POLITICS: Re: Any difference between vegan activists & right-to-lifers?

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OK, this doesn't directly relate, but it touched me.

I really don't follow movies much, or movie stars, but

it was amazing to read some of what went on

behind the scenes. Also inspiring ... it's easy to

feel sorry for our own particular issues.

Reeves is maybe an example of the OTHER extreme from

the activists ... well, he was an activist of sorts

but willing to experiment on himself, wherever that led.

-- Heidi Jean

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>

> robin ann, yes, but telling the truth can be cruel...and i honestly

> think that if we can manage to tell the truth with all the love in

us

> we can muster...then MAYBE it's okay.

>

> but just to tell the truth...i just don't think that's always a

good

> idea as that can be devastating.

>

> for example...telling a parent who is in old age and failing, how

> they have failed you as a parent...it's the truth, and it might be

> what you've always wanted to say, and you might not have been able

to

> say it when the aging parent was younger, for whatever reason,

> because now you are ready to say it and wanting, maybe desperately

to

> say it...but you have to think about how it will affect other

people.

>

> sometimes it's just better to talk to an objective third party...or

> to God himself, and look for the healing there.

>

> this is just an example.

>

> truth telling is great if it helps the person being told the truth,

> in a kind, loving and compassionate manner...but if it will only

hurt

> the person, i believe it's better to keep it in and tell someone

else.

>

> just my opinion.

>

> laura

Hi , hi all of you:

I seem to agree with this. Telling the very truth is a double-edged

tool. Some people are really unable to digest what you are saying. If

I have to tell the hard truth to someone, I would rather try to make

him or her realize it rather than show it to him or her directly. And

if it is something serious, I will try to bring forth its funny side

(everything has a funny side, so to say). And never sound too

accusatory. And always try to recognize my own part in the plot, if

any.

I think tact and compassion are in place when you are tackling with

truth issues or old grudges.

JC