Peace-Love recipe

[Guest guest]

Fold two hands together,

And express a dash of sorrow.

Marinate it overnight,

And work on it tomorrow.

Chop one grudge in tiny pieces,

Add several cups of love.

Dredge with a large sized smile,

Mix with the ingredients above.

Dissolve the hate within you,

By doing a good deed.

Cut in and help your friend,

If he/she should be in need.

Stir in laughter, love and kindness,

>From the heart it has to come.

Toss with genuine forgiveness,

And give your friends some.

The amount of people served,

Will depend on you.

It can serve the whole wide world.

If you really want it to!

When you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere

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Hi Joni:

How I so understand your feelings of anger and hurt as I

recall myself in the same position and doing the exact same

thing as you, trying to accommodate and please everyone.

I feel you can accommmodate to a certain point but then

you have to draw a line somewhere. I had learned that over

the years. You certainly will never please everyone.

The advice of setting a time and sticking to it is good,

depending on how many people are attending, who you

really would like to be there and for less stress for you.

If their time is too off then I would say, I'm sorry you will miss

the meal but we will be glad to have you for the desert.

If people choose they are not able to attend the meal then

they will always be able to be there after and still share in the

celebration of your daughters birthday day.

You should be able to enjoy this event yourself so you do

have to, do the best you can, thats all you can do, let go of

the resentment, breathe, let go of the anger, breathe.

Those feelings will increase your stress and you don't want

or need that.

We can't change people but we can change the way we act

and think to make us happier and less stressed.

I hope you have a very Happy Easter Day!

Hugs

Thanks for this posting. I needed it today. I'm very

angry right now because I feel slighted by my inlaws.

I am hosting Easter dinner, and have had more excuses

on why people have to come late and leave early than

I'd care to imagine. I'm stressing myself out trying

to accommodate everyone and have had several people

tell me that I need to just set a time and stick to

it. THere's always the microwave.

It is hurtful because it is also my daughter's 18th

birthday, so I was hoping to share the celebration

with her grandmother and aunts. It is also hurtful

because it is the first Easter without my dad, which

no one seems to recall except for me.

But I know that if I hold on to this resentment it

will only ruin the day even further, so thanks for

this reminder.

Joni

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[Guest guest]

I'm also glad you wrote your feelings. It may also have

helped others with the same issues.

You now have a plan, your staying with it..good for you.

I feel it will be less stress for all.

Let me know how the day turned out.

Hugs

Thanks, . I have decided to stick with 2:00 for

dinner and have disposable plates available so

latecomers can microwave their meals. (My good china

has a gold rim so they can't nuke it - Ha!)

I may or may not just cancel the stuffed breads I

ordered as an appetizer since there will be very

little time before dinner and very few people here at

that time. Or I can always freeze them for another

time.

I've never had any trouble getting rid of desserts

before, especially not with two teenagers in the

house, so I suspect that will be a no-brainer. :-)

I am glad I said what I felt though, maybe it will

make some people think twice about how their actions

impact others. Or maybe not. . .

Joni