Re: Newbie.

[Guest guest]

> Hello, all!

>

> My name is Krissy. I've just recently started listening to the podcasts and

have found them very helpful. I figured I'd just drop in with a post and tell

everyone a little bit about myself.

>

Welcome, Krissy!

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[Guest guest]

Krissy,

 

Welcome.  Please be careful.  You do not have a weight issue.  You are not

overweight.  It is our society that is odd and the modeling business that is

crazy.  I would hate to see someone basically so healthy and ovbiously

beautiful get an eating disorder.  Letting your weight fall and engaging in

eating disordered behavior (fasting and over exercising) can to developing and

eating disorder and at that point you begin to lose a lot of control over your

own behaviors - it can be deadly.  Please put your health first and your career

second.  Good Luck to you.

  Livingston

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Monday, April 30, 2012 11:27 AM

Subject: Newbie.

 

Hello, all!

My name is Krissy. I've just recently started listening to the podcasts and have

found them very helpful. I figured I'd just drop in with a post and tell

everyone a little bit about myself.

I'm 22 years old, 5' 9 1/2, " and 133 lbs. I work out every day -- for at least

an hour in the morning, and then I fit in at least an hour of cardio at another

time during the day (usually walking or aerobics).

About three months ago now, I was offered a modeling contract in New York City.

The only problem? I have to get my hips, which are currently 37 inches, down to

35 inches. I'm currently a 32-24-37.

Before I was offered the contact three months ago, I was a 38 inch hip -- mostly

because I would run seven miles a day which had made my thighs overly muscular

-- which is not desirable for the modeling world (they like their girls to have

stick legs, of course).

I stopped running so much and changed my work-out routine to lifting weights and

interval training -- which has decreased the size of my leg muscles and helped

me burn fat. I look slimmer, but I haven't really lost weight because muscle

weighs more than fat. I'm okay with whatever my weight is, it's just the inches

that are getting in the way of me achieving my goal.

In the process, I've become obsessed with food. I've done a lot of soul

searching and realized that I started overeating when I went away to college for

two years; I was under a lot of stress and wasn't paying attention to my eating

habits at all. I would just run off the calories and maintain a normal weight.

Now, I've graduated, the stress is gone, but I've built up the bad habit of over

eating and it needs to be mended so I can be happier and more in touch with my

body.

Now that modeling and keeping my body in tip-top shape is an issue, I have to

watch what I eat meticulously -- which has lead to stress, and binging, and

fasting. For the past week I have been walking so much that my calves have

started to feel splintered because I feel so bad about the binges.

My overall goal is to cut grains and sugars out of my diet in the future.

Essentially, I want to become a successful follower of the Paleo diet because

after doing a lot of research, it seems like the healthiest and most sensible

eating plan to my way of life.

But anyway, that's a little bit about me. I'm glad this group exists and I'm

glad I finally got the courage to join and share my story.

Thanks for taking the time to read or skim this. Happy Monday to all of you!

- Krissy

[Guest guest]

,

Not to worry; I know that the modeling industry has outrageous standards and

believe me, I've heard the horror stories. I'm lucky enough to have gone to

college, gotten an education, and am not quite so easily influenced by the

agencies and their ridiculous rules as other girls are. Many of them start out

at only 15! I can't even imagine the psychological problems they develop.

Actually, when I was first " discovered " (I feel so lame using that word, haha)

my agent told me that it should only take me a month to lose three whole inches

around my hips! I was a 135 lbs. I lost an inch easily the first month (when I

dropped two lbs. of fat by changing my work out and reducing junk food), but now

it's considerably slowed down and the past two months have been snailing along.

I realized how full of crap my agent was; he's 40 lbs. overweight and unhealthy,

and he was telling me how long it was going to take for me lose my hips.

I had to check in with myself and ask: Why am I listening to him? He just wants

to make money off of me. He has no idea what he's talking about. He was just

trying to push me so that he could start making money. If we wants me to be a

model, he can get over it and wait until I reach my goal in the healthy way.

So, after realizing he wasn't the best person to trust when it came to weight

loss, I decided to do my own research into food, focus on being 100 percent

healthy, and I found 's podcast. I don't want to be anorexic or bulimic,

and if being a 35 inch hip means I can only eat once a week -- then forget it.

This is more so an experiment for me: can I get to a 35 and do it in a healthy

way? Can I be happy with what I'm eating and not obsess over exercise and the

foods I put in my mouth and still be a model? Can I make all healthy choices

because it makes me feel good?

I think I can -- with the help of and all of you in this group, of course.

Thanks for caring, though, . Really. It means a lot.

- Krissy

>

> Krissy,

Welcome.  Please be careful.  You do not have a weight issue.  You are not

overweight.  It is our society that is odd and the modeling business that is

crazy.  I would hate to see someone basically so healthy and ovbiously

beautiful get an eating disorder.  Letting your weight fall and engaging in

eating disordered behavior (fasting and over exercising) can to developing and

eating disorder and at that point you begin to lose a lot of control over your

own behaviors - it can be deadly.  Please put your health first and your career

second.  Good Luck to you.

