Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Dear Coyote: My dog also died in my arms. It is so much more painful because we cannot explain that we really do not have control over everythin, we can no longer help, and they don't understand. I am sorry. I realize that you are having a lot of sadness right now and it is so much more difficult to take care of each thing when there is so much to worry about. Try to take care of yourself and take things one day at a time. Look at all that you are doing for your dad, your mom, the wonderful Endear and your immediate family. Make a list to remind you of what you do each day. We need to be aware that, even when we have so much in our lives that we have no control over, there are other things that we do control, or have controlled, and been sucsessful with, and how much we help and are needed. Take a deep breath, relax a little, let the sadness out and go on knowing that you are doing all you can, and God will give you the strength for the rest. Let me know if I can do anything to help you. You know my prayers are with you and your family. God bless you all, hugs and love, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 I do know how you feel as I am a dedicated dog person. I tell my guy how much I love him many, many times a day. He is the sweetest Great Dane we have EVER owned. Unfortunately, they have short lives so we have had many sad days after losing one. The last one the vet came to the house to put to sleep and I held him in my arms. I have saved his ashes and when my husband and I die the dogs ashes will be thrown in the ocean with ours. Simmel heartbroken... I havent visited the site in a while. I am SO on the verge of losing it...I cry all the time now. Between my Dad and this latest unrelated thing: We took my parent's precious 4 year old retired racing greyhound to the vet the other day because she had a sore leg and was limping. Thought it was a pulled tendon or something that you would expect of a dog that races around the yard at 45 MPH...had an xray....Endear has bone cancer and will die in 5-6 weeks. The cancer has eaten almost all the way through her leg..so her leg could snap at any moment. I posted a new pic I took of Endear about a week ago. Life is so unfair....ok, starting to bawl my eyes out... Some of you are probably wondering why Im so upset..she's not even MY dog. But I truly believe god brought us to THAT dog. I told my mom she had to rescue a greyhound. That eliminated all other breeds. Had to be female...my Mom wanted a girl. That eliminated all the males. Had to be fawn, that eliminated all the blacks, blues, brindles etc. We " trial " walked one fawn dog, but I just knew that was the wrong dog. We went back into the kennel and found Endear kenneled in a little cage, not even able to turn around, and I just KNEW she was the ONE. I have no regrets about picking that dog, despite the fact that my heart is breaking. In her face you can see her gentle temperament. On her body you can see horrendous scars and that her spine has been broken in racing injuries. But in her eyes you can see so much love and gratitude.... Sorry to ramble on about this...I am just devastated... Hope you are all keeping well. Miss you... Coyote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Courage: We have had Danes since 1965. Mostly we had fallen in love with blacks. We have also owned a fawn, a brindle, several Blues, still most have been black. I have never owned one who had a bad temperament, some have just been better than others. The guy we have now walks to the car without a lead, will not pass on the steps or anytime or place where we may be moving slowly....an essential with Liam and my reduced ankle function. The idea of putting their ashes with ours was the man who breeds these wonderful guys. He said it could be our children's last trip on our money...it appealed to me in all aspects. Simmel heartbroken... > > > I havent visited the site in a while. I am SO on the verge of losing > it...I cry all the time now. Between my Dad and this latest > unrelated thing: We took my parent's precious 4 year old retired > racing greyhound to the vet the other day because she had a sore leg > and was limping. Thought it was a pulled tendon or something that > you would expect of a dog that races around the yard at 45 MPH...had > an xray....Endear has bone cancer and will die in 5-6 weeks. The > cancer has eaten almost all the way through her leg..so her leg > could snap at any moment. I posted a new pic I took of Endear about > a week ago. Life is so unfair....ok, starting to bawl my eyes out... > Some of you are probably wondering why Im so upset..she's not even > MY dog. But I truly believe god brought us to THAT dog. I told my > mom she had