Re: Somebody please give me hope

[Guest guest]

You are still in the ''self pity why me mode''. Get a grip and man up to the

situation and stop wallowing and crying like a little bitch behaving as if

you're the only one this has happened to. As if this is the worst possible thing

someone has been inflicted with. I would go easy on you if it was only once in a

while and you were letting off some steam. But every single post of yours is

filled with indulgent self pity bullshit. You even got a girlfriend and still

whining about that. You want hope, you been here longer than me, there are

endless amount fo recovery stories whether it been through time or undergoing a

treatment people have recovered and you will too. There are people who are

paraylsed through multiple array of different reasons who really do have no hope

of recovering their former abilities, yet they still fight on. They don't sit

and whine and contemplate giving up on life everday. If the only value you see

in yourself and a relationship pertains soley to sex than you got a lot of

growing up to do.

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel

pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact

many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

[Guest guest]

Bob, I can very realte to it.

I'm 28 years old, got PSSD at age 24. Bevor PSSD I never had a girlfriend and

never had sex. This situation -pushing close to my thirties, never had sexual

experience or relationship AND: Not beeing able to expect any (near) solution

(if there is one at all) is very devastating.

I took Paxil because of my social Phobia (what probaly was the cause that I

never got in any realationship..) So my Phobia has got better due to Paxil

(steady) but I don't want to have sex anymore (and low passion to get into

relationship). What a bitch!!

I want to feel passion again as it used to. I want back my old self.

Yes, everything is uncertain, that's my basic feeling too and it crippels so

much other things which should be done..

I have it back in mind every day, every minute that something fundamental is

wrong with me.

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel

pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact

many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

[Guest guest]

@BLK:

'You want hope, you been here longer than me, there are

endless amount fo recovery stories..'

This is not true. You are just kidding yourself. The LARGE, LARGE majority with

real PSSD has no signs of recocery.

> >

> > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> >

> > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

> >

> > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just

feel pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in

fact many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

> >

> > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

> >

> > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

> >

> > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

If you don't like Bob's posts, maybe you should just stay away from them.

There was nothing hostile in anything he said, he was just describing his loss

as he sees it.

> >

> > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> >

> > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

> >

> > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just

feel pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in

fact many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

> >

> > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

> >

> > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

> >

> > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

We need to meet and organize something strong to get attention, that's the only

way guys. Otherwise we'll continue to suffer lifetime.

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel

pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact

many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

[Guest guest]

How long have you been

anhedonic?

Have you told your GF about the SSRI effects?

Are you still taking your SSRI?

Please give it more time.

Ann

 

I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately

with theories. Im beyond confused as to what the next few

years of my life will be.

Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont

care how "off" you think I am, its just who I am and I

don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a gorgeous

girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in

your pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all

the more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I

can't feel a damn thing though.

This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life.

If I could just feel pleasure id be in heaven right now.

Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times my

penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to

feel the release of tension, I want to feel the relief I

used to get when I first "plug in". I want to feel

frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a

loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me to be

intimate with her.

Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out.

Honestly ill probably sabotage the relationship just

because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need

sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in

nature contrary to what we've been taught by fake

Christians.

I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my

life so much. Everything is uncertain, I no longer have

the ability to live for myself because there is no longer

any self interest I value in life without a penis, just

how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when

I say I'm very seriously considering suicide as a way out

of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old guy, I

shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and

waste away. My life ended before it started, such a

tragedy.

--

"I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go

by."

[Guest guest]

So, toughlove, huh?  That was

brutal.

Ann

 

You are still in the ''self pity why me mode''. Get a

grip and man up to the situation and stop wallowing and

crying like a little bitch behaving as if you're the only

one this has happened to. As if this is the worst possible

thing someone has been inflicted with. I would go easy on

you if it was only once in a while and you were letting

off some steam. But every single post of yours is filled

with indulgent self pity bullshit. You even got a

girlfriend and still whining about that. You want hope,

you been here longer than me, there are endless amount fo

recovery stories whether it been through time or

undergoing a treatment people have recovered and you will

too. There are people who are paraylsed through multiple

array of different reasons who really do have no hope of

recovering their former abilities, yet they still fight

on. They don't sit and whine and contemplate giving up on

life everday. If the only value you see in yourself and a

relationship pertains soley to sex than you got a lot of

growing up to do.

