Re: Help w/Bathroom issues

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Thanks, and . I don't really know what the issue is and why he's

doing this. Every time I tried to discuss it with him, fingers go in the ears

and he won't talk about it. The part that worries me the most is is very

nonchalant attitude about the whole thing, almost thinking it's funny. Now this

is an almost 16 year old boy who is typically the most polite well-mannered kid

you could meet. Normally, not only would he have been mortified to have done

this, but he would have never recovered from my knowing about it.

I know he doesn't have contamination issues because he's almost like the

opposite. He claims that the reason why he's doing it is because he " doesn't

feel like going upstairs. " Now we have a very small house and it's all of a

10-second trip to get up the stairs to the bathroom. Now he will sometimes go in

the bathroom and sit on the toilet for well over an hour. Sometimes he does a

few tics, other times just sits there in the dark. Whenever he does use the

bathroom, he'll only use it in the dark, even to take a shower on the rare

occasion that happens without a huge struggle.

I will ask Dr. Chansky as you both suggested.

Thanks again!

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> We had similar issues with our dd when she was 8. She wouldn't shower or

bathe and would only use the bathroom 2 times daily and only at our house. We

finally put her in the shower with all her clothes on just to get her a bit

cleaner. Depends on what exactly the issue is. She has contamination issues

related to her bottom, so did better with the clothes on. We couldn't go much

of anywhere that summer. Try to find out what the issue is: is it

contamination of him or the bathroom, doubt about how clean he is, etc. You

may have to accommodate him some until he gets the help he needs. i second the

suggestion for asking Dr. Chansky.

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> Best wishes,

> (mom w/OCD, 11.5 yo dd w/OCD, 9 yo dd w/tics and/or OCD?)

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> , I have no suggestions but I would email this same question to Dr.

Chansky - write " Ask Dr. Chansky " in the subject title. I would imagine she

would have some really great ideas.

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> My son, 15.5 is having bathroom avoidance and today was the 4th time in the

past 2 weeks I have found that he went to the bathroom (#1 and #2) outside of

the bathroom. He'll sneak it, like he went in the garage and went poop in a

paper towel, wiped himself and then put it all in the trash in the garage. Now

the trash can is directly outside the kitchen door, so it's not like we wouldn't

immediately notice the smell.

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> He also refuses to take showers, so between the 2 issues, among many other

dysfunctional behaviors, things are getting pretty concerning. He's on the wait

list for 's, so we have that in place, but there's no telling how long it

will be. I just don't know how long I can keep my own head above water with all

of this!

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> Any suggestions for dealing with these issues would be much appreciated.

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> Thanks!

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