  Livingston

[Guest guest]

Where do I begin? When I first read your post, I have to admit I want to say

WTF???? But I restrained myself because really I believe big or small the issues

are the same.

There are many reasons why I wanted to stand up and shout while I read your

post. Instead I will go straight in to the point that I can identify with.

Over the years I have had a few friends that were size 1 or 0. They had similar

problems with food. It just did not manifest the problems that being overweight

can manifest. Underneath it all- bulimia, anorexia and overeating have many

commonalities. But you may find some people who are overweight such as myself at

300 pounds could be completely thrown by someone your size asking if they could

understand your predicament.

If I knew you, my advice to you would be to do what you feel is right in your

heart as far as how to treat your body.

As far as being obsessed about food, I cant help but think of that moment in

's podcasts where she said, " Dont think of a blue elephant with pink polka

dots... (whatever colors were involved, I dont remember). And of course, as the

listener, your mind automatically goes to the image you are told not to think

of.

As far as modeling and all, the industry and what not, I will keep my opinions

to myself.

I wish the best for you in your search to find inner peace. We are surely all

working towards that.

>

> Hello, all!

>

> My name is Krissy. I've just recently started listening to the podcasts and

have found them very helpful. I figured I'd just drop in with a post and tell

everyone a little bit about myself.

>

> I'm 22 years old, 5' 9 1/2, " and 133 lbs. I work out every day -- for at least

an hour in the morning, and then I fit in at least an hour of cardio at another

time during the day (usually walking or aerobics).

>

> About three months ago now, I was offered a modeling contract in New York

City. The only problem? I have to get my hips, which are currently 37 inches,

down to 35 inches. I'm currently a 32-24-37.

>

> Before I was offered the contact three months ago, I was a 38 inch hip --

mostly because I would run seven miles a day which had made my thighs overly

muscular -- which is not desirable for the modeling world (they like their girls

to have stick legs, of course).

>

> I stopped running so much and changed my work-out routine to lifting weights

and interval training -- which has decreased the size of my leg muscles and

helped me burn fat. I look slimmer, but I haven't really lost weight because

muscle weighs more than fat. I'm okay with whatever my weight is, it's just the

inches that are getting in the way of me achieving my goal.

>

> In the process, I've become obsessed with food. I've done a lot of soul

searching and realized that I started overeating when I went away to college for

two years; I was under a lot of stress and wasn't paying attention to my eating

habits at all. I would just run off the calories and maintain a normal weight.

Now, I've graduated, the stress is gone, but I've built up the bad habit of over

eating and it needs to be mended so I can be happier and more in touch with my

body.

>

> Now that modeling and keeping my body in tip-top shape is an issue, I have to

watch what I eat meticulously -- which has lead to stress, and binging, and

fasting. For the past week I have been walking so much that my calves have

started to feel splintered because I feel so bad about the binges.

>

> My overall goal is to cut grains and sugars out of my diet in the future.

Essentially, I want to become a successful follower of the Paleo diet because

after doing a lot of research, it seems like the healthiest and most sensible

eating plan to my way of life.

>

> But anyway, that's a little bit about me. I'm glad this group exists and I'm

glad I finally got the courage to join and share my story.

>

> Thanks for taking the time to read or skim this. Happy Monday to all of you!

>

> - Krissy

>

[Guest guest]

Lori,

I know my case isn't particularly conventional; I know I'm not overweight, and

I'm glad you didn't stand up and shout at me. ;p I'm glad you referenced the

elephant talks about because it's very helpful; have you seen the

documentary she mentions called " The Secret? " It's really a wonderful movie if

you've got the time or Netflix. I actually saw the movie before I started

listening to the podcasts. It changed a lot about how I viewed other parts of my

life (but for some reason, I didn't think to apply it to my eating habits, le

sigh).

Over the past three months, I've come up with a theory: models are so insecure

and hateful of their bodies because they look at themselves too much. They

over-think everything. The first month, I would measure myself every day --

obsessing over the inches. I would sit in front of my mirror and cry, because

the people around me didn't understand that for someone like me, it would be

hard to lose weight as fast as someone who had more fat on his/her body. My

parents and my agent and friends and even my grandma would ask me once a week,

at least: " WELL, are you a 35 yet? Hm? " This, of course, is the average

environment that models live in every day, and most of them probably aren't very

self-reflexive; they only see what they're told to see.

In the second month of my journey, I decided that I would only look at my body

in the mirror and measure myself ONCE every THREE days, and I've been trying to

stick to that (though I've had a few moments of obsessive weakness). I look in

the mirror to check my face, of course (I can't be walking around with broccoli

in my teeth, haha), but that's all.

By not obsessing, I feel better about myself and there's less guilt. Also, I

threw out my outrageous expectations that I was supposed to see a change every

day. That was crazy!

I want to share with you a quote from Albert Camus that is helpful to me:

" An intellectual is someone whose mind watches itself. "

When it comes to eating, I think to myself:

" Okay, Krissy. You graduated with a 4.0. You learned that in order to get

anywhere close to an A on your papers, rationality was key. Why can't food be a

rational experience too? Why can't you justify why you're eating the way you're

eating? Oh, that's right -- because there's not enough clear support for your

actions. "

That USUALLY helps and has worked many times. Of course, there are other times

where my brain just shuts down and I gobble everything up; appetite takes over.