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive

lately with theories. Im beyond confused as to what the

next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I

dont care how "off" you think I am, its just who I am and

I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a gorgeous

girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in

your pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all

the more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I

can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole

life. If I could just feel pleasure id be in heaven right

now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times

my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want

to feel the release of tension, I want to feel the relief

I used to get when I first "plug in". I want to feel

frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a

loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me to be

intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work

out. Honestly ill probably sabotage the relationship just

because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need

sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in

nature contrary to what we've been taught by fake

Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted

my life so much. Everything is uncertain, I no longer have

the ability to live for myself because there is no longer

any self interest I value in life without a penis, just

how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when

I say I'm very seriously considering suicide as a way out

of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old guy, I

shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and

waste away. My life ended before it started, such a

tragedy.

>

--

"I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go

by."

[Guest guest]

Does no one read posts and believe them?? i have posted countless times about recovering. Its slow. It takes time. There is no magic in a pill. Exercise and social settings help, along with NOT masturbating too much. Before anyone takes their own life, they should TRY to get off their ass and exercise! RUN! Burn off the fat your SSRI's are storing themselves in! its better to push yourself physically than to waste time thinking about ending your life. If you forced yourself to run a mile EVERY time you thought about killing yourself, maybe soon you wouldn't think that way, because you could recover AT LEAST a percentage of pleasure. Lay off the jerk fest, guys...no one admits it much here, but I KNOW most of you are masturbating like crazy, trying to chase the elusive wonderful orgasm you USED to have. If you would just give yourself time away from your

penis (or vagina), you might see that it can and does get better. My recovery is about 80 percent and that has taken a few years. AND EFFORT. There is your hope. Subject: Re: Somebody please give me hopeTo: SSRIsex Date: Friday, December 3, 2010, 12:48 PM

@BLK:

'You want hope, you been here longer than me, there are

endless amount fo recovery stories..'

This is not true. You are just kidding yourself. The LARGE, LARGE majority with real PSSD has no signs of recocery.

> >

> > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> >

> > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how "off" you think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

> >

> > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

> >

> > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first "plug in". I want to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

> >

> > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what we've been taught by fake Christians.

> >

> > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much. Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

-

I've gone 35 days without porn/masturbation and my life has changed in many

positive ways in that short time. I've actually started meeting women again

because I'm not spending an hour a day (on average) looking at porn.

I agree it is a huge factor in recovery - but it can be addicting and hard to

stop. There are porn/masturbation addiction forums and the folks there have the

same symptoms as us. Interesting.

Luther

>

> > >

>

> > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> >

>

> > >

>

> > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off "

you think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I

have a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your

pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves

sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> > >

>

> > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just

feel pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in

fact many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> > >

>

> > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release

of tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I

want to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who

will relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> > >

>

> > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> > >

>

> > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

> > >

>

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe but It needed to be said. Not being funny but people need some perspective

and realise this is not worth something to die over. And start appreciating what

you can do have rather than obsessive about what you cant do. Especially when

there is no evidence supporting that this is permanent and when people come on

here every other day reporting how they are improving or fully recoverd.

I was upset about the news regarding kevin who took his own life recently. For

him and especially for his loved ones who he left behind. Then I see people on

here supporting that he ended his life which is just rubbish. If you had a child

and they took their life because the reason was because they lost their sex

drive how would you feel? Or if someone on here was a father and left their

children behind leaving them a suicide note explaining to them that they no

longer could make love to mommy so had to end it would you say it was right?

You'd think its selfish and quite frankly it is a selfish act.

