A Message to Stella

[Guest guest]

E:-}Greetings: First things First Stella! Take a deep Breath and look

at this you have been given not as one big lump of coal. Instead pick

up a hammer and break the lump into smaller pieces. Once you do that

you may find it easier to live with.

As to the medical conditions one of the best things you can do is learn

about them. Knowledge is power and when you start to find out what you

can do and not do you may feel more at ease.

Anytime one loses a loved one that is traumatic. Losing two loved ones

so close together is even harder. I have walked those trails more than

once. The only hope I can offer is that grief will fade and loving

memories will come to the fore.

You also talk about stress, work and education almost in one breath.

Several descriptive words come to mind when I read [snip] I am not

working due to stress, pain and the inability to handle 8 hours of work

a day right now. I am working on a

Bachelors degree in Computer Information Systems. [snip] Words that

come to mind are concern, dread, and fear to name a few. These are

valid and I am not trying to put you down.

When it comes to bills and making ends meet others like you have

problems. We have had to learn how to be frugal, how to keep in touch

with creditors. Remember creditors to some extent are human beings

too. One of the best pieces of information I can offer you is that talk

and interact with the people you own money too. Some may chuckle and

even laugh at this statement, but I have found from personal experience

that keeping creditors informed works. There are many sites that offer

lots of frugal information. If required I will gladly send you the

URL's and answer questions.

You also say that [snip] I am not sure if I will be able to hold a job

in that field with the things that seem to be happening to me lately.

[snip] You may not believe me when I say this but everything that

happens to us is a lesson we are supposed to learn. I will set that

aside for now. If you are concerned about finding work, take some time

an think about your current condition and what you are learning. Next,

in your mind or on paper design a job that you can do.

This exercise might help you relieve stress. Think positively. If you

have trouble staying on the computer, start looking for aides that

alleviate this problem. This could be voice technology like Dragon

Naturally Speaking 5, large trackball mouse pointers; I use a Kensington

expert mouse. The ball in this mouse is the size of a large billiard

ball. I have even seen left-handed keyboards.

Solutions are out there. Work on the little pieces.

Be Blessed

D.

Moderator - Chronic Pain

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These are my three treasures,

Compassion, Frugality, & Humility.

Being Compassionate one has Courage,

Being Frugal one has Abundance.

Being Humble one becomes the chief of all vessels.

~~Lao Tzu~~

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[Guest guest]

D.

Thank you for the words of advice. I will try some of the suggestions

you mentioned. I guess I am trying to handle everything at once. I need

to slow down and take things one day at a time, but I do not know how. I

have 4 kids and most of their life I have been alone and had problem

after problem. I am not sure how to handle any more. This is not the

first time I have been injured and had a threat of not being able to

work. I use to be an LPN and had to give it up due to a back injury. I

lost a lot then, retrained and started over. I just don't know how to

handle all of this. Everything has happened at once. Dad, my

injuries(2), my work, my mom, school all within 1 1/2 years. So much in

such a little amount of time. I will try to slow down. Last night I

couldn't sleep because as usual I could not shut my mind off. That is my

biggest problem, not thinking about it all at once and at all times. I

am trying, but things aren't easy, I have no-one. My husband works too

much for me to talk to him about all this, besides I don't want to add

any more on him. I have no friends any more. I guess I have to go now. I

am hurting.

Stella E.