Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Significant Others

[Guest guest]

Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Significant Others "

Do you ever feel that the people who are closest to you are the ones who

resist the most as you try to change for the better? Sometimes, when we are

committed to personal growth and change, family members or others who are

close to us will do everything they can to try and get us to change back to

the way we were - even when the way we were wasn't so great.

Did you ever wonder why that might be? Well, for one thing, when people are

used to their lives being a certain way, any change - even when it is an

improvement - can be threatening. It is also fairly common for people who

are stuck in negative habits to have a hard time tolerating others who are

making positive efforts toward change.

If you can convince your family to join you in your quest for personal

growth, you will all have an easier time of it. You can support each other

through the tough times and give each other encouragement and approval as

you begin to see results. If you have to go through it alone, though, let

your " significant others " in on what you are trying to do, and tell them how

positive results will benefit them as well as you. Paint them a vivid word

picture of what the end-result will look like, and ask for their help in

achieving it.

If you don't get that help, be patient. It may take time to convince them

that you are serious, and that you intend to stay close to them even though

you are changing. If it ever comes down to the difficult choice between

continuing a painful relationship and developing yourself as a person,

remember that you always have the right to choose growth without guilt.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

Blessings,

Charlene

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