This is a difficult battle but we must fight the good fight and not let the

bastards that is the drug companies win and take more good lives. I love

everyone here who is struggling because i understand and the last thing i want

to hear is another person taking their life over this. I've spoken to a lot of

people who are struggling and they tell me things that they've been through or

currently going through and it makes me think things could be a lot worse

The reason I was harsh is because bob through all his time here has done nothing

but be negative and cry woe is me yet still havnt heard him try anything

innovative to try and get better. That doesn't him his girlfriend or any of us

There are people blind, amputated, paralysed or deaf or have cancer yet still

find strength to move forward and make the most of things in life.

Instead of obsessing about your girlfriends ex, who she is no longer with, how

about focusing on getting to know each other and building up trust and honesty

regarding your feelings. You are only going to push her away if you start

putting guilt trips on her or feeling insecure around her. You are also very

young and have your whole life ahead of you. You won't feel like this forever

believe me bob.

> > >

> > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to

> > what the next few years of my life will be.

> >

> > >

> > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off "

you think I am, its

> > just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a gorgeous

girlfriend, the kind

> > that would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about (whicw is

why this is all the

> > more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn

thing though.

> > >

> > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just

feel pleasure id be in

> > heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times my

penis is too sensitive

> > and causes me pain.

> > >

> > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release

of tension, I want to

> > feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want to feel

frustrated and then relieved

> > because I know I have a loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me to

be intimate with her.

> > >

> > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the

> > relationship just because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need

sex, I don't want it, I

> > think sex is a physical need for humans, i believe a high sex drive is a

good thing in nature

> > contrary to what we've been taught by fake Christians.

> > >

> > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I

> > no longer have the ability to live for myself because there is no longer any

self interest I value

> > in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out

for help when I say I'm

> > very seriously considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a

handsome healthy 20 year old

> > guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it

> > started, such a tragedy.

> > >

> >

> >

>

> --

> " I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by. "

>

[Guest guest]

If you have a girlfriend, than you have a loving, romantic relationship. You don't have to be alone. That's hopeful, that's something to live for. Let me ask you this question: Do you still have human emotions? If you do, you are luckier than many people on here, including me.

[Guest guest]

I agree about running, even though I never regained my sexuality by doing it.

Running produces endorphins which make you feel good and so it's a natural way

to fight depression.

There were times when I felt suicidal. One time in the early days (1975), when

I was really upset about something, my husband took me by the hand and said,

" Let's run around the block " . I was surprised at how much better I felt. Then

he told me about endorphins.

I ran instead of taking antidepressants. I ran for years until I got plantars

faciitis. Then, after it healed I hiked, skied, and did as many aerobic

activities as I could.

Other than being numb for over 27 yrs I seem to be in better condition than most

friends my age (62). Most of them are on a lot of pills. I just take a

multiple vitamin and some extra E. I also eat whole foods.

Kay

>

> > >

>

> > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> >

>

> > >

>

> > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off "

you think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I

have a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your

pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves

sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> > >

>

> > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just

feel pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in

fact many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> > >

>

> > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release

of tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I

want to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who

will relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> > >

>

> > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> > >

>

> > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

> > >

>

> >

>

[Guest guest]

No one interesting the " meeting and action " idea?

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel

pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact

many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

[Guest guest]

I do agree, BLK, that people

should appreciate what they do have, and you have a very good

point about people who are blind, or go blind, or deaf, or lose

a limb, or become paralyzed.  But asking a very young man -- or

rather, telling him, as you did--

who believes he has a no-sex life to look forward to, is not a

funny matter, it's tragic.  I just hope he can be patient while

trying different solutions.  He being so young, and now that the

dirty little PSSD secret has been revealed to the world, and

people are doing research on it, I hope he can wait.  He

definitely shouldn't kill himself at this point.

BOB:  I think that, in addition to "real" research out there, the

research being done by people on this forum is going to finally

find solutions.  I can tell you one thing, Baby Boomers, many of

whom take or have taken SSRI's and had negative sexual

consequences, aren't going to put up with it.  They pushed "old"

back to the late 80's (in years) -- that was quite a feat, since

40 used to be old.

Suicide does have lifelong devastating effects on the person's

loved ones.  Anyone thinking of killing themselves should have

this uppermost in their mind.   The only people who should commit

suicide (if they want to) are those with a terminal illness. 

