Hi

[Guest guest]

Hi yep most of that was lost on for me celeberity slim because as it turns out im allergic to the optifast.

but for a long time befor my total liquard diet i was having the shakes 2x a day and a light meal at dinner to help get rid of as much as possiable.

in the end i lost about 12kg in those 3 weeks befor my op.

i know how hard it is to stick to it ecpesially when everyone around you is eating normal food.

but stick it out it is sooo worth it in the end

amanda

hiTo: SydBand@yahoogroups .comDate: Wednesday, July 2, 2008, 12:35 PM

hi to all of you my name is amanda and i just joined the group, so i thought that id tell you all a bit about myself.im 22 and had my surgery on the 23/6/08 so only just done..my start weight was 184kg and on my op day i was 166 so proud cos ive never been able to lose weight.i live with my folks and work in childcare.so thats a bit about meta amanda

Get the name you always wanted with the new y7mail email address.

[Guest guest]

Hi Sdenka, welcome, glad you found our group!

My son (now 22) had little " quirks " as I call them when younger but didn't

develop OCD until around age 11 1/2. And then, boy, 24/7 OCD with all this new

stuff that popped up!

A lot of people (children and adults) do start medication before therapy, you're

right that it can be easier to get that started first. However, many find they

still need that help from medication to do the therapy. It all depends on how

much in control the OCD is, how severe. There's just no right/wrong way to

begin, really, and then medication is such a personal choice.

Looking at the OCD Foundation website, it says the Prozac dosage for treating

OCD can range from 10 to 80mg/day. So I imagine you have some room to go up,

what dosage is your son taking now? Any downside to the Prozac yet? My son

was on Celexa (only one we had to try) and it did make him tired. I've read

from others that Prozac can be more activating.

Oh yeah, have to work ourselves on patience! OCD will make the rest of the

family stressed and feeling a bit near insane sometimes. We've passed the " mean

mom/dad " trophy around here for those days we " lose it " with our kids and OCD.

single mom, 3 sons

, 22, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers

>

> Hi, my name is Sdenka and I have a son(15) who was diagnosed with OCD this

past summer. Looking back now, it is clear to me that he has had OCD since he

was a toddler, it just never seemed to interfere with his life.  I guess it was

just mild enough that he could work around it.  Our family figured that he was

just picky about things.  This all changed however, last year during his first

year of high school.  Things got pretty severe.  He's started on prozac about 2

months ago and has just had his first appointment with a therapist that will

>

[Guest guest]

Hi

My son is on 40 mg right now so he can definitely go up. Our appt. with his

psychiatrist is this Tues., I'm not sure how he will feel about taking more

medicine, it took him a while to get comfortable with taking the 40mg. I haven't

really noticed the activating side-effect of the prozac. He just seems sad and

depressed:(

We pulled him out of school this year after 2 weeks of regular school, he was

going to an art school and was gone for about 11 hours a day, this was very hard

on him since he wasn't sleeping well at night and didn't eat anything all day

long. I'm not sure how we could have fit in therapy with the school schedule,

last semester he was taking 10 classes!

I hope we've made the right decision.

Thank you for your input and support.

Sdenka in CA

(15)

> >

> > Hi, my name is Sdenka and I have a son(15) who was diagnosed with OCD this

past summer. Looking back now, it is clear to me that he has had OCD since he

was a toddler, it just never seemed to interfere with his life.  I guess it was

just mild enough that he could work around it.  Our family figured that he was

just picky about things.  This all changed however, last year during his first

year of high school.  Things got pretty severe.  He's started on prozac about 2

months ago and has just had his first appointment with a therapist that will

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hello,

 

