Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Handling Setbacks

[Guest guest]

Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Handling Setbacks "

Today, let's talk about how to handle those inevitable setbacks that occur,

from time to time, in your quest to be a better human being.

If you are a regular receiver of the Winner's Circle, you know I talk quite

a bit about affirmations because they are a wonderful way to help people

change for the better. (Now, affirmations are just emotionally charged,

present-tense statements describing a desired end-result.) For example, an

affirmation you could make if you want to be a more loving person is, " I

really enjoy treating all people with respect and courtesy in every possible

circumstance. "

So what happens, then, when you are driving to work and another driver cuts

you off, glaring at you as if you had no right to be on the road in the

first place? And you have responded by making a very disrespectful gesture,

calling out an extremely discourteous name - and then feeling terribly

guilty. Do you give up in disgust and say, " Well, obviously, affirmations

don't work, so why bother? "

Not at all! You see, before your made your affirmation, you probably wouldn'

t have even noticed your disrespectful behavior as being anything unusual.

But because of your affirmation - your promise to yourself - you were

instantly and uncomfortably aware that this isn't how you want to behave.

You say to yourself, " That's the old me talking. The next time, I intend to

respond courteously, no matter how much I'm provoked! "

And you keep affirming it and visualizing it - day after day, and time after

time - until the new behavior becomes second nature, and you no longer

remember being any other way. And, it just might make driving to work a

little more pleasant!

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

Blessings,

Charlene

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