BLK:  I do understand how desperate Bob must feel, and I think I'd

feel the same way at his age.  It didn't sound like he had much

support, and I think we should support him as best we can. 

Punching him in the nose won't do it.

BOB -- Please keep up with the research people here are doing, and

reports here about "real" research.  Please make a pledge to

accept your situation for 6 months, learn how to make yourself

relax (tension and obsession alone can destroy your sex drive) --

breathing exercises, hypnosis, acupuncture -- and then

re-evaluate.

Also, the way you talk about your girlfriend:  "... the kind that

would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about...",

that's a pretty crude way to talk about this young woman.  "This

girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life.."  THING??? 

"I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first "plug in",

-- "plug in"?  Plug your dick into her vagina -- again, very

crude.  Try thinking of feeling love for her and filling her up

with it instead of plugging in.  And your description of

yourself:  "I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old guy" all these give

me the feeling that (1) you're pretty self-centered, (2) you put

too much value on your penis, and (3) you don't really appreciate

this woman for who she is.  I do understand that as frustrated as

you are (or any of us would be) to have your sexuality missing at

your age, you're concentrating, or talking, more about the sexual

aspects of your relationship, and maybe it's the frustration that

makes you talk so crudely about her.  I hope you don't think

about her in those terms.  A more mature man, if he cared for her,

would make sure she got sexual satisfaction whether he did or not.

I don't want to be harsh on you, Bob, but you're a bit immature. 

All 20-yr-olds are a bit immature.  If for no other reason, you

should stay alive until you become more mature so you can deal

with the problem in -- well, in a mature way.  I'm really sorry

this has happened to you.  Please hang on, learn how to get your

focus off this problem, read the research, try things, and learn

patience and loving.

BLK:  You're on the immature side yourself, no matter how old

you are.  You obviously have some life experience, but you're so

harsh nobody's going to listen to you.  Nobody likes being

scolded.  I think you'd be a happier person if you would think

about this.  Maybe see a counselor or get into group therapy (I'm

speaking about the toughlove/harsh/scolding/lecturing issue, not

the PSSD). 

Ann, not irritable today.

 

Maybe but It needed to be said. Not being funny but

people need some perspective and realise this is not worth

something to die over. And start appreciating what you can

do have rather than obsessive about what you cant do.

Especially when there is no evidence supporting that this

is permanent and when people come on here every other day

reporting how they are improving or fully recoverd.

I was upset about the news regarding kevin who took his

own life recently. For him and especially for his loved

ones who he left behind. Then I see people on here

supporting that he ended his life which is just rubbish.

If you had a child and they took their life because the

reason was because they lost their sex drive how would you

feel? Or if someone on here was a father and left their

children behind leaving them a suicide note explaining to

them that they no longer could make love to mommy so had

to end it would you say it was right? You'd think its

selfish and quite frankly it is a selfish act.

This is a difficult battle but we must fight the good

fight and not let the bastards that is the drug companies

win and take more good lives. I love everyone here who is

struggling because i understand and the last thing i want

to hear is another person taking their life over this.

I've spoken to a lot of people who are struggling and they

tell me things that they've been through or currently

going through and it makes me think things could be a lot

worse

The reason I was harsh is because bob through all his time

here has done nothing but be negative and cry woe is me

yet still havnt heard him try anything innovative to try

and get better. That doesn't him his girlfriend or any of

us

There are people blind, amputated, paralysed or deaf or

have cancer yet still find strength to move forward and

make the most of things in life.

Instead of obsessing about your girlfriends ex, who she is

no longer with, how about focusing on getting to know each

other and building up trust and honesty regarding your

feelings. You are only going to push her away if you start

putting guilt trips on her or feeling insecure around her.

You are also very young and have your whole life ahead of

you. You won't feel like this forever believe me bob.

> > >

> > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems

positive lately with theories. Im beyond confused as to

> > what the next few years of my life will be.

> >

> > >

> > > Let me just be brutally honest about my

situation, I dont care how "off" you think I am, its

> > just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged.

