Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Should or Could

[Guest guest]

Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Should or Could? "

How many things are there in your life that you really should be doing? If

you made a list of them, how long would it be? Let's talk about the

" shoulds " in your life.

If you made a list of all the things you think you should be doing, how long

would your list be? It could look like, " I should lose weight. I should be

nicer to my sister. I should find myself a better job. I should read a lot

more. "

Why don't you try making such a list? And when you're done, for each item on

the list, ask yourself the question, " Why should I? " The answers you come up

with will tell you something very important about the beliefs you hold. You

may have answers like, " Because everybody has to. Because so and so wouldn't

like it if I didn't. Because I'm too fat or too lazy or too stupid. "

Now, what if you took every " should " on your list and changed the language

to substitute the words, " If I really wanted to, I could . . . " For example

" I should lose weight " would change to, " If I really wanted to, I could lose

weight. " Notice how when you do this, things suddenly start to seem much

more possible?

You may find that you really don't want to do some of them and you may have

to confront your fears when it comes to doing others. Using " could " instead

of " should " immediately takes the pressure off, too. It helps you take

accountability and control and it also helps you avoid the subconscious

rebellion that goes on whenever you hear the words, " You should. "

Try it for yourself and see what happens.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

" TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more

effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

Blessings,

Charlene

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