marla , frank bev and heidi

[Guest guest]

Marla ... You wrote " I really messed up my marriage in this life.. " . Is that

really true... ?

I remember reading a book by Terry Cole Whitacker whose been married 3

times.. I think she is now single and living alone.. and she was writing how

divorce

is a good thing and proves the two people are growing... and a good sign ..

to divorce than not to in some cases... I dont remember which book it was..

shes written several... was married 3 times also... we so often just

label

divorce as a bad thing.. Is it really?--is it true..?

Heidi and Bev and and Mona.. thanks for the underlying beliefs on

anger.. I really need to look at this ... My parents seemed often angry and so I

never have ever wanted to express anger and when I do i get deeply depressed

about it.. or I dont express it at all so people wont reject me.. I should not

be

angry is an old belief... .

So instead Ive been depressed...its more socially acceptable for women.. i

suppose... . At the same time I rememeber once I went to a therapist and she

asked me to hit a pillow and i couldnt ...it just didnt feel right... I was

too depressed to be angry... oh well... thanks , roslyn