Re: Lost my workout buddy :-(

February 15, 2001

Amy, my daughter does the same thing, although she is 8 and thinks I am

really fat, so she gets really frusturated that I can make it through all the

workouts and I can kick higher and balance now. She has learned a lot as

well, and so I keep reminding her that she has to work at getting better like

I did, and then if she pouts I ignore her. But, as for your step daughter,

remember that this is her own insecurity, and just remind her or invite her

to continue working out with her. If she says no, then that is fine, but keep

asking her, she will come around again.

Temera

February 15, 2001

> So now I have to workout with just whatever stray kids want to :-(

I hope she keeps it up without me but I will miss having another

adult there.

That's a bummer, Amy. I'm sorry you lost your workout partner. It's

a greater loss to her, however.

Elena

February 15, 2001

>

She is mad that since she is not as heavy (yeah, ouch that hurt!) and

younger that she should be doing more than me and she is doing less. I don't

watch her since she is usually behind me when we do it. I thought she kept

up last night with the advanced like I did but I guess she didn't. I won't

lower my tempo to make her feel better - I enjoy pushing myself.

Amy,

What a bummer! I have a competitive streak in me so often when I modify I

just don't look at the tv...then I don't feel as if I " can't keep up " .

Really it is just a 'mental game'. I know it is better to modify so you can

do it correctly and not get injured, than to try to keep up...but that

little competitive devil tries to sneak out every now and then <G>.

And you're right we all have different strengths and weaknesses. My sister,

who is 8 years older than me (exactly 8 yrs, I was born on her birtday), can

still kick my butt if we race. She is like a gazelle...so extremely fast!

I'd be willing to be my mom could come pretty close to beating me too. I'm

pretty fast, played soccer, ran track, etc., but that is something they

excel in. If i would have let it bother me, I never would have gained the

benefits I did of playing soccer and running track. Sometimes it is hard,

but we have to learn to look at ourselves and our own progress vs. comparing

to someone else.

Colleen

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February 15, 2001

That's too bad Amy that she has to feel that way. Everybody is

different, that is for certain.... When I began Tae-Bo I had to take

at least six breaks and I mean SIX breaks in 30 minutes. I would

stop the tape and walk it out so I could continue to live and

breathe!! When my best friend began Tae-Bo, it was practicly a walk

in the park for her!! She could get through 30 minutes in no time!!

Anyway, when she began, I had been tae-boing for a year and she could

pretty-much keep up with me!! Everybody is different. I probabaly

will never have 'excellent' cardio, but I do have a lot of muscle

build. I hope your step-daughter changes her attitude and comes back

to exercising w/ ya... Until then keep up the great work girl!!! It

sure sounds like you are pushing it!!

Darcy

> I don't know if I should be sad or mad or hurt or what. My

stepdaughter has been my buddy during workouts. She is 21 and a

little bit (only 4'11 and 110 pounds), I am almost 30, 5'6 and 159

pounds. She can't do what I do and now won't workout with me. She is

mad that since she is not as heavy (yeah, ouch that hurt!) and

younger that she should be doing more than me and she is doing less.

I don't watch her since she is usually behind me when we do it. I

thought she kept up last night with the advanced like I did but I

guess she didn't. I won't lower my tempo to make her feel better - I

enjoy pushing myself. I tried explaining that I have always been

athletic in my build but that didn't help. I tried pointing out how

much strength and endurance she has gained (A TON!!) and how much

better she looks and feels - it didn't work. I tried explaining that

we can't all be Shellie - everyone is different. If I got upset that

I can't do it like Shellie that would be silly. So now I have to

workout with just whatever stray kids want to :-( I hope she keeps it

up without me but I will miss having another adult there.

> Amy M. <- BUMMED!!

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February 15, 2001

> She is mad that since she is not as heavy (yeah, ouch that hurt!)

and younger that she should be doing more than me and she is doing

less.

Amy M,

I'm so sorry your stepdaughter doesn't want to work out with you

anymore! It's hard not to compare ourselves to others. I fall into

that trap when I'm at the WTC and I see people around me who are WAY

better than I am....then I start thinking " Geez, I'm an instructor

and can't keep up with this pace...what's wrong with me " or stuff

like that! What I've come to realize is that the only person I have

to compare myself to is me! I know what I am capable of and while

it's hard sometimes to realize that I'm not the best...LOL...it's ok

because it's not a race! Tae-Bo isn't about being better than

someone else...it's about changing yourself and pushing yourself

Just because you weigh less than somebody else doesn't necessarily

mean that you will be better at Tae-Bo! I think talks about

that in his book...about how there could be a totally out of shape

housewife next to a completely fit bodybuilder and the out of shape

housewife would kick the bodybuilder's butt...LOL! The only thing

you can do is continue to encourage your stepdaughter to work out and

to remind her that Tae-Bo is about self-awareness and being the best

that SHE can be, not the best that YOU can be! Although, that's kind

of a hard concept to get at her age....I know I wouldn't have

listened when I was 21

February 15, 2001