Re: Jules alone or not

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Once again ...boundaries...it's HER choice whether or not to be alone.

she chooses whether to be friends with people or not...why do you have

to be her companion? our behaviors dictate the outcome...if I treat you

like compost then I doubt you'll want to be my friend...I make a choice

on how to treat you and you make a choice whether you want to be my

friend...I can't make you be my friend, that's YOUR choice. Then comes

the attitude thingy....you don't have to choose to feel guilty about not

being my friend..it was simply a choice based on your boundaries. You

wouldn't let me come over and dupm my garbage on your lawn, would you?!

would you feel guilty for saying stop, you can't do that...same thing

basically. Btw, everyone dies everntually, what you miss are the good

times shared with that person...nadas give us very few of those I

think....or least mine hasn't.

Ilene

hnjstaff@... wrote:

> I think (I still trying to figure it out myself) that I am afraid that

> everything she says will come true.

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> She will be all alone.

> This will come back to haunt me some day with my kids.

> She will die and I will miss her.

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> I was thinking the other day. She lives in all that filth. If a news

> station got ahold of it, they would say that we kids should have been

> there for her. We were there in the beginning, but what can we do

> now. She doesn't want our input.

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> Jules

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> Jules, are you afraid she'll cut you out of her life? would that be so

> awful? Most of us that don't talk to our nadas have gotten a lot of

> growth and peace during the silent years! Go back and work on your

> boundaries and eventually you'll get there...as you said you've made

> progress in other areas. It takes time to change all our hardwiring

> out

> for new improved stuff!

> Ilene

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