Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Focus on the Positive

[Guest guest]

Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Focus on the Positive "

Positive thinking is certainly a powerful thing, but positive expression is

equally important. Many people, especially marriage partners and parents of

small children, seem to believe that the best way to get somebody to change

for the better is to consistently point out to them what they are doing

wrong.

These authority figures criticize, day in and day out. Eventually the people

they are talking to become frustrated and often start to feel angry, because

they see that nothing they say has any positive effect, and sometimes things

even get worse.

Has this ever happened to you? If so, there's a principle of cognitive

psychology that I teach in my seminars you'll want to know about. It's

simply this: we move toward and become like that which we think about. And

we automatically behave in ways that match the image we have of our

capabilities and ourselves.

When you focus on what's going wrong, you tend to experience more of the

problem. And when you focus on the solution, you move toward it, as surely

as day follows night.

So instead of telling folks what they're doing wrong, why not tell them what

they're doing right? Instead of telling them what the problem is, why not

tell them what the solution looks like and how it will benefit them

personally?

And while you're at it, why not tell them how much you enjoy and appreciate

the thoughtful or bright or funny things they say and do. Remember the

behavior that you focus on and praise tends to be repeated.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

" TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more

effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

Blessings,

Charlene

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