Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 The reason I was asking is that I would love to meet you in person. We go away most weekends until Thanksgiving, but after that I might be able to meet on a Saturday or something. I work until 6 during the week but might be able to swing an evening if that's better (assuming that you might want to do this too!) sheesh I am so forward ;-) Kath Where are ya from? > >> >> >> > > >> >> >> > > >> >> >> > >I keep noticing how people on the site are finding people in > >their > >> >> >> > >own areas...I was just wondering if there was anyone out there > >> >> >> from > >> >> >> > >near MY area??? Cayuga/Hagersville Ontario Canada. (40 mins S. > of > >> >> >> > >Hamilton). Thought maybe others might like to post where they > are > >> >> >> > >from in the hopes of connecting with someone nearby? > >> >> >> > >Hugs, Coyote > >> >> >> > > > >> >> >> > > > >> >> >> > > > >> >> >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2003 Report Share Posted September 17, 2003 Never mind forward, I'd love to meet with you. Could we get together sometime after Nov. 1? The reason being is that my daugther is getting married on this date and we are losing our minds getting people together for fittings and such every evening (we have 7 weeks to put this shindig together). I expect life to be back to normal after this. I'm looking foward to meeting you! Courage Re: Kath >The reason I was asking is that I would love to meet you in person. We go >away most weekends until Thanksgiving, but after that I might be able to >meet on a Saturday or something. I work until 6 during the week but might >be able to swing an evening if that's better (assuming that you might want >to do this too!) sheesh I am so forward ;-) > >Kath > Where are ya from? >> >> >> >> > >> >> >> >> > >> >> >> >> > >I keep noticing how people on the site are finding people in >> >their >> >> >> >> > >own areas...I was just wondering if there was anyone out there >> >> >> >> from >> >> >> >> > >near MY area??? Cayuga/Hagersville Ontario Canada. (40 mins S. >> of >> >> >> >> > >Hamilton). Thought maybe others might like to post where they >> are >> >> >> >> > >from in the hopes of connecting with someone nearby? >> >> >> >> > >Hugs, Coyote >> >> >> >> > > >> >> >> >> > > >> >> >> >> > > >> >> >> >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 Dear Kath: Yes, I found that this past year, when the realization that my daughter would be leaving soon, I made more time for both of them by cutting back. We can never substitute for the time spent together, even is it is doing nothing much. I am glad you still have a daughter at home! How old is she? Going back to school is a huge commitment, and you will have plenty of time for it when you have less responsibilities. I am sorry life feels like a roller coaster, maybe yu can take a walk at least once a week. Would your daughter go with you? You could get is done by the time your husband gets home! A couple of years ago, the telephone outlet for the computer in each of their rooms got damaged (from mistreatment, I am sure). They kept asking to have them fixed, bu I ignored them and kept puttingit off. They had to go on the computer in the family room from then on, so I could be there with them any time I wanted. I told just before she left & she thought it was cute/evil of me! LOL! Your diet routine seems like mine used to be! After my change of life, I went up to 150 lbs., I am short with tiny bones. That was 8 lbs more than my pregnacy weight, I exercised and got down to a stable weight, but could loose no more for over 6 years. Last Thanksgiving I could not continue exercising regularly, and stayed in the same weight. Finally, 2 months ago I went on the Atkins diet, after several others, including our own South Beach Diet. I now lost 12 lbs. Conclusion: I think exercise makes you more healthy and feel better, but in order to loose weight , the only thing that worked was not eating. Atkins takes you out of the carbohydrate addiction, and with the increased protein intake, I am never hungry. I also added flaxseed oil to the diet and watch out for the cholesterol content in all foods, and drink 8 oz of water before meals. I am 58 years old and have to get back to exercising to keep my metabolism up, etc. I am glad you are using your time for your family. That is the best way you can take care of yourself. My best to you Kath, keep in touch, hugs, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2003 Report Share Posted September 18, 2003 Dear Josie I wish I could put my life back somewhat. I feel like I am on a roller coaster that is driving in the dark...I gave up my efforts to go to part time university this fall as I was far too overwhelmed with everyone else and even though I miss it sometimes, the stress level has gone down a great deal. I have decided that since I can't stop that roller coaster I might as well sit back and hang on for dear life instead of having my hands busy doing other things... I am glad to hear that you are doing something for yourself. I thought I was too with going back to school but the truth is it was causing more time away from family and I have enough of that dealing with mom living next door. My husband started a new job in January and he is gone from the house at 7:15 am and doesn't return before 7:30-8:00 pm. I want to be there for my daughter and for the little time I have with him and homework and class time would interfere. Perhaps I will go back when I feel there is a better time but for now I cannot cope with that too. I have never " ran " but have seriously tried to walk for exercise and was doing well until a couple of years ago. I stopped one day and never quite got back into the routine. I am usually trying to lose weight or I'm gaining it and I hate that I have to think about it all the time but again I can't seem to fit walking in to the schedule at this timeexcept for a casual now and then. But despite everything I am feeling better than I was last