Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 Hi Debbie, from your neighbor in Iowa, I love the program Attacking Anxiety by Lucinda Bassett, http://www stresscenter.com/cts/21348130 it's about $300 but I found it free online, using limewire, http://www.limewire.com/english/content/home.shtml and it really works. If you would like to discuss it further, you can write to me off the list. Love, Sherry -- NEW PERSON HERE My name is Debbie. I live in Wisconsin. I am having problems with a verbally and emotionally abusive husband. We have been married 31 years. He became abusive when he got out of the military in 1985. Why don't I leave? That little word " Hope " Hope he will realize what he is doing and change. Change never came. I am wondering, How do I love myself? I am depressed. Having anxiety problems. I can't seem to get out of the whirlpool I'm in. I have had it hounded into me since childhood that I'm not good enough and I have a great anxiety of failing. How do I take back my life? How do I set boundaries? I read I should set boundaries for myself to keep my husband from hurting me. Can anyone throw me a Lifesaver here? Debbie in WI http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AffirmationstoDe-Stress A positive thinking, positive affirmations support group, discussing ways to cope with the stresses of daily life. Come aboard! PJ and Gang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 Hi Debbie, from your neighbor in Iowa, I love the program Attacking Anxiety by Lucinda Bassett, http://www stresscenter.com/cts/21348130 it's about $300 but I found it free online, using limewire, http://www.limewire.com/english/content/home.shtml and it really works. If you would like to discuss it further, you can write to me off the list. Love, Sherry -- NEW PERSON HERE My name is Debbie. I live in Wisconsin. I am having problems with a verbally and emotionally abusive husband. We have been married 31 years. He became abusive when he got out of the military in 1985. Why don't I leave? That little word " Hope " Hope he will realize what he is doing and change. Change never came. I am wondering, How do I love myself? I am depressed. Having anxiety problems. I can't seem to get out of the whirlpool I'm in. I have had it hounded into me since childhood that I'm not good enough and I have a great anxiety of failing. How do I take back my life? How do I set boundaries? I read I should set boundaries for myself to keep my husband from hurting me. Can anyone throw me a Lifesaver here? Debbie in WI http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AffirmationstoDe-Stress A positive thinking, positive affirmations support group, discussing ways to cope with the stresses of daily life. Come aboard! PJ and Gang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 Sherry, I didn't know you lived in Iowa too! :+D I live down near Ottumwa right now but am moving to Iowa City next month. Hugs, " All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by frost. " The Fellowship of the Ring (`*·.¸(`*·.¸¸.·*´)¸.·*´) «´¨`·. LINDA .`» (¸.·'´(¸.·'´'·.¸)`' ·. ¸) __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 LOL and HI !!!!!!!!!!! I am in Davenport, I would love to meet you, I am a big Dyer junkie, I help moderate a couple of Dyer groups, but I don't have any real live friends who like him, just my online buddies, so if you get this way, you have to come over for coffee or something, we'll find plenty to gab about. Good luck with the move! Love, Sherry -- Re: NEW PERSON HERE Sherry, I didn't know you lived in Iowa too! :+D I live down near Ottumwa right now but am moving to Iowa City next month. Hugs, " All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by frost. " The Fellowship of the Ring (`*·.¸(`*·.¸¸.·*´)¸.·*´) «´¨`·. LINDA .`» (¸.·'´(¸.·'´'·.¸)`' ·. ¸) __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 As soon as Bill and I get settled into our new place in Iowa City, you and I will have to get together and gab!!!!! I LOVE Wayne Dyer and believe in his books and tapes! He is awesome! Am really looking forward to meeting you! We are going to have so much fun! Hugs and hugs, --- Sherry wrote: > LOL and HI !!!!!!!!!!! > > I am in Davenport, I would love to meet you, I am a > big Dyer junkie, I help > moderate a couple of Dyer groups, but I don't have > any real live friends who > like him, just my online buddies, so if you get this > way, you have to come > over for coffee or something, we'll find plenty to > gab about. > > Good luck with the move! > Love, > Sherry > > -- Re: NEW PERSON > HERE > > Sherry, I didn't know you lived in Iowa too! :+D I > live down near Ottumwa right now but am moving to > Iowa City next month. > > Hugs, > > > > > > > " All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those > who wander are lost; The > old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are > not reached by frost. " > The Fellowship of the Ring > > > (`*·.¸(`*·.¸¸.·*´)¸.·*´) > > > > «´¨`·. LINDA .`» > > > > (¸.·'´(¸.·'´'·.¸)`' ·. ¸) > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2005 Report Share Posted June 18, 2005 Cool ! I look forward to meeting you too! Love, Sherry -- Re: NEW PERSON > HERE > > Sherry, I didn't know you lived in Iowa too! :+D I > live down near Ottumwa right now but am moving to > Iowa City next month. > > Hugs, > > > > > > > " All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those > who wander are lost; The > old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are > not reached by frost. " > The Fellowship of the Ring > > > (`*·.¸(`*·.¸¸.·*´)¸.·*´) > > > > «´¨`·. LINDA .`» > > > > (¸.·'´(¸.·'´'·.