Re: Mothers vs Eating

[Guest guest]

I hear you Kelley. I think our mothers pass on all their issues to us. It's

good to find your triggers though, then you can start to move past them. I

found that confrontation is my biggest one. I spent most of my life trying

to please everyone in fear of confrontation. I thought I wouldn't be liked

any more if I didn't do what they wanted. I am finally learning to move

past it.

Good luck with your journey. Kris

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> At age 52 who would think an argument with my mother could be the catalyst

> for hitting the biscuit jar.

> It bugs me so much that my emotions can change me from a positive person

> trying to release weight to a big fatso in the corner munching on biscuits.

> Ughhh i hate this

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[Guest guest]

I absolutely hear you! Mothers have a way of pushing buttons you didn't even

know you had ... and I say this as both a daughter and a mother myself. At one

point after my daughter was born I had the thought that I should keep a journal

of all the times I did or said something that would challenge her so she'd have

a guide book for later in life ... maybe it's not to late to start! :-)

Seriously though, the great news is that you recognize that you were triggered.

That in and of itself is huge. Now you can be thankful that you recognized it,

and start asking yourself what the trigger is trying to tell you. Also, you can

ask yourself what positive intention do you have in eating the biscuits after

talking to your mom ... it must give you something good ... what is is?

For me, stressful conversations with family members make me want comfort and

reassurance. Lately I've been trying (mind you trying is the key word here) to

explicitly give myself comfort with sweatpants, a good book, and a hot cup of

tea. Usually I feel better over the course of a couple of hours with that set up

then the box of cookies that beacons me. Sometimes like you I still go for the

cookies.

You're not alone!

-Amy

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> At age 52 who would think an argument with my mother could be the catalyst for

hitting the biscuit jar.

> It bugs me so much that my emotions can change me from a positive person

trying to release weight to a big fatso in the corner munching on biscuits.

Ughhh i hate this

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[Guest guest]

I had the same thing happen this week due to stress from some hurtful things my

son said. Onward!

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Sent: Thursday, April 5, 2012 8:21 PM

Subject: Mothers vs Eating

 

At age 52 who would think an argument with my mother could be the catalyst for

hitting the biscuit jar.

It bugs me so much that my emotions can change me from a positive person trying

to release weight to a big fatso in the corner munching on biscuits. Ughhh i

hate this