spring so I guess cutting back on things WAS taking care of myself. Kath Kath: Re: Kath > Dear Kath: > > I know what you mean about not finding time to answer posts. I am glad > everything is ok with you and the shoes! It is also great that you are managing > your mom's caregivers so well. She seems to be good and patient. > > I am trying to cope with my oldest daughter moving to college. I see yous > are both out of the house, as well. That is so difficult. Take care of > yourself. I got posts from some members of the group telling me to take care of me, > so I started back to my running this evening (of the 16th). I power walked > around the lake at the University of Miami 4 times & ran about 1 block twice. > I haven't really exercised since last Thanksgiving, and have to take it easy. > Tomorrow will be a moth of my dad's death and Friday is my mom's birthday, so > I want to get back to my life and reorganize everything. It is time now. > > I had saved your post because I wanted to make sure to respond to it. > It is past 4 AM in Miami, and I am going back to sleep. I'll be praying for > you, hugs, > > Josie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2003 Report Share Posted September 19, 2003 Dear Donna: Thank you, yes, I have to get with my agenda and my lists and make a whole new schedule for myself. I am going back to my running and other exercise routines that make me feel so much better, so I can make up for what was supposed to be done in the summer. I am feeling better already and alittle more efficient. I appreciate your concern. Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2003 Report Share Posted September 19, 2003 > Kath, sending you a huge cyber hug and a large glass (or make that a bottle) > of wine. > Courage > > Re: Simmel: Re: re: > > > >My mother has been quite depressed as she has felt lousy the last few days. > >Hallucinations returned when we tried her on bladder medication and > although > >they have diminished since we stopped it she seems to be going through a > >rough time. Her eyes have been very sore (dry eye) and she doesn't like to > >have the ointment the doctor suggested she have as it makes vision in her > >bad eye " blurry " . Yeah, I want to say what does it matter, you don't see > >well in that eye anyway, but instead I just let her put the dry eye drops > in > >instead against my better judgement and because they have to be put in > often > >(and she doesn't remember or ask for it until it is really sore) it got > >really sore. Again the doctor said she needs the ointment and last night > >she complained that it " runs " out of her eye. I explained that it " has " to > >go in, in order for it to work etc. and I felt so frustrated as I spent an > >hour and a half at the doctors so he could tell her what I already knew but > >which she wouldn't believe me. She also thought the washing machine was > >broken and wouldn't let the caregiver do the laundry (this is the third > >time I have shown her that it works (more time) and the caregiver how to > >operate (because MOM thinks she doesn't know how to use it--even though I > >know she knows)ARRRRRRRRRRRRGHH!!!!! > >Well I haven't slept well in the last 3 nights and so I lost it. She told > >me that I was treating her badly, and she couldn't believe that I would > >treat her like that. That I must hate her to treat her like dirt. My > >response was " yeah mom, I really hate you so much, I took off work for an > >hour and a half and brought you to the doctor and when I knew I couldn't do > >anything more for your eye I tried to get someone to help you as soon as > >possible. she replied that she might as well be dead. ARRRRRRRRGH!!!! > >Well , I told her I might as well be dead too. I think this " shocked " > her. > >I was crying and yelling at the time as I felt so overwhelmed. She said > " no > >you have your family " . And I replied " so do you " . You have me and the > >kids, and Jack (my brother) and his family and my sister and her family and > >even though she doesn't always like what they do, they still love her... I > >told her that she needs to " think positive, and not dwell on her sickness. " > >I explained that although we know she feels lousy sometimes that instead of > >focussing on it she can try to do things to get her mind off her troubles > >(adult day program) and when someone says " how've you been? " they are not > >expecting a half hour discusssion on how lousy she feels, how bad her > >eyesight is, how she feels sick to her stomach, and all the other ailments. > >I even went as far as to say there are people that have no legs, or can't > >see at all, or have only the ability to move their chin and type in a > >computer but they carry on and don't let it get them down. Anyway I felt > >terrible after for lecturing her and yelling at her when she was down but I > >couldn't help myself. In the end I apologized for making her feel bad, > told > >her I loved her and hugged her. I tried to explain that I hate this > disease > >(which she then questioned she has...again) and how frustrating it is to > >explain and explain over and over, and how when she fights me on things > that > >have to happen (let the caregiver do the laundry...when I say it is working > >I shouldn't have to prove it to you as I wouldn't lie) it makes me > >crazy...and then I went home. > > > >Wow. Sharing that exhausted me. > > > >Kath > > Re: Simmel: Re: re: > > > > > >> Hi, Simmel, > >> > >> Even though I am a child, not a spouse, of an LBD sufferer, I sympathize > >with > >> how you are feeling. Sometimes it feels like there is a 400 pound > gorilla > >on > >> top of me, and he is never going to move. My dad and I have worked > >together > >> for 17 years, and since he has been ill, I have lived with my parents. I > >knew > >> my mother just couldn't do all that by herself. I still bring my Dad to > >work > >> with me in the mornings. Whenever I do get the chance to go out, I > >constantly > >> am worried about my dad at home. My cell phone has become like