From one mom to another, just have hope, you are just at the start of it but it

will get better.  I am still struggling with  my 15 yr old son who was

diagnosed w/severe scrupulosity 5 mos ago.  On Prozac, just up to 80 mg last

month, we started with it first as well bec he was so severe, has not affected

therapy in any way.  In fact, prob made it easier to participate w/therapy

more, but does take a while to work.   We've (mostly he) have worked very hard

at ERP this summer w/an excellently qualified OCD therapist and has made great

improvements.  Because it's so tied into his core values, it is harder to

loosen  his relentless thoughts, but it is nice to see our son starting to

ermerge out of the tangles of OCD.  It takes A LOT of patience and acceptance

on mom/dad's  part,  understanding on the family's behalf, a great bunch of

supportive friends to help the rough spots, lots of prayer, and a great

therapist.   We finally found

someone who could help us, on our 4th attempt.  I'd get someone referred by

OCFoundation bec having the OCD understanding is key.    

We homeschool,  and have his whole life, so we have been able to make some

accomodations, but not many.  I expect as much as always of him, and have

enrolled him in classes this fall that he was not able to take late spring bec

the OCD made it impossible to deal w/crowds and other issues.   He is

distracted in school with his thoughts, still not totally back to 'normal', but

doing well, enjoys time w/friends again, and in fact, has been out the last 15

hrs on a 14 mile hike climbing a 9,000' mountain w/a few dads and some

friends. It helps to have him have something to aim for.  This has been his

goal all summer, and he's accomplished it.  We are proud of him trying so hard

in so many things,  ERP is very hard and little by little, we are getting him

back.   Really, after many, many restless nights, painful days, and a sense of

hopelessness for our future, I got a message that has helped me so far and I

will share it  with you:  " It

will get worse before it gets better....PERSEVERE! "    It did get worse once

we started ERP, and tho we still have a lot of work, it has DEFINITELY gotten

better.  

To:

Sent: Saturday, September 17, 2011 6:27 AM

Subject: HI

 

Hi, my name is Sdenka and I have a son(15) who was diagnosed with OCD this past

summer. Looking back now, it is clear to me that he has had OCD since he was a

toddler, it just never seemed to interfere with his life.  I guess it was just

mild enough that he could work around it.  Our family figured that he was just

picky about things.  This all changed however, last year during his first year

of high school.  Things got pretty severe.  He's started on prozac about 2

months ago and has just had his first appointment with a therapist that will

provide CBT and ERP.  As I've been reading about OCD, I've learned that I

should have started therapy first and medicine later if needed, but it was just

a lot easier to find a qualified pediatric psychiatrist than to find a

good therapist.  At this point the medicine doesn't seem to have helped at all.

 One of our biggest challenges is not getting frustrated with him for his OCD

behaviors.  This is something that we work on daily.

Sdenka

[Guest guest]

Perli, good to hear that your son's made progress. My son (22) also has scrupe.

Can you say what some of your son's therapy has consisted of that helped with

the thoughts? Is it more learning to ignore them or some exposures? My son

manages, somehow, fine, but I know it's still distressing to him. He also has

the problem with it being tied to his " core values " and doesn't want therapy,

wants to beat it on his own (sigh!). Any type exposures I've mentioned to him,

he's not interested in that so I was wondering if your son used exposures to

help.

He saw a therapist a few years ago, but not much progress was made. My son also

has Aspergers and we wondered if that affected him in ways that he just couldn't

" see " the OCD part. Back then he said he felt the OCD made the thoughts worse,

more constant/frequent, but that the thoughts were *his* so a bit of a roadblock

there.

Happy to hear your son is getting past some and improving, and enjoying things

again, like the hike!

>

> Hello,

>  

> From one mom to another, just have hope, you are just at the start of it but

it will get better.  I am still struggling with  my 15 yr old son who was

diagnosed w/severe scrupulosity 5 mos ago.  On Prozac, just up to 80 mg last

month, we started with it first as well bec he was so severe, has not affected

therapy in any way.  In fact, prob made it easier to participate w/therapy

more, but does take a while to work.   We've (mostly he) have worked very hard

at ERP

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone,

Here is a bit about me All my adult life, I have been unhappy with my shape.

