Re: At Last! A Response

[Guest guest]

Yes, I wrote in response to your post. Specifically, where you say " I

understand that there is a significant difference between PSSD that

includes erectile dysfunction and PSSD where it is still physically

possible to at least have sex. ... Women obviously do not have to worry

about this " ...

I did think you were a guy because I thought " this " referred to erectile

dysfunction, with most men not even knowing that women have erectile

tissue in addition to that of the clitoris. Before I got off Effexor, I

had erectile dysfunction (along with anhedonia and anorgasmia), and it

was extremely unpleasant, not to mention depressing, and made me

uninterested in having sex and is what mde me get off Effexor. Why have

sex if you don't get feeling from it? So, if " this " did refer to

erectile dysfunction (and I assume that anhedonia goes along with ED),

women do have to worry about it (deal with it) if they have it. OTOH,

if a woman loves someone but can't " get it up " , she might want to have

sex in hopes that this time it might reuslt in feeling, maybe even

orgasm. So in that situation, I don't argue with women " still being

able to have sex " as opposed to men, who could only do so with Viagra or

an implant or something.

I know a man who can get hard, but he can't come. True, he can still

" have sex " (he does have genital feeling) but he's very frustrated.

Fortunately for him (not to mention for me - we were " dating " in '98),

before he started taking Prozac, he could have sex for hours before

needing to have an orgasm. I asked him how he could possibly do that &

he said he had learned over the years to enjoy the sensations that he

got that didn't compel him to come. Once I was exhausted or otherwise

ready, he could come at will (i.e. his ability to not come for hours

wasn't a dysfunction).

I suppose it's possible that the disagreement between you and me could

be semantic. Maybe it would be helpful to have a list of sexual

dysfunctions, going from least disturbing to most. Here's what I came

up with:

Abilty to have engorged erectile tissue but not orgasms.

Ability to have generalized genital feelings and get partially erect

(both sexes) but not have orgasms.

Ability to have generalized genital feelings but not erections (both

sexes).

No or extremely dampened genital feelings & no erections.

No interest in sex at all.

No interest in sex, but a desire to have an interest in sex, leading to

suicidal desperation, esp. in young people.

You and others can probably improve on this list.

I hope nobody gets insulted by my changing the spelling of " responce " in

the subject. I used to be an editor and it's been driving me crazy for

weeks. (I apologize to the author if that's how you spell it in England

or Canada or something. I couldn't find any support for the " c " in a

Google search.) By now, we've all probably forgotten who started this

thread except for the one who did, who will hopefully be spared

embarrassment by our collective amnesia.

Ann

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> > I understand that there is a significant difference between PSSD

that includes erectile dysfunction and PSSD where it is still physically

possible to at least have sex.

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> > Women obviously do not have to worry about this, but many of the men

here (actually most) still seem to be able to function but everything

else is messed up. So I don't think it's so much a male/female issue -

just different degrees and manifestation of these lasting side effects.

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> > There are also people who seem to have not lost their emotional

range, but most of us feel like we have.

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> > I am sorry you are suffering this badly and severely ... maybe this

has led to some misunderstandings.

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> > This might not help at all but did you see the video made by Man

from the UK? He has lasting erectile dysfunction but

> can still have sex if he injects himself

> - obviously this is a difficult situation but it does sound like he

found a way to have sex. And I think I read here once that he was or is

involved in good relationship.

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