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Hi , welcome!

Can you give a few examples, situations, of what she obsesses over? May help us

help you. Yes, children can obsess more. Usually there is some compulsion, tho

you may not recognize it; although many sufferers will say they just have the

" O " in OCD. My son has " bad thoughts " but I know there are at least some

compulsions/rituals he will do with some of them.

Some with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) will also obsess, so one reason I

was asking for any examples of what she will obsess over, what she might repeat

over & over....

Did the ADD meds help in any way, zoning out less at school?

Is any of it problems with transitioning? Like getting upset when things go

from routine to something unscheduled or new, etc.?

Some quick thoughts (and questions!).

Glad you found our group,

single mom, 3 sons

, now 22, with OCD, dysgraphia, HFA/Aspergers

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> hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

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Hi , welcome!

Can you give a few examples, situations, of what she obsesses over? May help us

help you. Yes, children can obsess more. Usually there is some compulsion, tho

you may not recognize it; although many sufferers will say they just have the

" O " in OCD. My son has " bad thoughts " but I know there are at least some

compulsions/rituals he will do with some of them.

Some with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) will also obsess, so one reason I

was asking for any examples of what she will obsess over, what she might repeat

over & over....

Did the ADD meds help in any way, zoning out less at school?

Is any of it problems with transitioning? Like getting upset when things go

from routine to something unscheduled or new, etc.?

Some quick thoughts (and questions!).

Glad you found our group,

single mom, 3 sons

, now 22, with OCD, dysgraphia, HFA/Aspergers

>

> hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

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Chris-

Thanks. She seems to be a worrier (as am I) and if she doesn't have anything

pressing to worry about, she will worry about other tthings...for example, this

summer she was not in school and we eliminated most pressures but she just one

night (in the middle of watching America's Got Talent) started worrying about

death. She was actually afraid of dying and spending FOREVER in Heaven. It was

the forever part that literally caused physical symptoms. We are church-goers

and she had physical reactions at church. We started working on techniques to

take her mind off the worries.

School soon started and about that same time we started ADD meds. She thinks it

helps her " stress less " . It seemed to be working...grades came up, reading

improved. Her only problem then seemed to be having a hard time if the class

was talking about something and she had something to add to the conversation, if

she couldn't add it she had trouble moving on to the next subject (would get

stuck on things).

Recently she has started the meltdowns again...first time was b/c she couldn't

get her bookbag packed quick enough or could not spell a spelling word or

couldn't get her work completed...during these " meltdowns " she seems paralyzed

(not physically, but mentally)... saying " I can't get it done " over and over or

" I'm scared " over and over??????

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> > hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

>

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Chris-

Thanks. She seems to be a worrier (as am I) and if she doesn't have anything

pressing to worry about, she will worry about other tthings...for example, this

summer she was not in school and we eliminated most pressures but she just one

night (in the middle of watching America's Got Talent) started worrying about

death. She was actually afraid of dying and spending FOREVER in Heaven. It was

the forever part that literally caused physical symptoms. We are church-goers

and she had physical reactions at church. We started working on techniques to

take her mind off the worries.

School soon started and about that same time we started ADD meds. She thinks it

helps her " stress less " . It seemed to be working...grades came up, reading

improved. Her only problem then seemed to be having a hard time if the class

was talking about something and she had something to add to the conversation, if

she couldn't add it she had trouble moving on to the next subject (would get

stuck on things).

Recently she has started the meltdowns again...first time was b/c she couldn't

get her bookbag packed quick enough or could not spell a spelling word or

couldn't get her work completed...during these " meltdowns " she seems paralyzed

(not physically, but mentally)... saying " I can't get it done " over and over or

" I'm scared " over and over??????

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> > hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

>

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My first thought is....are you certain of the ADD ? Sometimes with OCD - kids

get so lost in their thoughts that it can look alot like ADD. For example, my

son get concerned if his letters aren't perfect - he would spend so much time

looking and erasing and worring about his letters, that he missed alot of class

instruction. They can't help it - their brain starts pushing them around....

The back pact issue sounds familar - has to have things just right - or it will

bother them....It sounds like you have a good Dr. if they found the possible

OCD..