I always felt overweight and wanted to lose 15 lbs. After having kids, (I'm the

mother of two young children- ages 2 and 4) I added another 35 to that.

I thought the extra weight was baby-related but as it hung on I realized it was

the result of over eating (mindlessly; for entertainment; for emotional

reasons). With the aid of a great book I ordered on-line, (Eat what you love,

love what you eat), i decided too eat only when hungry.

Well, just like said, it was fairly easy and painless, at least to lose

the first thirty pounds. It was a combo of away from and towards motivation:

away from still looking seven months pregnant and towards my old weight.

Now I am almost there, but have plateaued at pretty much the same size and shape

I've been my whole adult life. And, I just wonder, could I lose another twenty

and really be happy with myself?

With the help of a famous weight loss program, I did take those extra 15lbs off

eight years ago. It was hard to take off but when it dropped, it stayed off for

a year, until Christmas. And i felt soooo happy with my weight. Maybe I should

try the program just to tune in again to what my ideal calorie intake feels

like?

I wonder if anyone out there has experience getting to their destination size

and weight or wants to share their thoughts on it. I think one thing that holds

me back from it, is the thought that it would be too hard, or involve too much

deprivation.

I found the podcasts about one month ago and am really enjoying them. It's also

really nice to read the yahoo group emails as they come through my inbox.

Cheers,

Niki

Sent from my iPod

[Guest guest]

Dear Niki,

Welcome.

I really recommend the podcasts 25-27 in which talks about dealing with

plateaus. She emphasizes feeling good about them. Think about how much weight

you've already lost, which is amazing, and feel really good about being able to

maintain that loss. She talks a lot about how when you feel good, things align

so that more good will come. But if you feel worried, upset, frustrated,

panicky, etc, what you want gets blocked.

I'm also in a bit of a plateau, and I'm trying really hard to focus on how proud

of myself I am for releasing weight and changing my behaviors so effortlessly.

I'm also really trying to trust in the process and that with all the good

feelings, soon the extra pounds will be released.

I'm with you!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thanks for writing!

I just listened to episode 27 tonight! You are right, it is just perfect for

where I am at now

One thing mentioned that stuck out for me was when she was working with a

client a client that wanted to lose, I think it was five pounds at that point,

she suggested evaluating all her behaviours to see where she could tweak things

a little bit more. It made me think that although I have learned some new

skills, like the Pre-do and Re-do, there are still areas of my life that need a

little help.

For instance, the kids are in bed right now and I'm actually ready for bed too.

But instead I am reading magazines and eating cheese and crackers. And the first

plate was so good, I had to have another....

How about you? Where are you at in this journey?

Best,

Niki

Sent from my iPod

> Dear Niki,

>

> Welcome.

>

> I really recommend the podcasts 25-27 in which talks about dealing with

plateaus. She emphasizes feeling good about them. Think about how much weight

you've already lost, which is amazing, and feel really good about being able to

maintain that loss. She talks a lot about how when you feel good, things align

so that more good will come. But if you feel worried, upset, frustrated,

panicky, etc, what you want gets blocked.

>

> I'm also in a bit of a plateau, and I'm trying really hard to focus on how

proud of myself I am for releasing weight and changing my behaviors so

effortlessly. I'm also really trying to trust in the process and that with all

the good feelings, soon the extra pounds will be released.

>

> I'm with you!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Niki,

I just read your email and I thought you raised an issue that everyone might

struggle with...

You wrote...

For instance, the kids are in bed right now and I'm actually ready for bed too.

But instead I am reading magazines and eating cheese and crackers. And the first

plate was so good, I had to have another....

I just finished reading chapter 5 in 's book Full Filled, and she also

addresses this in the podcasts 7-8, I think on the Naturally Slender Eating

Strategy.

