Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Separating Self-Worth * Behavior

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Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Separating Self-Worth & Behavior "

Whether you are raising kids or trying to improve your own self-esteem, the

relationship between who you are and what you do is important. Whether you

are a parent, grandparent, or simply trying to build your own self-esteem,

it is important to realize that we need to separate our sense of self-worth

from our behavior.

Imagine this scene: A three-year-old asks repeatedly, " Mama, do you love

me? " Each time, Mom answers, " Of course I do. " Then the child takes her

hand and leads her to a broken flowerpot or shattered toy and looks at her

questioningly.

Here is a little child, on this earth only three short years, already asking

one of the most profound psychological questions any of us can ask: " Is my

ability to be loved tied to what I do? Am I the same as my behavior? " The

answer for all of us, no matter how old we are, should be the same, " No,

indeed! "

The importance of this point can't be overemphasized. To increase

self-worth, it is vital that we respond to behavior while remaining friendly

and respectful toward the person. This means that when a child misbehaves, we

don't call him a " bad boy. " And when a child does what we want her to, we don't

say, " What a good girl! " Instead, we praise the behavior and hug the child.

The same goes for how we treat ourselves. Remember that you are not simply

what you do any more than you are what you wear.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

Blessings,

Charlene

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