It might be a good tool for you, or anyone else in this group, though? If you

wanted to try it out?

Anyway, thanks so much for responding and welcoming me into the group with your

words. It means a lot.

- Krissy

>

> Where do I begin? When I first read your post, I have to admit I want to say

WTF???? But I restrained myself because really I believe big or small the issues

are the same.

>

> There are many reasons why I wanted to stand up and shout while I read your

post. Instead I will go straight in to the point that I can identify with.

>

> Over the years I have had a few friends that were size 1 or 0. They had

similar problems with food. It just did not manifest the problems that being

overweight can manifest. Underneath it all- bulimia, anorexia and overeating

have many commonalities. But you may find some people who are overweight such as

myself at 300 pounds could be completely thrown by someone your size asking if

they could understand your predicament.

>

> If I knew you, my advice to you would be to do what you feel is right in your

heart as far as how to treat your body.

>

> As far as being obsessed about food, I cant help but think of that moment in

's podcasts where she said, " Dont think of a blue elephant with pink polka

dots... (whatever colors were involved, I dont remember). And of course, as the

listener, your mind automatically goes to the image you are told not to think

of.

>

> As far as modeling and all, the industry and what not, I will keep my opinions

to myself.

>

> I wish the best for you in your search to find inner peace. We are surely all

working towards that.

[Guest guest]

,

That's actually a really positive spin to put on it. Thanks for the suggestion.

I know that sometimes we as people forget that stigmas can be attached to words

like " experiment " or " try. " " Intend " makes it so much more definite. I'm going

to do this! I INTEND to.

Thanks for the support,

Krissy

>

> Hi Krissy:

>

> I am so impressed with you! Congratulations on getting this

> opportunity and having a great attitude about it!!

>

> Try changing the word experiment to intend and so how that feels for

> you. " I INTEND to get to a 35 and do it in a healthy way, " " I INTEND

> to be happy with what I'm eating and CHOOSE not to obsess over

> exercise and the foods I put in my mouth as I pursue my modeling

> career, " etc. My favorite always is to say I INTEND TO RELAX AND

> HAVE FUN WITH THIS!!

>

> YOU ROCK!!

>

> Love,

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Krissy,

It's a good thing to look for peace and balance now..

I know a few fitness models and they all eat low carb to lean out.. when

it's comp or photo shoot time, they go uber low carb and stop drinking

fluids to show off their cut muscles.

Doesn't sound like much fun to me... But then again, my extra 50 lbs

isn't always a ball of fun either. hehe.

Welcome aboard!

Corinna

[Guest guest]

Corinna,

I actually thought about being a fitness model; it might be easier than being a

runway or fashion model; at least when you're a fitness model, you can basically

eat as much as you want of all the right things. Of course, this is an organic

process for me.

If I do the right kinds of exercises so I don't have such a big ol' butt, haha,

then I might be able to do the real fashion thing.

Ugh.

I wish the modeling world had a place for " average " sized girls. It's either

pencil thin or plus size... and I'm right in between.

Darn.

Anyway, thanks for the welcome!

- Krissy

>

> Hi Krissy,

>

> It's a good thing to look for peace and balance now..

>

> I know a few fitness models and they all eat low carb to lean out.. when

> it's comp or photo shoot time, they go uber low carb and stop drinking

> fluids to show off their cut muscles.

>

> Doesn't sound like much fun to me... But then again, my extra 50 lbs

> isn't always a ball of fun either. hehe.

>

> Welcome aboard!

> Corinna

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

The thing about my agent is that he's a talent manager -- meaning he knows a

bunch of people at modeling agencies in NY and other countries. He's been in the

business for 30 years. He would be making money off of me by getting me signed

with a good agency, so he wants to make sure that he doesn't rope me into a deal

that isn't going to benefit both of us.

He explained to me that now, more than ever, they're insane about weight and

measurements. I'm not sure if I want to model if I can't get in with a top

agency, because then I might not get that much work or make ANY money at all.

Modeling, for me, would be a side job. And if I have that side job, I want to be

guaranteed a paycheck, haha.

It's complicated.

And thanks for the advice -- my mom was telling me to measure myself every day!

(I don't have the most supportive home environment...) I thought that was the

norm, and that every three days was really waiting a long time between

measurements. It's good to get another perspective.

Also, thanks for the support. I'm trying to be fabulous; I just gotta nix this

little food obsession I have. I can do it! With the help of you guys.

Love,

Krissy

>

> Hi Krissy,

>

> There's a huge margin of error when measuring. If you aren't in EXACTLY the

same place at EXACTLY the same angle, you can be off by a lot. That's why it's

usually not recommended to measure more than once a MONTH. So keep that in mind

if you're not seeing the results you expect.

>

> I wonder... If this agent thinks you'd be great " if only " , what if you shop

around for an agent who thinks you're amazing NOW? You could do this while still

working towards that 35, if you want, but it's a way of putting out to the

Universe that you know you're already fabulous.

>

> Good luck!

>