Right now I have a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind

> > that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the

> > more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at

it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

> > >

> > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted

my whole life. If I could just feel pleasure id be in

> > heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in

sex, in fact many times my penis is too sensitive

> > and causes me pain.

> > >

> > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex

again, I want to feel the release of tension, I want to

> > feel the relief I used to get when I first "plug

in". I want to feel frustrated and then relieved

> > because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

> > >

> > > Without that feeling I don't know how this

will work out. Honestly ill probably sabotage the

> > relationship just because of how jealous I am of

her previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I

> > think sex is a physical need for humans, i

believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature

> > contrary to what we've been taught by fake

Christians.

> > >

> > > I can't believe how such a little change

has twisted my life so much. Everything is uncertain, I

> > no longer have the ability to live for myself

because there is no longer any self interest I value

> > in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't

judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm

> > very seriously considering suicide as a way out

of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old

> > guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my

life slip and waste away. My life ended before it

> > started, such a tragedy.

> > >

> >

> >

>

> --

> "I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they

make as they go by."

>

--

"I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go

by."

[Guest guest]

Why is it tragic me telling bob that he is young and he has things to look

forward to? It's even more of an impetus not to give up because time is on his

side. Why kill yourself now when in a couple of years you could have recoverd

and this episode would just be a distant memory? I'm 24 and it would be

premature of me to believe my life was over just because it may take a couple of

years for me to fully recover. Even though I still have an otherwise perfectly

healthy body that many less fortunate inviduals would love to be in the position

to have. Not to mention a house, food and money.

And how on earth can you make a judgement that I'm immature just through one

post? I've been where bob is mentally, but it took similar words from my

parents to wake me up and motivate me into gear. It helped make me realise there

isnt much choice, you can either fight forward or give up and end up standing

still. Instead of getting side tracked in the tone of what's been expressed, you

should listen to the words that's being said. I'd rather someone be frustrated

and tell me something of substance, then someone be polite but tell me a load of

shit

And bobs no angel, he's dished his sheer amount of brutal rants here towards

others, So he'd be able to take it.

And if you read all of my post you'll notice I was supporting him and offering

him advice.

And lastly I don't need therapy to make me happier thank you. You don't even

suffer from reduced libido as far as I remember you saying. I don't know you're

full story but I doubt you understand the situation I'm in so please refrain

from any further patronising comments. And currently I do things with my time

that are of value that gives me pleasure like I do volunteer work within my

community and socialise with people there.

I'm also tryign everything I can to get better and research ways to overcoming

this. But still live my life as best as I can. If I was immature, I wouldnt be

doing those things. Instead I'd just be feeling sorry for myself blaming the

whole world for my problems and refuse to take responsiblity for my situation.

> > > > >

> > > > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories.

Im beyond confused as to

> > > > what the next few years of my life will be.

> > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how

" off " you think I am, its

> > > > just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a

gorgeous girlfriend, the kind

> > > > that would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about

(whicw is why this is all the

> > > > more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn

thing though.

> > > > >

> > > > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could

just feel pleasure id

> > be in

> > > > heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times my

penis is too sensitive

> > > > and causes me pain.

> > > > >

> > > > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the

release of tension, I want to

> > > > feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want to feel

frustrated and then relieved

> > > > because I know I have a loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me

to be intimate with her.

> > > > >

> > > > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the

> > > > relationship just because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need

sex, I don't want it, I

> > > > think sex is a physical need for humans, i believe a high sex drive is a

good thing in nature

> > > > contrary to what we've been taught by fake Christians.

> > > > >

> > > > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is

> > uncertain, I

> > > > no longer have the ability to live for myself because there is no longer

any self interest I

> > value

> > > > in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying

out for help when I say I'm

> > > > very seriously considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a

handsome healthy 20 year old

> > > > guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away.

