Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - The If Only Syndrome

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Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " The If Only Syndrome "

Have you ever heard of the " if only " syndrome? Today, I'll tell you what it is

and how to avoid it.

Do you know anyone with the " if only " syndrome? Maybe you have a touch of it

yourself. People with this syndrome blame others for their disappointments and

failures. They blame their families ( " Nobody could succeed with the parents I

have " ); their friends ( " If only my so-called friends would come through for me

once in a while " ); their circumstances ( " It's obvious that the deck is stacked

against me " ); and their complaints frequently start with the words " if only. "

" If only I had more money. If only I had paid more attention in school. If only

I was better looking, a different race, a

different age, " and so on.

They stumble through life feeling anxious or depressed, dreaming of unlikely

events that will transform them magically, through little or no effort of their

own. And because they envy others, it's hard for them to feel any genuine

pleasure in anyone else's successes.

But the cure for the " if only " syndrome is to take responsibility for your own

life once and for all. Give up blame and learn to hope. Give up faultfinding and

learn to set achievable goals. Give up thinking about what you would do if you

won the lottery and figure out what you can do with the 50 bucks you have

instead.

By the way, the magic of taking responsibility for your failures is that when

you do, you also take control of your success.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

Blessings,

Charlene

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