What I noticed in your post is that you might have been eating for the immediate

pleasure the cheese and crackers were giving you. But perhaps it might be good

to do a re-do in which you go through the seven steps in chapter 7. Are you

hungry? How will this food make you feel over time? Will you wake up tomorrow

glad you at another plate or regret it? 

The key for me has been to think past the immediate satisfaction I might get

from a food and choose the foods (only when I'm hungry) that will make me feel

great over time.

I know this takes practice and it's an extra step, but I have to say it's become

quite routine for me, and only in a short period of time.

Best,

[Guest guest]

Hi julie,

Thank you for your suggestions!

I feel like it is a lot easier for me to make the right decisions during the

day. At night, I'm super tired but I really want some " me-time " once the kids

are in bed (i'm a stay-st-home mom to two right now). So, instead of sleeping, I

stay up, reading, eating and hanging out with my husband.

Also, I don't think I enjoy my food that much through out the day as the kids

usually create a bit of chaos around meal times. So when I sit down at night to

eat, I think, oh this is going to be really good.

And, the kids are still up a few times at night, so I think if I eat before bed,

I won't be hungry and snacking when I get up for the kids' night wakings.

Lastly, I think eating at night gives me this window of time where I think I

tell myself, I am finally in control of my time. So I'm going to eat what I like

and read what I like etc...

I saw in one of your replies that you have kids too. I wondered if you (or

anyone else reading this if it gors sutomatically to the group ?) had any

thoughts or suggestions around eating when the kids aren't around.

Cheers,

Niki

Sent from my iPod

> Hi Niki,

>

> I just read your email and I thought you raised an issue that everyone might

struggle with...

>

> You wrote...

>

> For instance, the kids are in bed right now and I'm actually ready for bed

too. But instead I am reading magazines and eating cheese and crackers. And the

first plate was so good, I had to have another....

>

> I just finished reading chapter 5 in 's book Full Filled, and she also

addresses this in the podcasts 7-8, I think on the Naturally Slender Eating

Strategy.

>

> What I noticed in your post is that you might have been eating for the

immediate pleasure the cheese and crackers were giving you. But perhaps it might

be good to do a re-do in which you go through the seven steps in chapter 7. Are

you hungry? How will this food make you feel over time? Will you wake up

tomorrow glad you at another plate or regret it?

>

> The key for me has been to think past the immediate satisfaction I might get

from a food and choose the foods (only when I'm hungry) that will make me feel

great over time.

>

> I know this takes practice and it's an extra step, but I have to say it's

become quite routine for me, and only in a short period of time.

>

> Best,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Niki

I have two young children and am also a stay at home Mom and yes, night wakings

too.  Ugh!  And I dont reallly do that at night but I was really doing that a

few months ago and throughout the school year about an hour before they would

come home from school.  In retrospect and I even suspected at the time, was

anxiety surrounding the chaos of children, tiredness (the 3 o'clock dip in the

afternoon) and being in control and all that.  

I want to say I understand and really feel that a lot of my issue surrounds

control or lack thereof.  Or maybe my impression of not being in control...

So yes, you are not alone!

Thank you for sharing.

Lori

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, July 13, 2012 4:36 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Hi

 

Hi julie,

Thank you for your suggestions!

I feel like it is a lot easier for me to make the right decisions during the

day. At night, I'm super tired but I really want some " me-time " once the kids

are in bed (i'm a stay-st-home mom to two right now). So, instead of sleeping, I

stay up, reading, eating and hanging out with my husband.

Also, I don't think I enjoy my food that much through out the day as the kids

usually create a bit of chaos around meal times. So when I sit down at night to

eat, I think, oh this is going to be really good.

And, the kids are still up a few times at night, so I think if I eat before bed,

I won't be hungry and snacking when I get up for the kids' night wakings.

Lastly, I think eating at night gives me this window of time where I think I

tell myself, I am finally in control of my time. So I'm going to eat what I like

and read what I like etc...

