Re: For in NJ....... (WAS: Raw Milk/Colds - )

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> Hi , I hope you will read and reconsider an excerpt of what

you posted

> earlier. Your operative words were these: " if you grow up on junk

food

> [does] your body somehow get used to it even if it is causing

degenerative

> disease? i felt good on junk food...despite what it was doing to me.

> apparently i tolerated junk food better than real, healthy foods,

because i

> grew up on a lot of junk food. "

>

> Okay now think about it. I know you want to be healthy and feel

good like

> all of us or you wouldn't be here. And I think you really know what

the

> answer to your question is. Forgive me for taking the uninvited

role of

> therapist but I went through this rebellious stage myself..

>

> Here's my pitch: It's hard to make choices when there is so much

emotion and

> history attached to what we eat. It's easier to take a potent pill

or drink

> a super-food elixir. (Or you can do as I did for years and that is

to take

> drugs so you don't care.) But at some point, in order to thrive,

you have to

> slow down for a minute and decide to choose YOU over the food (or

in my case

> drugs.) Then everything else follows. It's still hard but at least

you're on

> the right side of the battle. When you read what you wrote again

can you see

> that you're sticking up for the food rather than yourself? :-)

>

> Anyway, I think the information at Native Nutrition on specific

foods is

> very good but it's not the most important thing on this site. The

real

> message has to do with living well, being the best you can be and

most folks

> here feel that eating a wide variety of whole unprocessed foods

will get us

> there -- help us to thrive.

>

> What I hear you say is that you hate to cook. But what I'm hearing

on

> another level is that maybe you hate food because of what it's done

to you

> and want nothing to do with it? So again, here's where you have to

make a

> choice, come to terms because if you decide to choose your healthy

self you

> won't want to eat processed foods and so, well, unless you can hook

up with

> a generous cook, you have to learn to prepare food for yourself.

Right? I

> mean what other way is there really?

>

> So I'm thinking that maybe after you decide to love the healthy

self you

> know you can be and after you thoroughly accept the fact that a

variety of

> unprocessed whole foods is what it will take to make you that

excellent

> person then you just follow to the next step which I think would be

learning

> to cook. Maybe taking some time off to try some recipes with a

friend or on

> your own. Maybe try to get your mind clear and give it another shot?

> Reinvent yourself. There's nothing magic about food preparation --

it's just

> following some steps -- and, as I said, what choice do you have?

You can ask

> questions here. If I lived near by I'd come over and help ya!

> ~Robin

Robin, what a caring and thoughtful post...thank you.

actually, i got off all junk food in the last ten years (mostly last

five) so i guess i wasn't at all clear about that in my post.

the last 5 years or so i have been mostly sugar, alcohol and white

flour free. (i actually went a whole year without any of the

above.) i DID go thru a rebellious stage about food...but that was

really decades ago. the last decade or so, in my 40's, (i turned 50

this year) was pretty much a decade long battle to rid myself of the

last vestiges of junk food as i knew i HAD to or my quality of life,

health wise, would deteriorate. my diet is now pretty clean.

in my 20's i liked to cook. in college. for friends, boyfriends.

when i got married i really enjoyed cooking at the beginning but that

was 18 years ago, and slowly, over the years, i have gotten so sick

and tired of it and one of my main goals in life is to reach a point

where i never have to cook again...(hopefully that won't be fulfilled

by my living in a nursing home...) i don't know what that means,

really, but if i lived by myself (i have dh and 14 yr old son) i

would probably never or rarely cook...i like living off raw milk,

kefir, yogurt, cheese and getting entrees from whole foods. i went

to whole foods today and we're set for dinner for the next few days

til i have to figure out what to defrost and actually cook, probably

grass fed burgers. i pick the cheaper entrees (always with meat) and

i rationalize that it's cheaper than eating out.

i just really hate to cook; it's like ironing, unloading the

dishwasher or folding laundry or vacuuming. i don't iron. i pay the

son to fold laundry and unload the dw. i vacuum typically when the

dust bunnies become tumbleweeds. to me cooking is just like another

dull chore i hate to do and try to get out of doing.

i'm heavy, lack energy and motivation. exercise and diet help. but

with getting older, fatter and more tired i don't ever see myself

having the energy i had when i was young. some days i bound with it;

other days i want to spend on the couch.

anyway, anyway, i see your point about the self loathing and lack of

self nurturing and all that...points i've always struggled with

anyway. if anything, as i get older and supposedly wiser, i find

myself wanting to just be myself and not be what others expect or

want me to be...'to thine own self be true'. i'm just not terribly

domesticated i guess. which is funny because all i ever wanted to be

in life was a wife who cooked, cleaned, made curtains and slipcovers,

and maybe have a part time job and a child. i never realized how

dreary the day in and day out chores are. i really gotta hand to

moms with more than one child...i really don't know how they do it.

having just one, i found hard.

thanks again, robin.

laura