Re: Carol, editH, Hania& everyone

[Guest guest]

Yes, , it was exactly as you describe.

My brother is an admitted binger alcoholic, and BPD too I'm quite sure.

He always told me mother would hit the bottle and go down the tubes

after she retired. I agreed. But, I never thought it would be like

THIS! She retired at 67, and she was fine for about 3 years, that is,

her drinking habits hadn't changed much. I was cautiously relieved. I

couldn't know the horror that lay ahead. Not then.

SmileS!

Carol

Hartley wrote:

> Yes Carol, my mom is the ex. same she is seventy now and although

> she had her suicide attempts and bpd behavior all along..her drinking

> really picked up when she hit her 60's and retired..She would call

> me nightly drunk..She has really decompensated..It was so funny I

> used to tell her to go get a volunteer job..Yeah right!!!

[Guest guest]

" Hartley " wrote:

Edith ..isn't it funny when we can tell if their is a bp on a list..I

belong to another list and one member immediately spilt me bad and no

matter what I say she has to jump in a give e rebuttal as she calls

it..I never seen anything quite like it form a true non although this

illness is a continuum, but I suspect she is highly bp..maybe why she

gets so mad when I talk about he genetic component of the disease.

Edith here,

Hi . It sounds like your posts about the possible genetic component

are yanking on her chain. I think the important thing now, especially

for us KOs, is that we're finally able to recognize BPD behaviors and,

of course, not take that stuff personally. With practice it does get

easier.

wrote:

Your post about he bp daughter coming home really hit home..My seven yr

old is doing well, but I have my fear of what the teen years will

bring. I have already seen my nieces behavior who is also bp and I

surely don't want my to end up with a similar course..All we can do

is keep talking and do the best with lots of prayer..

Edith here:

Yes, and you're doing the right things -- including getting the

psychiatric help that she needs. My hat is off to you. In my generation

and the previous generations, there was nothing available. Not even a

label. Now when I read the WelcomeToOz list and read the posts there of

the BPs on that (NonBP) list who have successfully completed therapy, I

know that in the future things can and will be different. We are now on

the threshold of things turning around for lots of people. There are an

estimated 6 million BPs on the N Am continent alone, and a much much

larger figure of those who have been affected by BP's. Incidently, if

you want to join the list for the parents of children (of any age) who

may have BPD its at:

http://www.yahoogroups.com/group/WTOparentsOfBPs

I'd also like to add a personal note here. I don't always respond on the

list when I see my name appear. It isn't because I don't want to or am

ignoring anyone. Like 's post on Christmas day was really nice to

receive and I re-posted it on our moderators list so Randi and the other

moderators could see it, too. Its good to know that those of us who work

behind the scenes are appreciated for what we do. The task of moderating

all these lists is very time consuming and, if we're doing our job

adequately, we put the fires out in time and keep the porno distractions

& etc off the list. Dan can attest to the fact that I've fallen asleep

while trying to respond to his emails on the NonNPD-oasis7 list. That's

the last list I get to at the end of the day (sometimes I put in 14 hour

days), and Dan's in a different time-zone (France, 8 hours away). He'd

be waking up when I was supposed to be going to bed. Like Hope is in a

different country, too, amid a lot of turmoil; and NAR, our youngest (16

yo) listmember, is in Australia. But the Earth keeps turning and the

days fly by and someday we'll all be able to look back like , one

of our former Oasans in Ireland, and remember the lifting of the FOG

stuff that we shared on this important journey -- the healing path.

Hugs all around,

- Edith

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[Guest guest]

> Yes Carol, my mom is the ex. same she is seventy now and although

she had her suicide attempts and bpd behavior all along..her drinking

really picked up when she hit her 60's and retired..She would call me

nightly drunk..She has really decompensated..It was so funny I used

to tell her to go get a volunteer job..Yeah right!!!

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\> Hania. Don't worry there are days when I think I am a nada

too..It is hard, but I think you are doing great...We are in recovery

and one day at a time..Let Go ..Let God

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> Many hugs and wishes for a Happy New year!!!!!!!

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