My life ended before it

> > > > started, such a tragedy.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > > --

> > > " I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by. "

> > >

> >

> >

>

> --

> " I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by. "

>

[Guest guest]

You are absolutely right to have said what you did to Bob BLK. People who are

defending him on this sit have forgoten the many cruel, rude, and foul mouthed

things Bob has directed not at just specific individuals on this site but to

every member in the group. It was not long ago that Bob was telling all of us to

Fuck off and calling us pussies. When some one expressed a different point of

view he would try to foulmouth them to death. Then he turns around and wonders

why anybody would think he is a jerk. PSSD or no PSSD Bob is a jerk and doesn't

deserve any sympathy.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with

theories. Im beyond confused as to

> > > > > what the next few years of my life will be.

> > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how

" off " you think I am, its

> > > > > just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a

gorgeous girlfriend, the kind

> > > > > that would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about

(whicw is why this is all the

> > > > > more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a

damn thing though.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could

just feel pleasure id

> > > be in

> > > > > heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times

my penis is too sensitive

> > > > > and causes me pain.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the

release of tension, I want to

> > > > > feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want to feel

frustrated and then relieved

> > > > > because I know I have a loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for

me to be intimate with her.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly

ill probably sabotage the

> > > > > relationship just because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I

need sex, I don't want it, I

> > > > > think sex is a physical need for humans, i believe a high sex drive is

a good thing in nature

> > > > > contrary to what we've been taught by fake Christians.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so

much. Everything is

> > > uncertain, I

> > > > > no longer have the ability to live for myself because there is no

longer any self interest I

> > > value

> > > > > in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying

out for help when I say I'm

> > > > > very seriously considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a

handsome healthy 20 year old

> > > > > guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste

away. My life ended before it

> > > > > started, such a tragedy.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > > --

> > > > " I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by. "

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> > --

> > " I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by. "

> >

>

[Guest guest]

For the sake of decorum, could all of you please calm down and not bash each other? What happened to is truly tragic. Even more tragic is the fact that he decided to end it all when he's still young at 28. We would never know if he would have been one of our recovery stories. RIP . As for dealing with Bob, while its true that he was very rude to most of us in the past, he did come back and apologize and said if somebody had any issues with him expressing frustration or despair in his emails, then they should not read. Even I was on record saying that I was not going to read his email in the future. But I still read his emails because I want to see if there's a wee bit that I could do to help someone in the same boat as I am. He's in his early 20's and too young to probably deal with his situation than some of us. While Blk dealing with his

situation the way he is, is commendable, the same kind of maturity can not be expected from everyone. So, cut him some slack. We all have a monster to worry about. Bob's attitute should be the least of our worries. Subject: Re: Somebody please give me hopeTo: SSRIsex Date: Sunday, December 5, 2010, 1:18 AM

You are absolutely right to have said what you did to Bob BLK. People who are defending him on this sit have forgoten the many cruel, rude, and foul mouthed things Bob has directed not at just specific individuals on this site but to every member in the group. It was not long ago that Bob was telling all of us to Fuck off and calling us pussies. When some one expressed a different point of view he would try to foulmouth them to death. Then he turns around and wonders why anybody would think he is a jerk. PSSD or no PSSD Bob is a jerk and doesn't deserve any sympathy.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im beyond confused as to

> > > > > what the next few years of my life will be.

> > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how "off" you think I am, its

> > > > > just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind

> > > > > that would make your stick thump in your pants just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the

> > > > > more tragic). She loves sex and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel pleasure id

> > > be in

> > > > > heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact many times my penis is too sensitive

> > > > > and causes me pain.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of tension, I want to

> > > > > feel the relief I used to get when I first "plug in". I want to feel frustrated and then relieved

> > > > > because I know I have a loving gf who will relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill probably sabotage the

> > > > > relationship just because of how jealous I am of her previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I

> > > > > think sex is a physical need for humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature

> > > > > contrary to what we've been taught by fake Christians.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much. Everything is

> > > uncertain, I

> > > > > no longer have the ability to live for myself because there is no longer any self interest I

> > > value

> > > > > in life without a penis, just how I feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm

> > > > > very seriously considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year old

> > > > > guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My life ended before it

> > > > > started, such a tragedy.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > > --

> > > > "I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by."

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> > --

> > "I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by."

