Welcome Jeff and - we never think in terms of being the one

September 2, 2003

making the decision for our parents but it becomes a role reversal

that is necessary in many cases. Our Neuro suggested that we try to

push 's liquids during the day and limit after 6 PM. I wonder if

since it's your father if a urinal would be of help or a bedside

potty. That's what we used with my mother after she had amputation.

It's just easier to swing from bed to chair on side.

Unfortunately your story is all too familiar. They are definitely

going to need help. And as the old story goes good help is hard to

find. I don't remember if you said where you are located but the

local Senior Citizens or Alz. Assoc. can give you guidance for

available programs. Some are supported thru United Way others

government funding. The monthly income was the criteria for 's

situation. It took me a year to come to the decision to have the Day

Care person come talk to her AFTER I finally talked to them. She

goes up to 4 days a week. They pick her up at 9:30 and drop her off

at 3:00 give or take 15 min either way. It gives her an opportunity

to be with others and activity. I attempt to work full time in my

home office and as long as she could still read large print and

watch TV or putter we coped fine but she's now past that ability.

I try to take her to the store a couple times a week but recently I

can't let her look on her own because she goes too far away then

thinks we've gone out to truck. I try to let her think she's on her

own when she says she wants to look on her own but I trail at a

discreet distance.

Someone as live in would be ideal. We found a wonderful woman when

my Mom needed help who had been having problems and needed help

getting established again. We provided room, board and paid her a

reasonable amount. We provided cash for her to purchase food etc and

just had her keep receipts. We also gave her use of Moms vehicle.

When mom died she was as overwhelmed as we were. One other thing I

was told if you look for a facility make certain they are geared to

handle AD and other Senior Dementias. There is a problem making them

understand LBD but I was told the experience of AD makes them more

flexible.

Sandy (OH)

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