Guest guest Posted November 6, 2002 Report Share Posted November 6, 2002 Hi : I love what you say to your husband when he uses verbal abuse! That is terrific! Yes, I say the same type of thing -- except I still fall into the trap of starting to fight tit for tat! I am going to think of you next time, and try to be cool headed! Wish me luck! Barb > Kim, > > Your husband sounds so much like my husband. These are the same things he says to me. Almost to the word. > > I had a book that defines verbal abuse. This does fit. The book I had was red and the first name of the author was . This book really helped me learn what to say when my husband started putting me down verbally. Most of the time now I state calmly that " I feel this is verbal abuse, when you are ready to discuss the issue let me know. " I have 2 teenage boys and I don't want them growing up thinking it is acceptable to talk to women like that. I want it made very clear that there are more effective means of talking that don't include manipulations through put downs or attacking. > > I wish I could remember the author of that book. I can't find it right now. My husband probably threw it away because he was tired of hearing me quote it. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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