another > >> appendage. As much as I would like to get away from the cell phone, it > >does give > >> me some comfort to know that Mom can reach me whenever there is a > problem. > >I > >> can always be home within a matter of minutes. > >> > >> I try not to loose my patience with Dad, but sometimes I do. My sister > >> thinks I'm crazy for being unpleasant, but she's not dealing with it > 24/7. > >I guess > >> I wish that more children and siblings would get involved with caring for > >> their aging parents. The people in this group are so wonderful for > taking > >care > >> of their parent(s). I wish more of the rest of the world out there would > >> follow their example. > >> > >> Well, enough rambling. I just wanted you to know that we are here with > >you, > >> and thinking of you. > >> > >> Big hugs, > >> > >> Piper > >> > >> > >> > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2003 Report Share Posted September 19, 2003 Kath, sending you a huge cyber hug and a large glass (or make that a bottle) of wine. Courage Re: Simmel: Re: re: >My mother has been quite depressed as she has felt lousy the last few days. >Hallucinations returned when we tried her on bladder medication and although >they have diminished since we stopped it she seems to be going through a >rough time. Her eyes have been very sore (dry eye) and she doesn't like to >have the ointment the doctor suggested she have as it makes vision in her >bad eye " blurry " . Yeah, I want to say what does it matter, you don't see >well in that eye anyway, but instead I just let her put the dry eye drops in >instead against my better judgement and because they have to be put in often >(and she doesn't remember or ask for it until it is really sore) it got >really sore. Again the doctor said she needs the ointment and last night >she complained that it " runs " out of her eye. I explained that it " has " to >go in, in order for it to work etc. and I felt so frustrated as I spent an >hour and a half at the doctors so he could tell her what I already knew but >which she wouldn't believe me. She also thought the washing machine was >broken and wouldn't let the caregiver do the laundry (this is the third >time I have shown her that it works (more time) and the caregiver how to >operate (because MOM thinks she doesn't know how to use it--even though I >know she knows)ARRRRRRRRRRRRGHH!!!!! >Well I haven't slept well in the last 3 nights and so I lost it. She told >me that I was treating her badly, and she couldn't believe that I would >treat her like that. That I must hate her to treat her like dirt. My >response was " yeah mom, I really hate you so much, I took off work for an >hour and a half and brought you to the doctor and when I knew I couldn't do >anything more for your eye I tried to get someone to help you as soon as >possible. she replied that she might as well be dead. ARRRRRRRRGH!!!! >Well , I told her I might as well be dead too. I think this " shocked " her. >I was crying and yelling at the time as I felt so overwhelmed. She said " no >you have your family " . And I replied " so do you " . You have me and the >kids, and Jack (my brother) and his family and my sister and her family and >even though she doesn't always like what they do, they still love her... I >told her that she needs to " think positive, and not dwell on her sickness. " >I explained that although we know she feels lousy sometimes that instead of >focussing on it she can try to do things to get her mind off her troubles >(adult day program) and when someone says " how've you been? " they are not >expecting a half hour discusssion on how lousy she feels, how bad her >eyesight is, how she feels sick to her stomach, and all the other ailments. >I even went as far as to say there are people that have no legs, or can't >see at all, or have only the ability to move their chin and type in a >computer but they carry on and don't let it get them down. Anyway I felt >terrible after for lecturing her and yelling at her when she was down but I >couldn't help myself. In the end I apologized for making her feel bad, told >her I loved her and hugged her. I tried to explain that I hate this disease >(which she then questioned she has...again) and how frustrating it is to >explain and explain over and over, and how when she fights me on things that >have to happen (let the caregiver do the laundry...when I say it is working >I shouldn't have to prove it to you as I wouldn't lie) it makes me >crazy...and then I went home. > >Wow. Sharing that exhausted me. > >Kath > Re: Simmel: Re: re: > > >> Hi, Simmel, >> >> Even though I am a child, not a spouse, of an LBD sufferer, I sympathize >with >> how you are feeling. Sometimes it feels like there is a 400 pound gorilla >on >> top of me, and he is never going to move. My dad and I have worked >together >> for 17 years, and since he has been ill, I have lived with my parents. I >knew >> my mother just couldn't do all that by herself. I still bring my Dad to >work >> with me in the mornings. Whenever I do get the chance to go out, I >constantly >> am worried about my dad at home. My cell phone has become like another >> appendage. As much as I would like to get away from the cell phone, it >does give >> me some comfort to know that Mom can reach me whenever there is a problem. >I >> can always be home within a matter of minutes. >> >> I try not to loose my patience with Dad, but sometimes I do. My sister >> thinks I'm crazy for being unpleasant, but she's not dealing with it 24/7. >I guess >> I wish that more children and siblings would get involved with caring for >> their aging parents. The people in this group are so wonderful for taking >care >> of their parent(s). I wish more of the rest of the world out there would >> follow their example. >> >> Well, enough rambling. I just wanted you to know that we are here with >you, >> and thinking of you. >> >> Big hugs, >> >> Piper >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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