Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Shame and Self-Esteem

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Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Shame and Self-Esteem "

There is a strong, direct relationship between low self-esteem and shame.

Today, let's explore this relationship.

We all experience shame from time to time, that horrible sinking feeling

that strikes at the very center of our being and launches a fundamental

assault on our self-esteem.

Shame truly does have a damaging effect on the development of healthy

self-esteem. Perhaps the most important step we can take to rid the world of

this malignant emotion is to avoid raising another generation of shame-based

people.

Psychologist once wrote in the Atlantic Monthly, " A child's

experience of being someone who counts, comes in large part from the

parents' capacity to empathetically tune into that child. "

That means allowing children to feel what they feel and responding to them

in a reasonable way. It means getting rid of perfectionism, blame, and

attempts at constant control. And it means understanding that children have

a right to their own thoughts, perceptions and feelings, and a right to make

their own choices, within reason, even when they are different from ours.

If we want to raise healthy kids who are free from unhealthy shame, the need

to feel free to be themselves, without fear, is vital. Children need parents

and grandparents who love them and appreciate them just the way they are,

while setting reasonable limits and keeping them safe from harm.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

Blessings,

Charlene

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