I saw in one of your replies that you have kids too. I wondered if you (or

anyone else reading this if it gors sutomatically to the group ?) had any

thoughts or suggestions around eating when the kids aren't around.

Cheers,

Niki

Sent from my iPod

> Hi Niki,

>

> I just read your email and I thought you raised an issue that everyone might

struggle with...

>

> You wrote...

>

> For instance, the kids are in bed right now and I'm actually ready for bed

too. But instead I am reading magazines and eating cheese and crackers. And the

first plate was so good, I had to have another....

>

> I just finished reading chapter 5 in 's book Full Filled, and she also

addresses this in the podcasts 7-8, I think on the Naturally Slender Eating

Strategy.

>

> What I noticed in your post is that you might have been eating for the

immediate pleasure the cheese and crackers were giving you. But perhaps it might

be good to do a re-do in which you go through the seven steps in chapter 7. Are

you hungry? How will this food make you feel over time? Will you wake up

tomorrow glad you at another plate or regret it?

>

> The key for me has been to think past the immediate satisfaction I might get

from a food and choose the foods (only when I'm hungry) that will make me feel

great over time.

>

> I know this takes practice and it's an extra step, but I have to say it's

become quite routine for me, and only in a short period of time.

>

> Best,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Niki,

Yes, I do have a daughter, and though she is 8, she still wakes me at night

sometimes!!

And up until I began IOWL, I always used food when I was tired, stressed, or

needed a break! I'm not a stay at home mom, I'm a teacher, but evenings also

really caused me trouble. I often found myself standing at the freezer, eating

nuts (I keep them in the freezer for extra crunch), until I was completely sick!

Cashews were my vice of choice and I had binges a few nights/week. I was

exhausted and just wanted a break, but instead of resting, I'd stand at the

freezer eating.

Forgive the long post, but another thing that would happen after my

binges, besides me feeling sick and really mad at myself, was that I'd

not be able to sleep. I'd then lash out at my daughter and husband. The

next day, full of self-loathing, I'd have no patience, get irritated so

easily, etc.

What I can say is that I always, always felt so awful after the binges, and

after 20 years of struggling, something has shifted. 's idea to think about

pleasure over time, really stuck with me. Maybe I was just finally ready to take

it in, maybe after 20 years of a few steps forward, a few steps back, I was

ready to keep moving forward. I'm not sure.

But I can completely empathize with what you are struggling with at night!

Again, I found that the podcasts on the eating strategy and chapter 5 were very

helpful in this regard. Now, after dinner, I really don't have the urge to do

anything but move on because I'm thinking about how I'll feel in the morning, in

a week, etc. And I'm choosing foods and behaviors that will make me (and thus my

family) happy over time.

I hope this helps, and I'm not trying to sound cavalier. I am just so thrilled

to have found 's teachings because really, once I was able and ready to

take them in and apply them, something truly shifted.

Warmly,

[Guest guest]

Lori

>

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " insideoutweightloss "

<insideoutweightloss >

> Sent: Friday, July 13, 2012 4:36 PM

> Subject: Re: Re: Hi

>

>

>  

> Hi julie,

>

> Thank you for your suggestions!

>

> I feel like it is a lot easier for me to make the right decisions during the

day. At night, I'm super tired but I really want some " me-time " once the kids

are in bed (i'm a stay-st-home mom to two right now). So, instead of sleeping, I

stay up, reading, eating and hanging out with my husband.

>

> Also, I don't think I enjoy my food that much through out the day as the kids

usually create a bit of chaos around meal times. So when I sit down at night to

eat, I think, oh this is going to be really good.

>

> And, the kids are still up a few times at night, so I think if I eat before

bed, I won't be hungry and snacking when I get up for the kids' night wakings.

Lastly, I think eating at night gives me this window of time where I think I

tell myself, I am finally in control of my time. So I'm going to eat what I like

and read what I like etc...