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Bob,

Your life cannot be all bad if you were able to attract a girlfriend, especially

an attractive one. PSSD sucks, but at least you have someone you can be sexual

with. Of those who have recovered many have had partners.

I know its hard, I first took SSRIs when I was 23, so I was not much older than

you and have been impotent for 4 years now.

Don't commit suicide. Really, I know its hard to realize this at your age, but

you are 20. That is really freaking young. Look for meaning in life wherever

you can. I know its hard when your peers don't have any of these problems. It

fucking sucks to feel unable to perform etc. I have a lot of trouble with this

myself. But you are in a better situation than some. Having a hot girlfriend

is probably something that can help you recover.

As a geneticist I can tell you that the environment can affect gene expression

(if that is the cause of this). More importantly it can definitely affect

neurogenesis. Constant negativity prevents neurogenesis. Feeling love, not

just lust, for someone could help your brain heal.

The one time I started to see real improvement in my PSSD was when I really

really liked someone. Unfortunately that did not work out. If you can really

come to care about this girl, not just as a sex object but as a person, it could

help you recover. Try and look outside yourself (I am really bad at this too,

to be fair but I know it helps).

Good luck, and keep with life. Don't give up, I know its freaking hard

sometimes but yeah, people do recover from this. I have to some degree. I used

to be completely impotent now I just have soft glans syndrome. I used to have

no libido now I have some.

And if you feel angry, channel that anger. Use it to write letters to people in

the media, or to psychiatrists, etc. Fight the pharma companies and the medical

system that hurt us. Killing yourself won't do that.

>

> I hate to be the downer, everyone seems positive lately with theories. Im

beyond confused as to what the next few years of my life will be.

>

> Let me just be brutally honest about my situation, I dont care how " off " you

think I am, its just who I am and I don't deserve to be judged. Right now I have

a gorgeous girlfriend, the kind that would make your stick thump in your pants

just thinking about (whicw is why this is all the more tragic). She loves sex

and she's goooood at it. I can't feel a damn thing though.

>

> This girl is the kind of thing I've wanted my whole life. If I could just feel

pleasure id be in heaven right now. Instead I'm uninterested in sex, in fact

many times my penis is too sensitive and causes me pain.

>

> I just want to feel the pleasure of sex again, I want to feel the release of

tension, I want to feel the relief I used to get when I first " plug in " . I want

to feel frustrated and then relieved because I know I have a loving gf who will

relieve me. It's hard for me to be intimate with her.

>

> Without that feeling I don't know how this will work out. Honestly ill

probably sabotage the relationship just because of how jealous I am of her

previous bf. I need sex, I don't want it, I think sex is a physical need for

humans, i believe a high sex drive is a good thing in nature contrary to what

we've been taught by fake Christians.

>

> I can't believe how such a little change has twisted my life so much.

Everything is uncertain, I no longer have the ability to live for myself because

there is no longer any self interest I value in life without a penis, just how I

feel, don't judge. I'm not crying out for help when I say I'm very seriously

considering suicide as a way out of this pinch. I'm a handsome healthy 20 year

old guy, I shouldn't have to watch the prime of my life slip and waste away. My

life ended before it started, such a tragedy.

>

[Guest guest]

I agree with that strongly. We need people who fight without violence, to warn

SSRI-users and scientists. And dead people cannot not contribute to those goals.

If one channels or diverts ones desperate anger to a useful goal, one will feel

much stronger and better.

>

> And if you feel angry, channel that anger. Use it to write letters to people

in the media, or to psychiatrists, etc. Fight the pharma companies and the

medical system that hurt us. Killing yourself won't do that.

[Guest guest]

BLK, thanks for writing your messages and I'm sorry I suggested you hold back, I

misunderstood where you were coming from.

> This is a difficult battle but we must fight the good fight and not let the

bastards that is the drug companies win and take more good lives. I love

everyone here who is struggling because i understand and the last thing i want

to hear is another person taking their life over this. I've spoken to a lot of

people who are struggling and they tell me things that they've been through or

currently going through and it makes me think things could be a lot worse