to rescue a greyhound. That eliminated all other breeds. > Had to be female...my Mom wanted a girl. That eliminated all the > males. Had to be fawn, that eliminated all the blacks, blues, > brindles etc. We " trial " walked one fawn dog, but I just knew that > was the wrong dog. We went back into the kennel and found Endear > kenneled in a little cage, not even able to turn around, and I just > KNEW she was the ONE. I have no regrets about picking that dog, > despite the fact that my heart is breaking. In her face you can see > her gentle temperament. On her body you can see horrendous scars > and that her spine has been broken in racing injuries. But in her > eyes you can see so much love and gratitude.... > Sorry to ramble on about this...I am just devastated... > Hope you are all keeping well. Miss you... > Coyote > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Hi Coyote, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I know how hard it is to lose a pet. I had a mixed Cocker Spaniel for nearly 14 years and was very much loved by myself and my parents. About 3 1/2 years ago, Pixie broke her back leg going through the doggie door. (I think) I carried her to the vet and she put her leg in a cast. She didn't x-ray because it was very obvious that it was broken. About a month after it healed, she broke her front paw. I carried her back to the vet and they x-rayed her whole body. She had bone cancer throughout her whole body. The vet suggested the most loving thing for me to do would be to put her to sleep because the bones would continue to snap and cause her most pain. It was one of the hardest things I had to do but it was for the best. She had these big eyes that were very expressing and the happiness had gone and was replaced by hurt. It took me a long time to get over losing her because 14 years is a long time but she will always have a special place in my heart. Of course, I am not suggesting that you place this wonderful pet to sleep. I just wanted you to know that I relate with you and will say a prayer for you. Jackie G. heartbroken... I havent visited the site in a while. I am SO on the verge of losing it...I cry all the time now. Between my Dad and this latest unrelated thing: We took my parent's precious 4 year old retired racing greyhound to the vet the other day because she had a sore leg and was limping. Thought it was a pulled tendon or something that you would expect of a dog that races around the yard at 45 MPH...had an xray....Endear has bone cancer and will die in 5-6 weeks. The cancer has eaten almost all the way through her leg..so her leg could snap at any moment. I posted a new pic I took of Endear about a week ago. Life is so unfair....ok, starting to bawl my eyes out... Some of you are probably wondering why Im so upset..she's not even MY dog. But I truly believe god brought us to THAT dog. I told my mom she had to rescue a greyhound. That eliminated all other breeds. Had to be female...my Mom wanted a girl. That eliminated all the males. Had to be fawn, that eliminated all the blacks, blues, brindles etc. We " trial " walked one fawn dog, but I just knew that was the wrong dog. We went back into the kennel and found Endear kenneled in a little cage, not even able to turn around, and I just KNEW she was the ONE. I have no regrets about picking that dog, despite the fact that my heart is breaking. In her face you can see her gentle temperament. On her body you can see horrendous scars and that her spine has been broken in racing injuries. But in her eyes you can see so much love and gratitude.... Sorry to ramble on about this...I am just devastated... Hope you are all keeping well. Miss you... Coyote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Coyote, I have tears in my eyes too. I want to thank you and your family for taking care of Endear and for making her last years great. It was a very special thing that you all did for her and I know that she appreciates the love that came her way. I suppose you have to be an animal person to know that dogs/cats feel so many of the same emotions that we do and while this news is very sad indeed please remember that she will not die alone without anyone to love her through this. You don't have to worry about sharing your grief here...I believe that this site is for all that we go through. Does your dad know about Endear? Courage heartbroken... >I havent visited the site in a while. I am SO on the verge of losing >it...I cry all the time now. Between my Dad and this latest >unrelated thing: We took my parent's precious 4 year old retired >racing greyhound to the vet the other day because she had a sore leg >and was limping. Thought it was a pulled tendon or something that >you would expect of a dog that races around the yard at 