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<<<<Our nada would not allow us to dress ourselves or pick out clothes

until we were old enough to buy our own! Our hair always had to be

perfect, clothes clean, not wrinkled.. I don't think I ever played

in a mud puddle! When nada lived with sister, she was doing the same

thing with my neice. Now that nada is gone I think it helps my

sister see that letting Neice have some control over what she wears

is good for her. My little 3 (almost 4!) year old neice is so picky

about what she wears too! My sister is so cool though, she lets her

go out in " outfits " that most kids only wear on halloween or " dress

up. " (Nada would not approve!) It is so cute, my neice will have on

a tu-tu, sparkly tights, 18 hair barrettes, big dress up

plastic " high heels " and a cardigan sweater and will be so proud to

look so beautiful! People out in public always see that proud look

and give her tons of compliments on looking so pretty. Of course

when it comes to going to school, sis is able to encourage her to

dress a little more conservatively I still love the fact that

she's able to express her own little sense of " style " from time to

time though. For a long time it was difficult for neice to be

convinced to wear clothes at all--lol! She only wanted to wear her

bathing suit or nothing. Sis was able to find a middle ground with

her--telling her that at home she could wear her bathing suit as much

as she wanted, but if she wanted to go somewhere, she had to wear

clothes! haha--it worked so far, the fits over having to wear

something have all but ceased and she even had on a " normal " looking

outfit yesterday! Sometimes though, I envy her ability to wear a

tutu and feather boa for everyday activities--wouldn't it be great if

we all could dress like that?! haha Kids are so fun! >>>>>

Thanks for the heads up =) I let my children do what they want as

far as clothing goes. Your post reminded me more and more of my childhood,

where nada would make me wear clothes I HATED!!!!! There was no getting out

of it with her, as she would lay a huge guilt trip on me at age 4-5 if I even

questioned what she laid out for me to wear. As I got older, maybe about 11?

I had to babysit and babysit to earn as much $ as I could to buy my own

clothes, cause she cut me off. Even though she was getting a nice whopper

check from my father, and even though for most of my life she lived rent

free. It seemed to give her great joy to make me suffer in any manner she

could. When I was in 4th grade I was made to do my own laundry/iron my own

clothes, and I look on at my children and think WHOA, they could never do

that! Would I want them playing with an IRON?

Weird how these BP's chose to live so much for children ( Homes, and my

nada a teacher...)??????

Thanks so much =)

Kim