Re: Trial visit home for my dad

[Guest guest]

What a difficult time you are having now. I send you positive energy

to find your way through. I hope you all will keep all of your

options open and discuss them with each other. Being a care giver

takes an enormous toll and it's important to address the needs of ALL

of you as you are all affected by what's happening to your Dad.

While you're taking care of him remember to take a care of yourself

and encourage your Mom to do the same. My heart goes out to you.

> Hello:

>

> My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they

try

> to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

> largest problem at this point).

>

> We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day. Then,

> he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to

get

> back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already

begun

> to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a

comfortable

> place for him.

>

> This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us to

> try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how we

> cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has spoken

> of little else this entire week.

>

> I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

> throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses

and

> the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of their

> rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't know

> what he's like at that time.

>

> My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

> weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on

Monday.

> His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

> weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

> I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

> but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false

sense

> of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

> this started, she was the sick one.

>

> Does any of this make sense?

>

> I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you

know

> how it went.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

What a difficult time you are having now. I send you positive energy

to find your way through. I hope you all will keep all of your

options open and discuss them with each other. Being a care giver

takes an enormous toll and it's important to address the needs of ALL

of you as you are all affected by what's happening to your Dad.

While you're taking care of him remember to take a care of yourself

and encourage your Mom to do the same. My heart goes out to you.

> Hello:

>

> My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they

try

> to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

> largest problem at this point).

>

> We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day. Then,

> he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to

get

> back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already

begun

> to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a

comfortable

> place for him.

>

> This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us to

> try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how we

> cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has spoken

> of little else this entire week.

>

> I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

> throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses

and

> the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of their

> rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't know

> what he's like at that time.

>

> My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

> weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on

Monday.

> His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

> weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

> I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

> but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false

sense

> of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

> this started, she was the sick one.

>

> Does any of this make sense?

>

> I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you

know

> how it went.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

Abby, I live in Toronto. Where do you and your family live?

Courage

Trial visit home for my dad

>Hello:

>

>My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they try

>to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

>largest problem at this point).

>

>We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day. Then,

>he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to get

>back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already begun

>to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a comfortable

>place for him.

>

>This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us to

>try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how we

>cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has spoken

>of little else this entire week.

>

>I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

>throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses and

>the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of their

>rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't know

>what he's like at that time.

>

>My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

>weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on Monday.

>His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

>weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

>I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

>but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false sense

>of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

>this started, she was the sick one.

>

>Does any of this make sense?

>

>I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you know

>how it went.

>

>Abby

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Abby, I live in Toronto. Where do you and your family live?

Courage

Trial visit home for my dad

>Hello:

>

>My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they try

>to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

>largest problem at this point).

>

>We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day. Then,

>he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to get

>back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already begun

>to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a comfortable

>place for him.

>

>This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us to

>try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how we

>cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has spoken

>of little else this entire week.

>

>I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

>throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses and

>the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of their

>rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't know

>what he's like at that time.

>

>My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

>weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on Monday.

>His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

>weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

>I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

>but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false sense

>of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

>this started, she was the sick one.

>

>Does any of this make sense?

>

>I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you know

>how it went.

>

>Abby

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Coyote:

I'm in Kleinberg but my parents live in Etobicoke.

Nice to know members span the globe but there are some around locally

too.

Abby

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the warm thought samchigirl.

I'm even more worried about bringing my dad home after a call from my

mom.

I didn't visit the hospital this morning. (This is only the second

time I haven't gone since he's been in). I had trouble sleeping last

night and I have developed an awful cold. I decided to stay home and

just try to relax and ready myself for his visit tomorrow.

Apparently, when my mom got to the hospital, she found him lying

sideways on his bed clutching a razor. She asked my dad to get up so

he could be more comfortable. He got up and, while saying the razor

didn't work, he fainted. He was out for a very short time.

What disturbs me is that the nurses or the doctor who came soon

afterwards didn't bother to take my dad's blood pressure and seemed

to attribute this fall to his illness. Is this true? I know my dad

does have a horrible illness but could he be right when he says the

meds are making him sicker? (He's on 10 mg. of Aricept and an anti-

depressant that starts with a " T " . He was just put on the anti-

depressant on Monday)

I just wish that they had been a bit more reassuring to my mom. My

dad says he feels a bit shaken up but doesn't want to talk about it.

He appears embarrassed.

Will this disease stop at nothing while it destroys our LOs and us in

its wake? Once again, I hate this damn illness!!!

Abby

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the warm thought samchigirl.

I'm even more worried about bringing my dad home after a call from my

mom.

I didn't visit the hospital this morning. (This is only the second

time I haven't gone since he's been in). I had trouble sleeping last

night and I have developed an awful cold. I decided to stay home and

just try to relax and ready myself for his visit tomorrow.

Apparently, when my mom got to the hospital, she found him lying

sideways on his bed clutching a razor. She asked my dad to get up so

he could be more comfortable. He got up and, while saying the razor

didn't work, he fainted. He was out for a very short time.

What disturbs me is that the nurses or the doctor who came soon

afterwards didn't bother to take my dad's blood pressure and seemed

to attribute this fall to his illness. Is this true? I know my dad

does have a horrible illness but could he be right when he says the

meds are making him sicker? (He's on 10 mg. of Aricept and an anti-

depressant that starts with a " T " . He was just put on the anti-

depressant on Monday)

I just wish that they had been a bit more reassuring to my mom. My

dad says he feels a bit shaken up but doesn't want to talk about it.