>

> I saw in one of your replies that you have kids too. I wondered if you (or

anyone else reading this if it gors sutomatically to the group ?) had any

thoughts or suggestions around eating when the kids aren't around.

>

> Cheers,

> Niki

Hi Niki,

My daughter is 10 ( & very healthy!), and-despite what many books say- we rarely

eat together or the same foods. We keep our house stocked with foods we each

like(with a few guidelines concerning nutrition). During the day we eat when

hungry instead of at set meal times(though a schedule has emerged). For dinner,

I usually make my daughter something that she likes then, once she's settled, I

make myself( & my husband) something we like. When she is done, she goes to play

while my husband & I finish our dinner together(mini-date!). I think kids are

natural grazers and that sitting still at a table is difficult for them-a

perfect recipe for meal time chaos! Whatever you try, I wish you lots of luck!

Melody

[Guest guest]

Hi julie,

I am excited to hear how much the podcasts have helped you! I feel like they

have really helped me too, and there are still some area I need to work on. But

I'm only at podcast 30, so lots of opportunity still to learn and grow with the

IOWL episodes

I think I have the opposite problem to the one you described where you overheat

and then lash out at your husband and daughter. I think I have a problem in

prioritizing self-care and so when I feel I give too much to my family, I want

to lash out but instead I overeat. I'm making positive changes in that for the

last month I do make it a priority to exercise.

I can completely relate to this, when you said,

" i was exhausted and just wanted a break, but instead of resting, I'd stand at

the freezer eating. "

That was a big problem for me and I think that a lot of the weight came off when

I realized that solution didn't help

Sent from my iPod

> Hi Niki,

>

> Yes, I do have a daughter, and though she is 8, she still wakes me at night

sometimes!!

>

> And up until I began IOWL, I always used food when I was tired, stressed, or

needed a break! I'm not a stay at home mom, I'm a teacher, but evenings also

really caused me trouble. I often found myself standing at the freezer, eating

nuts (I keep them in the freezer for extra crunch), until I was completely sick!

Cashews were my vice of choice and I had binges a few nights/week. I was

exhausted and just wanted a break, but instead of resting, I'd stand at the

freezer eating.

>

> Forgive the long post, but another thing that would happen after my

> binges, besides me feeling sick and really mad at myself, was that I'd

> not be able to sleep. I'd then lash out at my daughter and husband. The

> next day, full of self-loathing, I'd have no patience, get irritated so

> easily, etc.

>

> What I can say is that I always, always felt so awful after the binges, and

after 20 years of struggling, something has shifted. 's idea to think about

pleasure over time, really stuck with me. Maybe I was just finally ready to take

it in, maybe after 20 years of a few steps forward, a few steps back, I was

ready to keep moving forward. I'm not sure.

>

> But I can completely empathize with what you are struggling with at night!

>

> Again, I found that the podcasts on the eating strategy and chapter 5 were

very helpful in this regard. Now, after dinner, I really don't have the urge to

do anything but move on because I'm thinking about how I'll feel in the morning,

in a week, etc. And I'm choosing foods and behaviors that will make me (and thus

my family) happy over time.

>

> I hope this helps, and I'm not trying to sound cavalier. I am just so thrilled

to have found 's teachings because really, once I was able and ready to

take them in and apply them, something truly shifted.

>

> Warmly,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oops! It's so hard to type on this little iPod- i just sent you a half-composed

email by accident! Sorry!

Anyways, I'm really pleased for you that things have really shifted!

I think I'm getting closer too, or at least understanding more about how

different patterns of thinking are affecting my eating habits.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Niki

Sent from my iPod

> Hi Niki,

>

> Yes, I do have a daughter, and though she is 8, she still wakes me at night

sometimes!!

>

> And up until I began IOWL, I always used food when I was tired, stressed, or

needed a break! I'm not a stay at home mom, I'm a teacher, but evenings also

really caused me trouble. I often found myself standing at the freezer, eating

nuts (I keep them in the freezer for extra crunch), until I was completely sick!