Best of luck - it will get better!

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> > > hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

> >

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My first thought is....are you certain of the ADD ? Sometimes with OCD - kids

get so lost in their thoughts that it can look alot like ADD. For example, my

son get concerned if his letters aren't perfect - he would spend so much time

looking and erasing and worring about his letters, that he missed alot of class

instruction. They can't help it - their brain starts pushing them around....

The back pact issue sounds familar - has to have things just right - or it will

bother them....It sounds like you have a good Dr. if they found the possible

OCD..

Best of luck - it will get better!

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> > > hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing

> >

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My son is more obsessive than compulsive. A therapist once told me that OCD is

really anxiety to the tenth degree and I would agree. CBT works well for GAD

and OCD

Bonnie

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> hi. I found this group this weekend after our first appointment with a

therapist. My 7 year old has had struggles on and off for years. She becomes

very anxious over things that others may take in stride. At times she has

meltdowns (crying, screaming, repeating the same phrases over and over). We

have previously just prayed that she would outgrow it and we did start meds for

ADD (thinking part of her anxiousness was caused by zoning out at school and

then not knowing what to do). Friday was the first time I thought this may be

OCD. Our therpist mentioned OCD (which he really thinks it is) or Generalized

anxiety. My question is about the compulsiveness...Do any of you have children

where it seems to be more about the obsessiveness and less about the

compulsivemeness? Just trying to figure this out so that I can help my sweet

girl.

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  • 2 weeks later...

Oh my! I have not been on in a week with Christmas and reading my new OCD book,

but when I logged on today and saw your responses...I can't really describe

it...I have tears just knowing that we are not alone. I am so thankful to have

found this group!!! Your responses to my little post were amazing, insightful,

so honest, and thoughful. We are truly in this together. Thank YOU, Thank

YOU!!!

We had our second therapy session this week and have lots of homework (a visual

schedule, a " can't journal " , and behavioral check list). Feel a little guilty

b/c I am a special ed teacher by training and would have recommended these for

my students, but didn't see to do it for my own daughter. I guess I was just too

close to the situation. Getting over the guilt and now ready to do the work.

Again, I cannot thank yall enough!!!

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> > I don't have any advice, but wanted to send you an e-mail and thank you.

Our son is 14 and was diagnosed about 2 1/2 years ago with OCD. Your son's

symptoms sound exactly like our's. He too is less compulsive and revolves

around intrusive bad thoughts. His compulsions are also asking me continuely

for reassurance and to " confess " everything that he thinks is " wrong " . Wow -

I'd never heard anyone say exactly the same thing as we've been living. He

lives with anxiety most days. I basically have the same thing -- so it makes me

sad to see him suffer as I have most of my life. However, we are now on 40 mg

of prozac - which I believe is helping.

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> > Good luck and hang in there. Thanks for helping me see that we are not

alone.

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> > Sent: Thursday, December 22, 2011 12:17 PM

> > Subject: Re: Re: Unsure parent

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> > My son's symptoms are less compulsive and revolve more around intrusive bad

thoughts. His compulsions take form in asking for continued reassurance and

confessing every thought he feels is unacceptable to me. He also shuts down with

severe test anxiety at school so getting him on a 504 so that he can have

untimed or extended time tests has helped a lot. I can relate to the meltdowns

and crying spells...this all has created a depression in him which is very

painful. & nbsp;So ocd can rear it's ugly head in different ways. & nbsp;

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> > -- Sent from my Palm Pre

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Hi , let us know how all the " homework " goes. Know what you mean about

being too close to a situation; have had to try to mentally step back and

think/observe myself sometimes, sort of like trying to get an idea of what I

would tell a friend in the same situation and then take my advice, lol. Helped

too some of those nights would be caught up for hours with OCD. Sigh!

Keep us updated,

> We had our second therapy session this week and have lots of homework (a

visual schedule, a " can't journal " , and behavioral check list). Feel a little

guilty b/c I am a special ed teacher by training and would have recommended

these for my students, but didn't see to do it for my own daughter. I guess I

was just too close to the situation. Getting over the guilt and now ready to do

the work.

>

> Again, I cannot thank yall enough!!!

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