¸)`' ·. ¸) > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2005 Report Share Posted June 19, 2005 Hi Debbie, I'm so glad you joined our wonderful group!! After reading your email I immediately thought of something that PJ sent to the group a long time ago - so I went back to the archives and found it so I could include it here for you. All my life I've felt that I'm not good enough or just plain " not enough " for any situation, no matter what it was. This writing by Louise Hay changed my life - I realize now that I AM ENOUGH. And about getting out of the whirlpool you're in - the first thing I do when I'm feeling like I'm in a whirlpool or a downward spiral is just STOP. I stop trying and fighting so hard to get out, cause the harder I fight the worse things seem to get! I mainly get quiet for a couple of days and just rest. I throw my hands up in the air and tell God and the Universe that " I let go of the situations that are causing trouble in my life. " I let the waters settle. Then I get mad and start fighting again. But by then, I'm the one in control - and I've had time to think - and I'm not just dragging myself down further. Debbie, I wish I could give you a great big hug! I'm so glad you're here!! The writing by Louise Hay is below and I hope it helps. Blessings, ***************************************** " Being Enough " Written by Louise L. Hay " I am perfect exactly as I am " " I am neither too much nor too little. I do not have to prove to anyone or anything who I am. I have come to know that I am the perfect expression of the Oneness of Life. In the infinity of Life I have been many identities, each one a perfect expression for that particular lifetime. I am content to be who and what I am at this time. I do not yearn to be like someone else for that is not the expression I chose this time. Next time I will be different. I am perfect as I am, right here and right now. I am sufficient. I am one with all of Life. There is no need to struggle to be better. All I need to do is to love myself more today than yesterday and to treat myself as someone who is deeply loved. As I am cherished by myself, I will blossom with a joy and beauty that I can barely begin to comprehend. Love is the nourishment that humans need to fulfill their greatness. As I learn to love myself more, I learn to love everyone more. Together we lovingly nourish an ever more beautiful world. We are all healed and the planet is healed too. With joy I recognize my perfection and the perfection of Life. And so it is. " " If we wait until we become perfect before we love ourselves we will waste our lives. We are already perfect right here and right now. " Copyright 1990. " Heart Thoughts " (book) Written by Louise L. Hay, published by Hay House Inc. In a message dated 6/18/2005 6:15:09 PM Central Daylight Time, pieone@... writes: My name is Debbie. I live in Wisconsin. I am having problems with a verbally and emotionally abusive husband. We have been married 31 years. He became abusive when he got out of the military in 1985. Why don't I leave? That little word " Hope " Hope he will realize what he is doing and change. Change never came. I am wondering, How do I love myself? I am depressed. Having anxiety problems. I can't seem to get out of the whirlpool I'm in. I have had it hounded into me since childhood that I'm not good enough and I have a great anxiety of failing. How do I take back my life? How do I set boundaries? I read I should set boundaries for myself to keep my husband from hurting me. Can anyone throw me a Lifesaver here? Debbie in WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 Hi Debbie, Have you read any of Melody Beattie's books? She wrote " Codependent No More " and " Beyond Codependency " plus several others with daily meditations/thoughts. Her books were very helpful to me when I found my moods being controlled by how my husband was acting. Two of the most important things I learned were boundary-setting and detaching. You'll also learn more about how to love yourself. Joni --- Debbie wrote: > My name is Debbie. I live in Wisconsin. I am having > problems with a > verbally and emotionally abusive husband. We have > been married 31 > years. He became abusive when he got out of the > military in 1985. Why > don't I leave? That little word " Hope " Hope he will > realize what he is > doing and change. Change never came. > I am wondering, How do I love myself? I am > depressed. Having anxiety > problems. I can't seem to get out of the whirlpool > I'm in. I have had > it hounded into me since childhood that I'm not good > enough and I have > a great anxiety of failing. > How do I take back my life? How do I set > boundaries? I read I should > set boundaries for myself to keep my husband from > hurting me. > Can anyone throw me a Lifesaver here? Debbie in > WI > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2005 Report Share Posted June 20, 2005 I also highly recommend Melody Beattie's books & still have to re-read them from time to time! They are very helpful. Hugs, PJ Joni wrote:Hi Debbie, Have you read any of Melody Beattie's books? She wrote " Codependent No More " and " Beyond Codependency " plus several others with daily meditations/thoughts. Her books were very helpful to me when I found my moods being controlled by how my husband was acting. Two of the most important things I learned were boundary-setting and detaching. You'll also learn more about how to love yourself. Joni --- Debbie wrote: > My name is Debbie. I live in Wisconsin. I am having > problems with a > verbally and emotionally abusive husband. We have > been married 31 > years. He became abusive when he got out of the > military in 1985. Why > don't I leave? That little word " Hope " Hope he will > realize what he is > doing and change. Change never came. > I am wondering, How do I love myself? I am > depressed. Having anxiety > problems. I can't seem to get out of the whirlpool > I'm in. I have had > it hounded into me since childhood that I'm not good > enough and I have > a great anxiety of failing. > How do I take back my life? How do I set > boundaries? I read I should > set boundaries for myself to keep my husband from > hurting me. > Can anyone throw me a Lifesaver here? Debbie in > WI > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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