Re: Poor Dad is having to face some hard realities.

[Guest guest]

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My situation was coniderably easier to make. My father been on his

own for 27 years, parents divorced. A personal care home was our

only option. Us kids live thousands of kilometers apart and the

commnity that he was living in would offer him the most visits from

friends and family on a consistent basis.

We did consider finding him a place closer in one of our cities, but

that did not seem fair. In the end you must remember that you are

doing the best you can with a very difficult and unfair situation.

You have to remember to take care of yourself and your family too. I

have been plannig a trip to Europe for the past 11 months and depart

in two days. Just last Friday the personal care home called to tell

us thatDad ws extremely ill and had been admitted to the hospital.

His GP expressed that he felt Dad was near the end. All of a sudden

all my plans were up in the air. Even though everyone told me I

should dtill go away. I am lucky that his condition has improved a

little and will nto feel so guilty leaving. The guilt will be there

no matter what choice you make; even though it shoud not be.

It really helps to come onto this site and read about other people's

situations, which often helps you get through the decision that you

have to make.

Good luck and stay strong.