45 MPH...had >an xray....Endear has bone cancer and will die in 5-6 weeks. The >cancer has eaten almost all the way through her leg..so her leg >could snap at any moment. I posted a new pic I took of Endear about >a week ago. Life is so unfair....ok, starting to bawl my eyes out... >Some of you are probably wondering why Im so upset..she's not even >MY dog. But I truly believe god brought us to THAT dog. I told my >mom she had to rescue a greyhound. That eliminated all other breeds. >Had to be female...my Mom wanted a girl. That eliminated all the >males. Had to be fawn, that eliminated all the blacks, blues, >brindles etc. We " trial " walked one fawn dog, but I just knew that >was the wrong dog. We went back into the kennel and found Endear >kenneled in a little cage, not even able to turn around, and I just >KNEW she was the ONE. I have no regrets about picking that dog, >despite the fact that my heart is breaking. In her face you can see >her gentle temperament. On her body you can see horrendous scars >and that her spine has been broken in racing injuries. But in her >eyes you can see so much love and gratitude.... >Sorry to ramble on about this...I am just devastated... >Hope you are all keeping well. Miss you... >Coyote > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Simmel, That is a beautiful idea. I absolutely adore Great Danes and have heard that they are wonderful dogs to share ones life with. You can't help but be impressed with a dog the size of a horse! My mom and I saw two of them all summer long when we were feeding the pidgeons and both were very friendly dogs. Courage Re: heartbroken... >I do know how you feel as I am a dedicated dog person. I tell my guy how much I love him many, many times a day. He is the sweetest Great Dane we have EVER owned. Unfortunately, they have short lives so we have had many sad days after losing one. The last one the vet came to the house to put to sleep and I held him in my arms. I have saved his ashes and when my husband and I die the dogs ashes will be thrown in the ocean with ours. >Simmel > heartbroken... > > > I havent visited the site in a while. I am SO on the verge of losing > it...I cry all the time now. Between my Dad and this latest > unrelated thing: We took my parent's precious 4 year old retired > racing greyhound to the vet the other day because she had a sore leg > and was limping. Thought it was a pulled tendon or something that > you would expect of a dog that races around the yard at 45 MPH...had > an xray....Endear has bone cancer and will die in 5-6 weeks. The > cancer has eaten almost all the way through her leg..so her leg > could snap at any moment. I posted a new pic I took of Endear about > a week ago. Life is so unfair....ok, starting to bawl my eyes out... > Some of you are probably wondering why Im so upset..she's not even > MY dog. But I truly believe god brought us to THAT dog. I told my > mom she had to rescue a greyhound. That eliminated all other breeds. > Had to be female...my Mom wanted a girl. That eliminated all the > males. Had to be fawn, that eliminated all the blacks, blues, > brindles etc. We " trial " walked one fawn dog, but I just knew that > was the wrong dog. We went back into the kennel and found Endear > kenneled in a little cage, not even able to turn around, and I just > KNEW she was the ONE. I have no regrets about picking that dog, > despite the fact that my heart is breaking. In her face you can see > her gentle temperament. On her body you can see horrendous scars > and that her spine has been broken in racing injuries. But in her > eyes you can see so much love and gratitude.... > Sorry to ramble on about this...I am just devastated... > Hope you are all keeping well. Miss you... > Coyote > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2003 Report Share Posted December 18, 2003 Courage: I just read about Endear. I'm so sorry. We lost our yellow lab just before Hallowe'en (actually we didn't lose her - she's at a friend's house until life settles for us) but we still cry over her because it's looking like we'll never get her back. (a long story I'll tell you about at another time) How does your mom feel about what is happening to Endear? Is she able to comprehend what is happening to her beloved dog? For her sake I hope she's not aware. She seemed to take a lot of care to essentially tell you what dog she wanted even before you got her. After having her, she naturally only grew to love her even more. I do understand what it's like to have to make a difficult decision re: a pet. Please know you have lots of support here. I'm so sorry you have to go through this on top of everything else. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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