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Sorry for you. I know how that can be. We cleaned our house before we left for

camping. We got back yesterday and are still trying to get all the camping stuff

cleaned up and put away. Hope it goes well for you.

Jami

" Ray in Virginia " wrote:

>Well, everyone is gone. Off to work, back to their own homes. And

>guess who is left with the terrific job of cleaning up the

>house...again. Yep! Me. Thank God for a good pain management

>doctor!

>Ray in Virginia

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At 10:01 AM 1/2/02 -0500, Ray wrote:

>Well, everyone is gone. Off to work, back to their own homes.

Hi Ray,

I hope that the passage of a few days has helped with the post-holiday

blues. We didn't have guests here over the holidays, but I can understand

the feelings you have. Things are so different over the holidays, and at

the conclusion, friends and relatives go home or family simply goes back to

their daily routine of jobs. As for us, today isn't too much different from

any other and there isn't too much different to look forward to.

Since it's way to cold to anything outside and it's too early to start

looking at garden catalogs (drool ruins 'em so fast!) that I've retreated

to my basement shop. I'll try (again) to make some order out of the mess

and hopefully get some small projects completed.

Hower

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Dear all

none of us are responsible for nada's holiday happiness. In our house we have

created our own holiday traditions. we have religious holidays with a group

of families who are transplants to our area like us. We stopped having

Thanksgiving with either side years ago. My husband's family is also

unpleasant. It's not worth it. Anyway I'm so glad I found this list. It's

means the world to know I'm not alone or crazy. CAthy

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Dear all

none of us are responsible for nada's holiday happiness. In our house we have

created our own holiday traditions. we have religious holidays with a group

of families who are transplants to our area like us. We stopped having

Thanksgiving with either side years ago. My husband's family is also

unpleasant. It's not worth it. Anyway I'm so glad I found this list. It's

means the world to know I'm not alone or crazy. CAthy

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> I can understand the holiday blues. Holidays always had to

> be perfect (still do). And since nothing is perfect all h*ll

> broke loose at my house. As a kid my nada would announce

> loudly and in such a hurt voice that life was too terrible,

> not worth living, etc, take 2--3 Valium and then go in her

> room to cry/sleep whatever for the rest of the day.

That's exactly what happened in our house, too, including the

Valium. But the rest of us (my father and us kids) did try to

have some fun after she threw her little tantrum. My mother

never attempted suicide so that wasn't an issue and probably

made it easier to learn to ignore her (not really ignore, but

try to detach and have our own fun in spite of her problems).

So, I have to hand it to my father for trying to have fun with

us kids in spite of my mother pouting, or fuming, and finally

running off to her room. No, he didn't protect us from a lot of

the crap she dished out but I can't blame him for all of it. So

much if it happened while he was at work or out of town and I

didn't tell him about most of what my mother did.

> People wonder why I hate holidays. They'd be shocked if I

> told them. Last night after spending 20 minutes listening to

> her whine that she has lost her church ...

Good for you for cutting her off and hanging up!!

I don't have the patience to listen to long whines either.

After 1-2 sentences I try to change the subject (distraction

works sometimes, just like with a kid) but if that doesn't

work, then I end the conversation. I will even hang up on her

in mid-sentence if I have to do so. I won't listen to my mother

any longer when she starts to complain and badmouth others. In

my mother's case it doesn't help. It just reinforces her idea

that the whole world is out to get her.

Marjorie in Oregon

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> I can understand the holiday blues. Holidays always had to

> be perfect (still do). And since nothing is perfect all h*ll

> broke loose at my house. As a kid my nada would announce

> loudly and in such a hurt voice that life was too terrible,

> not worth living, etc, take 2--3 Valium and then go in her

> room to cry/sleep whatever for the rest of the day.

That's exactly what happened in our house, too, including the

Valium. But the rest of us (my father and us kids) did try to

have some fun after she threw her little tantrum. My mother

never attempted suicide so that wasn't an issue and probably

made it easier to learn to ignore her (not really ignore, but

try to detach and have our own fun in spite of her problems).

So, I have to hand it to my father for trying to have fun with

us kids in spite of my mother pouting, or fuming, and finally

running off to her room. No, he didn't protect us from a lot of

the crap she dished out but I can't blame him for all of it. So

much if it happened while he was at work or out of town and I

didn't tell him about most of what my mother did.

> People wonder why I hate holidays. They'd be shocked if I

> told them. Last night after spending 20 minutes listening to

> her whine that she has lost her church ...

Good for you for cutting her off and hanging up!!

I don't have the patience to listen to long whines either.

After 1-2 sentences I try to change the subject (distraction

works sometimes, just like with a kid) but if that doesn't

work, then I end the conversation. I will even hang up on her

in mid-sentence if I have to do so. I won't listen to my mother

any longer when she starts to complain and badmouth others. In

my mother's case it doesn't help. It just reinforces her idea

that the whole world is out to get her.

Marjorie in Oregon

ahimsa@...

Make the whole world a library--Join bookcrossing!

http://bookcrossing.com/referral/ahimsa

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