Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Supporting Change

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Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Supporting Change "

A good rule to remember when it comes to relationships is, " What you see is

what you get. "

If we want to form lasting relationships with others, we must start by being

happy with who they are. It is courting disaster when you bring thoughtless,

abusive, or angry people into your life assuming that under your influence

they will change.

You see, what's likely to happen is you will change your behavior to

accommodate them, rather than the other way around. The point I want to make

is that change is not something we can force on other people.

If, in major ways, the people in our lives are not what we think they should

be, nagging them or manipulations designed to get them to change is not the

way to go. Change will never happen if we are certain we are always right,

or if we believe that the fault lies always with the other person.

Perhaps if we were to allow them the dignity of being who they are without

our criticism, we might find change happening naturally of its own accord.

One thing is certain. When we give up blaming and criticizing our spouses

and others we love, our relationships with them improve enormously.

So does their self-esteem and feelings of competence. You see, we can help

others to change, and support their own change efforts, but it's just not

helpful to try to choose their direction for them.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

" TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more

effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

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Blessings,

Charlene

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