Re: Nada's message to my b/f

[Guest guest]

Truer BPD-words couldn't have been spoken from the mouth of anyone!

She's in total denial, there's no validation for your feelings or point

of view, and everything's about her, her, her! She isn't getting her

way, so she's taking her little red wagon and going to IL. A temper

tantrum to the max. And the best way to handle a temper tantrum is to

leave the room!

You're doing great, . Stay strong!

SmileS!

Carol

wrote:

> But here is part of the

> conversation, names changed except for mine:)

>

> Nada: has blocked out email from me. Don't want her to be

> able to say I didn't notify her that we were leaving for Illinois

>

> boyfriend: oh IL huh/

>

> Nada: yes not allowed to see my daughters or grandchildren, so am

> leaving here. it will be easier on everyone

>

> boyfriend: its cold up there

>

> Nada: It is cold here too. Very Very Cold. It is called Family

> need to go, so no more can be held against me

>

> Boyfriend: be safe and have a nice trip

>

> Nada: Be glad when the men in the family can stand up and be men

> good bye J

>

> boyfriend: bye tell Jack hey (Jack aka-step-guy)

>

> Nada: Jack has nothing to say to any of you, and I don't either

> now

>

> Nada: good bye

> Boyfriend: ok bye

[Guest guest]

sounds like my nada ...She even cons my im address out of my nephew and

then spies to see when I am home..Unfortunately these are so easy to

change....Poor Nada she will needs to go find somene else to bug and spy

on..Yours sound sjust like mine...

Nada's message to my b/f

Last night I had signed on with my b/f's screen name on the

computer. I don't know what I was doing, but I know that I had told

him that I had done that--he was in the living room. Anyway, while

on line with his screen name, he got an instant message.

I asked him if he knew this screen name, he said no. I replied with

hi. Then the reply was: " Is this J? this is 's mom " I was like

oh man, now I'm busted. It was too late to pretend I (or he) didn't

get the message and sign off. I asked him what he would say. So

basically, he talked, I typed and she thought it was him. It was

him, his words anyway. I thought it might be interesting to see if

this sounds like a real nada to everyone! But here is part of the

conversation, names changed except for mine:)

Nada: has blocked out email from me. Don't want her to be

able to say I didn't notify her that we were leaving for Illinois

boyfriend: oh IL huh/

Nada: yes not allowed to see my daughters or grandchildren, so am

leaving here. it will be easier on everyone

boyfriend: its cold up there

Nada: It is cold here too. Very Very Cold. It is called Family need

to go, so no more can be held against me

Boyfriend: be safe and have a nice trip

Nada: Be glad when the men in the family can stand up and be men

good bye J

boyfriend: bye tell Jack hey (Jack aka-step-guy)

Nada: Jack has nothing to say to any of you, and I don't either now

Nada: good bye

Boyfriend: ok bye

[Guest guest]

Aw, poor, misunderstood Nada, and step-guy certainly is falling for it,

isn't he? Good luck, ! Good for your b/f to not get involved and

keep his ground.

Petra (mailto:Petra@...)

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> Truer BPD-words couldn't have been spoken from the mouth of anyone!

> She's in total denial, there's no validation for your feelings or

point

> of view, and everything's about her, her, her! She isn't getting

her

> way, so she's taking her little red wagon and going to IL. A temper

> tantrum to the max. And the best way to handle a temper tantrum is

to

> leave the room!

>

> You're doing great, . Stay strong!

>

> SmileS!

> Carol

Carol,

Thanks! I hadn't even thought about her not validating my feelings

and didn't even really think about how it was all about her! I just

knew it was same old nada and it made me have all the usual feelings,

guilt, confusion, anger, sadness.... What would I be doing without

this group? Thank you so much for the validation and support, it

really is helping me to keep my head on a little straighter.

[Guest guest]

sounds like my nada ...She even cons my im address

out of my nephew and then spies to see when I am home..Unfortunately

these are so easy to change....Poor Nada she will needs to go find

somene else to bug and spy on..Yours sound sjust like mine...

,

My sincere sympathy for having one of these computer stalker nadas.

Mine does this too. She even has a " bad buddy list " I am not

kidding! She puts my fada's screen name on it and now probably mine

too! haha I blocked her though, so now she doesn't " see " me on her

list. That's why she grabbed b/f so quickly! My nada has been known

to do drive bys whenever she is spying on someone. She thinks she is

a secret agent or something. If she were more computer savvy, we

would all be in some trouble!! haha --btw, did I ever mention

that my first name is ? is my middle name, I've always

used it because I'm named after my grandma who was called or

Annie--that is where I got Anyrae, anyway is a nice name

[Guest guest]

> >>My middle name is . I use Hania because that's what my great-

grandma called me as a child. She was NOT BP. Too bad she died

while I was 7. Things may have been different had she lived.

>

> Hania

Cool middle name Hania is a really pretty name too.

My maternal grandma died when I was 7 also. Don't think she had BPD,

(co-dependant possibly) she always seemed nice to me, I know she used

to hold me on her lap even when I was older. I really loved her. My

paternal grandmother died a few years before I was born, that is how

I got her name.

I do think my maternal great-grandmother had BPD though..My nada

always says that she could relate to her. Everyone always said

that " Nellie " was mean and a little crazy. So from what I gather,

that is the same thing nada thinks people say about her. But she

always used to tell me that she admired her because she never took

any crap.. That was my nada's father's mom. He was abusive to his

children too, maybe he had BPD. One thing is for sure, this is one

giant ball of dysfunction of a family! I am glad to get away and

break that cycle!

[Guest guest]

> Nada: Be glad when the men in the family can stand up and be men

> good bye J

>

> boyfriend: bye tell Jack hey (Jack aka-step-guy)

> Nada: Jack has nothing to say to any of you, and I don't

> either now

> Nada: good bye

Thanks for posting this. I was looking at this, and read it to my

partner - we were saying, this is like Carol (my sister), well,

not really, but it is. She wouldn't say exactly the same things, but

the same intent is there, to tell you how evil you are, push your

buttons, chew everybody a new orifice, and make absolutely sure you

know that she hates you. It made my stomach clench to read it, and

she's not even my mother!

It's just creepy to know someone who harbors that much emnity, you

know?

[Guest guest]

She wouldn't say exactly the same things, but

> the same intent is there, to tell you how evil you are, push your

> buttons, chew everybody a new orifice, and make absolutely sure you

> know that she hates you. It made my stomach clench to read it, and

> she's not even my mother!

>

> It's just creepy to know someone who harbors that much emnity, you

> know?

>

>

Hi ,

Yes, it is creepy! She's not even that angry right now either, she

gets much more cold and hateful sounding. The part that bothers me

the most isn't that it is towards me, I feel sad that she has to have

these horrible feelings inside of her. That can't be healthy.. Maybe

she will feel better farther away!

[Guest guest]

Hi :

These BPD's never give up do they? Oh, well, I think things will

really improve for you and your sister now that she is moving.

Good luck and keep in touch!

Barb

> Last night I had signed on with my b/f's screen name on the

> computer. I don't know what I was doing, but I know that I had

told

>