Cashews were my vice of choice and I had binges a few nights/week. I was

exhausted and just wanted a break, but instead of resting, I'd stand at the

freezer eating.

>

> Forgive the long post, but another thing that would happen after my

> binges, besides me feeling sick and really mad at myself, was that I'd

> not be able to sleep. I'd then lash out at my daughter and husband. The

> next day, full of self-loathing, I'd have no patience, get irritated so

> easily, etc.

>

> What I can say is that I always, always felt so awful after the binges, and

after 20 years of struggling, something has shifted. 's idea to think about

pleasure over time, really stuck with me. Maybe I was just finally ready to take

it in, maybe after 20 years of a few steps forward, a few steps back, I was

ready to keep moving forward. I'm not sure.

>

> But I can completely empathize with what you are struggling with at night!

>

> Again, I found that the podcasts on the eating strategy and chapter 5 were

very helpful in this regard. Now, after dinner, I really don't have the urge to

do anything but move on because I'm thinking about how I'll feel in the morning,

in a week, etc. And I'm choosing foods and behaviors that will make me (and thus

my family) happy over time.

>

> I hope this helps, and I'm not trying to sound cavalier. I am just so thrilled

to have found 's teachings because really, once I was able and ready to

take them in and apply them, something truly shifted.

>

> Warmly,

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi melody,

I love your suggestions! I was thinking about what you said tonight at dinner

time and decided not to make too much of a fuss about the kids eating with us.

They eat mostly the same as we do, but don't seem to be hungry at dinner time.

So, I enjoyed my supper, my one year old sat with my husband for a change and

the four year old played and ate a little later. Unfortunately, I still

over-ate, but I'll keep working on that piece.

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> > Hi julie,

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> > Thank you for your suggestions!

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> > I feel like it is a lot easier for me to make the right decisions during the

day. At night, I'm super tired but I really want some " me-time " once the kids

are in bed (i'm a stay-st-home mom to two right now). So, instead of sleeping, I

stay up, reading, eating and hanging out with my husband.

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> > Also, I don't think I enjoy my food that much through out the day as the

kids usually create a bit of chaos around meal times. So when I sit down at

night to eat, I think, oh this is going to be really good.

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> > And, the kids are still up a few times at night, so I think if I eat before

bed, I won't be hungry and snacking when I get up for the kids' night wakings.

Lastly, I think eating at night gives me this window of time where I think I

tell myself, I am finally in control of my time. So I'm going to eat what I like

and read what I like etc...

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> > I saw in one of your replies that you have kids too. I wondered if you (or

anyone else reading this if it gors sutomatically to the group ?) had any

thoughts or suggestions around eating when the kids aren't around.

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> > Cheers,

> > Niki

> Hi Niki,

> My daughter is 10 ( & very healthy!), and-despite what many books say- we

rarely eat together or the same foods. We keep our house stocked with foods we

each like(with a few guidelines concerning nutrition). During the day we eat

when hungry instead of at set meal times(though a schedule has emerged). For

dinner, I usually make my daughter something that she likes then, once she's

settled, I make myself( & my husband) something we like. When she is done, she

goes to play while my husband & I finish our dinner together(mini-date!). I

think kids are natural grazers and that sitting still at a table is difficult

for them-a perfect recipe for meal time chaos! Whatever you try, I wish you lots

of luck!

> Melody

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[Guest guest]

Hi Niki and everyone,

I'm glad that the podcasts are starting to help you shift as well.

You hit on a key issue, that how we think really affects how we treat ourselves

and as you shift your thinking patterns, your desire to treat yourself

differently will also occur. Or at least it really has for me.

Right now I'm working on sending unconditional love to parts of my body that I

would love to see change...no easy task for me, but certainly the feelings of

loathing I used to send to them didn't help either.

This is my new intention for now.

Best,