Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Demanding Attention

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Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Demanding Attention "

When your children crave attention, do they throw a tantrum, misbehave or

act out inappropriately? If so, perhaps you can show them a better way.

You know, children want many things that they don't usually ask for

directly. In that way, they're no different from adults. Two things in

particular that we all seem to need, but seldom come right out and ask for,

are recognition and affection.

Now, kids who receive plenty of each from the start usually grow up to be

happy, well adjusted, confident, and well behaved. Kids who don't get much

of either, though, will get very creative. They may try throwing tantrums,

and if this succeeds in creating the attention they need, they may grow up

believing that when you don't get what you want, becoming very angry will do

the trick.

Many children misbehave to get attention - not consciously, as a rule, but

they do it, nevertheless, because even negative attention is better than no

attention at all. If neither tantrums nor acting out works, they may

eventually stop trying at all, becoming withdrawn, listless and apathetic.

The thing to do, then, if you want to eliminate these problems or avoid them

in the first place, is to give your kids plenty of attention and affection

when they're behaving well.

Let them know that it's OK to ask for what they want. It's OK to ask for a

hug or to say, " please pay attention to me for a few minutes. " When they do

ask, take time to give it to them. You'll be avoiding many future problems -

not only for your kids, but also for you.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

" TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more

effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

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Blessings,

Charlene

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