; -- Nada's letter over-reacting!

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Hi :

My Nada isn't as articulate as yours, but she somehow manages to dig

in just as deeply with the hurt!

I'm so sorry that your Nada is over-reacting this way! She reminds

me of my brother recently -- the one I banned from my e-mail.

BPD all the way!

I'm sorry at the stress she's putting you through! ((()))

Barb

> a tee shirt that say's " I'VE BEEN DISINHERITED! " (smiles) here is

> my latest nada letter...thought i would share...it's doozy. all i

> did was try to set a boundary for MYSELF and figure out a way for

> the two of us to be together at christmas(aka; i asked her spend

> christmas with me at a mutual family members house) i probably

> should not have gone to effort, huh?

>

> nada says:

> You cannot make my choices for me nor set/demand my boundaries as I

> cannot make them for you. nor do I ever wish to do so. You are

> making decisions that makes you and your family losers of a love

> one. Your daughter appreciates and adores her Granny as I do her.

> One day your decisions now will take root with you as a Mother, and

> I wish that you could be spared the pain.

>

> Also, you have because of your actions been removed from the dotted

> line of one more document that you were added as a second person.

> Now, you have absolutely no say so about anything in my life. I

> can't imagine your being responsible for my well-being or bestowing

> kindnesses in my old age. Can't do it now at all.

>

> By the way why doesn't (your daughter) have the little green

> learning frog that I sent on her birthday? She would like to

> know...when she asks me...I do not wish to tell her that her Mother

> threw it away. Also, I just bought their Christmas this morning. I

> have never asked or expected any help from you.

>

> I've had cancer surgery...Where were you? I've had a

> historectomy...Where were you? I was the only one at Mother's

> bedside when she passed away. Where were you? I walked across the

> stage for my Ph.D. as a senior citizen...Where were you? If I can

> be in your life adhering to your boundaries and convenience with me

> going all the mile, then I can meet your conditional love standards.

>

> My love for you...a Mother's and Grandmother's love...has no

> boundaries and no conditions. I also have many sightseeing

> gifts from everywhere I go for the children from their Granny. What

> you abhor in me...(your daughter) loves.

> I love you, Mother

>

> WHOOSH!!! i sure am glad she loves me...i was worried there for a

> minute!!! ha ha!

> laura

> nevele