~Children~reply to wendy

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<<<<Hi Kim!

I could sooooo relate to this! Nada would be around my little family, and

be upset. Couldn't figure out WHAT her problem was till much later when I

found out about BPD. Now I can see how my closeness had upset her. In my

family( I mentioned this before) we have a way of pulling one-liners, or

jokes, from comedies and running with it. One would start and then we were

off!! lol Since nada didn't watch the movies we did she would be out of the

loop. Instead of seeing our happiness and being glad for us, she was angry

and resentful. To the point where she didn't want my daughters along when we

went shopping or whatever. I refuse to leave my children behind for her or

anyone! If nada could she would have divided my little family in a heart

beat! There was no one to help me but that doesn't mean that I won't be

there for mine even in she is my mother! My children come first, that's

healthy.

Warm thoughts,

>>>>

It is so nice to go back and read what I have written and to also see

what everyone else has written. Amazing to me that we who have children are

so very protective and good about taking care of them/ rather than how we

were all raised.

NEVER did I leave my children with a stanger to babysit them, sure I have

plenty of friends who do but not me. My nada always told me I was " over

protective " . She is an alcoholic to boot, and there was no way I was leaving

my babies with her to go out while she was in town, hammered and wanting to

watch my children. The anger she threw at me because I would not let her do

my laundry, watch my children, or clean my house was so ridiculous~ I never

understood why that would make her angry, why folding my clothes was

important to her, or babysitting alone?????

I have made so many good choices when it has come to my children & nada, I am

pleased that I have.

Thanks for the note =)

Kim