He appears embarrassed.

Will this disease stop at nothing while it destroys our LOs and us in

its wake? Once again, I hate this damn illness!!!

Abby

[Guest guest]

Hi Abby,

I hope that things go smoothly over the weekend. Try not to be too

anxious over it....whatever will be, will be. Just try to make sure

he gets lots of rest and take things moment by moment. I'll be

thinking of you and looking forward to hearing how things go.

Hugs, Coyote

> Hello:

>

> My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they

try

> to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

> largest problem at this point).

>

> We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day.

Then,

> he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to

get

> back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already

begun

> to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a

comfortable

> place for him.

>

> This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us

to

> try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how

we

> cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has

spoken

> of little else this entire week.

>

> I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

> throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses

and

> the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of

their

> rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't

know

> what he's like at that time.

>

> My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

> weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on

Monday.

> His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

> weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

> I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

> but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false

sense

> of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

> this started, she was the sick one.

>

> Does any of this make sense?

>

> I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you

know

> how it went.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

Hi Abby,

I hope that things go smoothly over the weekend. Try not to be too

anxious over it....whatever will be, will be. Just try to make sure

he gets lots of rest and take things moment by moment. I'll be

thinking of you and looking forward to hearing how things go.

Hugs, Coyote

> Hello:

>

> My dad has been in the hospital for about a month now while they

try

> to find some medication to help control his dementia (really his

> largest problem at this point).

>

> We brought him home for (Canadian) Thanksgiving for the day.

Then,

> he was tired and quite unresponsive. It hurt to see him want to

get

> back to the hospital by 3:00 in the afternoon. He had already

begun

> to define that place in his mind as " home " or at least a

comfortable

> place for him.

>

> This weekend we're bringing Dad home again. His doctor wants us

to

> try him at home every now and again so we can see how he and how

we

> cope with him at night. He truly wants to come home and has

spoken

> of little else this entire week.

>

> I'm scared though. My mother and my sister will be with him

> throughout the night which is when he's at his worst. The nurses

and

> the other patients say my Dad wanders aimlessly in and out of

their

> rooms throughout the night. Because we're not there, we don't

know

> what he's like at that time.

>

> My mother still insists on having him home with her ASAP. This

> weekend will be a trial run. We have our family meeting on

Monday.

> His doctor has told us to bring him back at anytime throughout the

> weekend if he appears seriously confused or demented.

>

> I so want my father and my family to have a great weekend together

> but I'm concerned that if he does, my mother will have a false

sense

> of security and not feel as compelled to get help. Before any of

> this started, she was the sick one.

>

> Does any of this make sense?

>

> I'll try and post throughout the weekend or after it to let you

know

> how it went.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

Abby...You're so lucky...Kleinburg is THE most beautiful place

around ESPECIALLY in the Autumn! Take a moment over the weekend just

to look at the beautiful trees...you'd be surprised how therapeutic

it can be. Last weekend I took my daughters out, found a beautiful

creek with gorgeous Autumn trees as a backdrop to photograph them.

Felt great just to stop and smell the roses for a minute!! By the

way, I moved here (near Cayuga Speedway) from Etobicoke.

(Westway/grove).

Hugs, Coyote

> Hi Coyote:

>

> I'm in Kleinberg but my parents live in Etobicoke.

>

> Nice to know members span the globe but there are some around

locally

> too.

>

> Abby

[Guest guest]

Well, I am not a doctor...but I certainly think his BP should have

been checked out. Although falls are common with LBD patients, they

shouldnt just cast off loss of consciousness as just being part of

the disease! LBD is not the only illness LBD patients can get!!!

Well, maybe his body is just adjusting to the new antidepressant...I

hope....I hope he will be ok over the weekend. I'll keep him (and of

course, you) in my prayers.

-Coyote

> Thanks for the warm thought samchigirl.

>

> I'm even more worried about bringing my dad home after a call from

my

> mom.

>

> I didn't visit the hospital this morning. (This is only the

second

> time I haven't gone since he's been in). I had trouble sleeping

last

> night and I have developed an awful cold. I decided to stay home

and

> just try to relax and ready myself for his visit tomorrow.

>

> Apparently, when my mom got to the hospital, she found him lying

> sideways on his bed clutching a razor. She asked my dad to get up

so

> he could be more comfortable. He got up and, while saying the

razor

> didn't work, he fainted. He was out for a very short time.

>

> What disturbs me is that the nurses or the doctor who came soon

> afterwards didn't bother to take my dad's blood pressure and

seemed

> to attribute this fall to his illness. Is this true? I know my

dad

> does have a horrible illness but could he be right when he says

the

> meds are making him sicker? (He's on 10 mg. of Aricept and an

anti-

> depressant that starts with a " T " . He was just put on the anti-

> depressant on Monday)

>

> I just wish that they had been a bit more reassuring to my mom.

My

> dad says he feels a bit shaken up but doesn't want to talk about

it.

> He appears embarrassed.

>

> Will this disease stop at nothing while it destroys our LOs and us

in

> its wake? Once again, I hate this damn illness!!!

>

> Abby