons and snaps are hard for her. She does brush her own

> teeth and does ok with combing her own hair.

> Still has the tremor in her right hand which can make eating and

> drinking a bit hard at times.

> She has pain at times that she says is worse than a headache. She

> says it feels more like way inside her brain. This has only happened

> twice in the last 2 weeks????? ALso some pain in her right hip.( that

> is the hip that was broken)

> My sister wants us to do one night with her and one night not there

> with her now that she is doing good. My stomache somewhat turns at

> this but i sure could use some more time with my family and getting

> things done. Her or i are there with her every night and i can't help

> but think that could be some of the reason she is doing so good. SHe

> told me we have are own lives that we need to tend too but she is a

> BIG part of our lives. She has been one of my best friends all my

> life. I didn't want to get married and move out because i knew i

> would miss her so much even though i was only going to be a half hour

> away.

> Part of me wants to do this and another part does not want to at all.

> She told me last night how much she likes that we are there for her

> all the time and the next min. she says we have our lives to live too.

> So i am really confused but i think my sister is going to do it

> weather i do or not. So i guess either i'm going to have a little

> more time or a lot less more time without my sister doing every other

> night. My husband is worried of how this could effect me as now the

> stress level is high just doing every other night and juggling full

> time work and the kids.Time will tell i guess.

> Sorry this has gotten so long. I should change my user name

> to " ramblin again " since i'm so good at it!

> My thoughts and prayer are with you all every day-

> Sharon

>

> Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

>

January 17, 2004